To be extremely fucked off ?!?

[PistolAnnies]

...with a fellow mum, and supposed 'friend' at the school?

Basically, my son is best friends with this boy (they're both in Yr1 & went through Reception / nursery together). The other boys mum is a young mum who I thought was quite mature for her age, lives with her mum and dad still - her mum does more with the boy than her though, typical loving nan I guess?

Anyway, we've known each other for a few years now - this family know the shit we've had to endure; financial issues, hubby's Stroke, other issues.

I posted a FB status status last week saying for anyone who was online, if they didn't like me then delete me ... Well, the nan deleted me! Hmmm, surprised as we've always been pals ?

Then the kids mum, posted a status about loving her new work colleagues etc, I commented saying that was great but not to be too open to them as I've had sufficient experience of being shit on by colleagues in the past - she got really pissed off with this so I removed my comments. I since saw a comment from her to somebody on her FB calling me a 'bloody crank'?!

I took this girl's son on an expensive day trip out last Summer, bought him lunch, toys etc This girl calls me a crank yet has just announced she's preggo again with her 'friends' baby this time ?!?

Just to add this girl also claims fraudelent benefits, which pisses me right off...

Would you be alnnoyed? Would you pull her at school or just ignore them from now on??

I feel really upset and disappointed to have let my guard down and opened my heart again to people who I believed to be decent people, friends

[lazyhound444]

The bit that gets me is "I took this girl's son on an expensive trip...". If you expect her to be eternally grateful, you're on a hiding to nothing. You sound like a nasty, immature, judgemental idiot.

[HyvaPaiva]

You sound absolutely exhausting to deal with.

[SomewhatSilly]

Gawd, OP, I'm embarrassed for you.

[mineofuselessinformation]

Has OP come back yet?

[PeriodFeatures]

Goodness me!! OP have you read your post to yourself? Perhaps you should, then perhaps delete yourself from facebook before you lose anymore dignity.

Facebook and emotionally incontinent people are not a good mixture.

[PistolAnnies]

As for my FB post - I wrote it because after hearing a couple of things, I was fed up of yet again, being associated with two-faced people - You lot may not mind that, but I do, I'm straight up - no bullshit.

As for the work colleagues comment, I was advising her to just not open up & trust them with her personal life, as I've experience of being shit on from ex-colleagues and (working within the office environment) seen it all too many times - I also assume that you lot have NEVER had any issues with colleagues, judging by your posts re this?!? Pull the other one ...!

For the poster who asked if I don't get on with my colleagues (and therefore my reasoning for saying what I did) - I came out of work for the first time in July as I had to care for my ill hubby who'd had a Stroke, and am now a University student, so no - not my reason ...

You take somebody's child out for the day, pay for the tickets, food, sweets, toys then you're saying you wouldn't be fuming to see them slate you to other people?! Fuck offf!!

At the end of the day, I don't do bull shitters - call a spade a spade, else don't act like you're me biggest pal!

So as for me re-reading my initial post - I think you lot ought to think about if this were you, would you be happy with someone who has claimed to be a friend, asked you for favours on numerous occasions etc, slating you online ?!? No, I'm pretty sure you'd be fuming as well

[PistolAnnies]

YouStay - Care to elaborate on my previous 'odd' posts you mention? I'm intrigued ... ?

[ToootSweet]

I can see why people don't want to be your friend. Crystal clear to me.

[diddl]

Where's the delete button on here??

[eurochick]

Oh dear. You sound incredibly immature, OP.

[PistolAnnies]

Oh and by the way, are you all claiming to have never vented via a FB status ?!? Or are you all those boring fuckers who just write about what you're having for tea, or what time you're going to bed ?!

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

I think you need to grow up and have a !

[PistolAnnies]

TootSweet - Why ?? Instead of just replying with a comment like that, explain?!

[PistolAnnies]

Well again, I'm sorry but if I didn't particularly like someone, I wouldn't have the gall to let them pay for a day out for my child - I think that's downright fucking cheeky

[brooncoo]

Yip, I'm a boring fucker who never has this drama llama crap on FB.

YABU - your friend and her mum weren't. - going by your posts.

[hickorychicken]

Pmsl if you are looking for her to be grateful for you taking her son out you did it for the wrong reasons. Why is the benefits and pregnancy any of your business either.
I dont like fake drama on fb its all shit. attention seeker.

[SpottyTeacakes]

I can't imagine myself in that situation as I would never put something like that on fb in the first place

You sound really immature op, how old are you? As you mention this other lady is quite young, yet you come across as extremely young yourself

[frugalfuzzpig]

No, I've never been 'shat on' by colleagues not all workplaces are full of bitchiness and backstabbing. What a sad outlook on life (and I say that as someone with severe depression/anxiety) to be assuming the worst like that.

[BirthdayMuppet]

Ah, you're mistaking a rude, arrogant, ignorant demeanor with a forthright, call a spade a spade one. You're not no bullshit, you're the type people start to avoid once they realise. HTH.

[hickorychicken]

Also it did sound like you were pissing on her bonfire in regards to her job. Sounds like jealousy tbh.

[ArgyMargy]

OP I think you come across as a bit angry - your nickname probably doesn't help! This is a good example of why people shouldn't live their lives through facebook.

[fluffyraggies]

Maybe you should not bother with FB, OP. I manage without it. So does DH, so does 3DDs (teens and 20s). We're perfectly normal people. Just cant be arsed with it all. Never posted a 'status' in my life

Honestly it seems to cause so much grief one way or the other, the more i hear about it the happier i am without it. Much of the trouble is petty, play ground sort of shite, and some of it is downright damaging (bullying).

[PistolAnnies]

frugal - It's not so much a sad outlook, but more about being realistic and cynical, after what I've been through with work and colleagues my guard is truly up - not just me, but my sister too and other ex-colleagues

[Finola1step]

The drama llama count just keeps on rising!

[PistolAnnies]

Spotty - I am 30, though that is not relevant. I mention the pregnancy as this girl is 23 (nothing wrong with age, as I was pregnant with my first at same age), however seems to find no problem in the fact that she's gotten pregnant to her friend (!) to be able to now move out of her parents' house (ie more child tax, housing ben etc)!