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to think that dh has a secret facebook and that must mean the worst?

133 replies

hidinginoblivion · 16/02/2014 18:07

I deleted my FB account a few months (permanently deleted it) and today I decided to create a new one, out of boredom/interest etc.

I started adding people I know when a mutual friend came up - dh. The mutual friends I had in common are his two close friends and his brother. DH already has an account, one which I was friends with before and re-added. This is an entirely separate one - he is using a shortened version of his name and the profile photo is a very recent one. I can't see anything else as it's private.

I can see his main one with all friends and family etc. I asked my friend to have a look on her account and I sent her the link and it just comes up with page missing.

aibu to think the worst? dh is currently working away and ... I don't want to ask him because it would be all too easy to delete.

OP posts:
Icelollycraving · 16/02/2014 20:32

I suspect he's simply blocked you though. Pm his name & I'll see if I can see his page.

harriet247 · 16/02/2014 20:37

Not looking good :(

SomewhatSilly · 16/02/2014 20:41

DH has one personal and one for his hobby. I'm not friends with the hobby account, as I'm confident I would have no interest whatsoever in anything posted.

m0nkeynuts · 16/02/2014 20:42

Oh dear. I was expecting a simple explanation when I read the OP, but this doesn't sound promising at all now.

ateddybearfromdelaware1 · 16/02/2014 20:42

Ah I wouldn't have added him at all. Now if something dodgy was going on you'll never know as he can make up anything.

I would've waited for him to return then corner him and make him log in infront of me.
Nowhere to hide.

BrunoBrookesDinedAlone · 16/02/2014 20:43

Well, now that it's 'in the open' so to speak, I'd be texting again letting him know that I had a screenshot, that I expected to be able to see that account on his return and to hear a good explanation of why he had a secret account, and that deleting anything prior me bring able to see it would basically unleash WW3.

Oh and yes get a MNer to search him - sounds like he's blocked you.

MrCabDriver · 16/02/2014 20:44

Doesn't sound good that it's now disappeared... anyone that could log in to theirs and check for you?

He must have 2 email addresses to have 2 Facebook accounts .... do you have access to any?

NoArmaniNoPunani · 16/02/2014 20:45

Is there an innocent explanation for blocking your wife from your FB profile and then ignoring her texts? I can't think of one.

VelmaD · 16/02/2014 20:46

Ah, friend requesting and it disapearing is not a good sign. Sorry op :-(

MamaPingu · 16/02/2014 20:46

When will you next see him?

Surely he'll be acting strange if this has happened and he has blocked you!

AnUnearthlyChild · 16/02/2014 20:46

I don't think it is necessarily dodgy.

I am seriously considering 2 accounst, one for promotions and competitions and shit.

LEMmingaround · 16/02/2014 20:49

Is it actually a secret though - could it be that he has opened a new account because his old one was hacked? I did this last year, thought i had deleted my old account but it still existed and i logged into it by mistake and it re-activated it, so i have two accounts but only use one. If you have not been on fb recently he could have just forgot to tell you? Also, i used to play scrabble online, i know lots of people used to have accounts that they used just to play on so that they didn't have to give away personal details etc.

WeAreDetective · 16/02/2014 20:50

Ummm. Has he replied yet?

coffeeinbed · 16/02/2014 20:50

But why would he block OP?

phantomnamechanger · 16/02/2014 20:53

blocking/ignoring OP texts is not looking good

harriet247 · 16/02/2014 20:54

Seems like he is panicking if he can use his phone to block and delete but not reply to the OP. I hope he can explain :(

JapaneseMargaret · 16/02/2014 20:54

His reaction now officially makes this look suspicious. It may well be entirely innocent, but the way he is dealing with it makes it look suspicious as hell.

Badly played on his part, and I'd be wanting a solid explanation.

AwfulMaureen · 16/02/2014 20:56

Did the account dissapear completely when you requested OP? Are you certain?

onedev · 16/02/2014 20:58

That's rotten Op - hope you hear from him soon & it's all above board.

EverythingCounts · 16/02/2014 21:00

Agree that recent events don't look promising. Did you see who else he had as friends on this new account, OP? Can you now get someone he won't recognise (maybe someone on here or a friend who he doesn't know) to check if it's still there?

mrselizabethdarcy · 16/02/2014 21:03

Has he been in touch yet ?

Hissy · 16/02/2014 21:04

He blocked you after you send t fb request?

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StolenShortcake · 16/02/2014 21:05

AnEarthly That's against the TOC's of most competitions, and you won't be awarded with any prizes that you win if your account is deemed "Fake". It's easy to tell a real one from a fake one.

It's also against the TOC's of Facebook to have two accounts.

Do you know the email address that he would have used for a second account? Try logging into that, if you can. Even if he's deleted the whole page, it would reactivate if you could log in.

I'm sorry, OP.

Coconutty · 16/02/2014 21:14

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VivaLeBeaver · 16/02/2014 21:21

Doesn't look great.

Saying that I've blocked dh on fb and I'm not up to anything dodgy. I just have no need to be friends on fb with him when I live in the same house as him.