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To be surprised at the lack of food?

111 replies

NightCircus · 14/02/2014 17:09

Friend held a 50th birthday party at a social club type place.
It was from 7-12.
Band and disco.
Came with gift and bought own drinks.

Beforehand we had wondered if it would be a sausage roll/ sandwich buffet or maybe a vat of chilli or curry.
But there was no food at all! A number of guests were in their 70s.

AIBU to be surprised and think there should really have been something to eat?

OP posts:
trashcanjunkie · 14/02/2014 17:12

YABU and a bit odd Hmm

crypes · 14/02/2014 17:13

Depressing really.

Elderberri · 14/02/2014 17:13

YANBU WTF. I would not stir out of doors for a party that had NO food.

Joysmum · 14/02/2014 17:14

??? It may be common but that doesn't mean it has to be so. What a strange thing to think Confused

Original poster
NightCircus · 14/02/2014 17:14

Why odd? What an odd response!

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Katiepoes · 14/02/2014 17:14

Some snacks at least would be normal - in Ireland you'd for sure have some food at such a party. YANBU.

SergeantJarhead · 14/02/2014 17:17

YANBU. Very odd in my part of Wales. You must have all been utterly legless!!!

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NightCircus · 14/02/2014 17:17

That's what I thought.
If it had been from 8.30 most people would have eaten before. I think the 7 o'clock start makes me assume there would be something to eat.
Even just some sandwich platters and crisps would have been nice.

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irregularegular · 14/02/2014 17:18

I don't think you're unreasonable! I'd be taken by surprise if an event started at 7pm and didn't serve any food. What grown up eats dinner before 7pm? I'd have probably gently enquired whether I should eat before, but I'd have been surprised to be told there was no food at all.

On the other hand an 8pm start could go either way.

JRmumma · 14/02/2014 17:20

Were there any nibbles?

I'm with you in that id have been surprised to find there wasn't any food, but I wouldn't be particularly put out by it as i would have eaten first.

I get annoyed by people who turn up at do's and tuck right in to the buffet because they haven't had dinner. You should never go expecting a meal.

glasgowsteven · 14/02/2014 17:21

eating at 5 pm for dinner and 8 again...no need

YABU

GoldenGytha · 14/02/2014 17:27

I'd be surprised at a party that had no food at all provided, even one starting at 8pm,

I don't mean a fancy meal, but just the usual sandwiches/pork pies/crisps sort of nibbles.

irregular I eat my tea (never dinner) long before 7pm! I think 7pm is very late to be eating.

shewhowines · 14/02/2014 17:29

I think they should have specified on the invite that there would be no food. Most people would assume that there would be something.

LingDiLong · 14/02/2014 17:29

Yes, I'd be surprised too! Food at a party is fairly standard, especially at that time. I must have missed the law that passed stating that we were all supposed to eat at 5pm!

Onesleeptillwembley · 14/02/2014 17:31

That sounds really shit and miserable. Yanbu.

Thurlow · 14/02/2014 17:34

YANBU. Doesn't need to be anything exciting at all but for a 5 hour party I'd expect something to be available, even if it was just packets of crisps.

sugar4eva · 14/02/2014 17:34

Well I had a party that starred at 8 30 and did t provide food . This was because I could not Fford it as xj was expensive and room hire but I wanted my pals to have a chance to let hair down no elderly rels tho . I put old fashioned sweets in bowls tho next to fairy lights !

ShatzePage · 14/02/2014 17:34

Tight wads.

MrsLettuce · 14/02/2014 17:35

Yy, Yanbu.

I'd not have expected a meal unless it was explicitly stated on the invite, but it'd never occur to me that there might be a party (at any time of day) without some sort of nibbles available.

Viviennemary · 14/02/2014 17:36

That sounds totally dire and mean. I think if people can't afford to have a party then they should just not have one. I think people expect a bit of food.

WorraLiberty · 14/02/2014 17:37

But there was no food at all! A number of guests were in their 70s

What the buggery does that have to do with anything? Grin

It did make me laugh though Blush

ScentedScandal · 14/02/2014 17:37

Yadnbu. I would have thought the same. And you took your own drinks! I would def have provided some food.

(Cant see why it's an odd thing to notice, at all)

Oblomov · 14/02/2014 17:39

YANBU
Would be considered very odd round here.
People drinking and dancing and then no food?
There has been, in the last 4 parties I have been to recently.

LindyHemming · 14/02/2014 17:40

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