Page 5 | To buy my DP'S socks? If I am, why?

Stinklebell · 12/02/2014 12:16

Yes, I buy his socks sometimes, I buy odd bits of clothes for him sometimes if I see something he'll like. I also do stuff like making his packed lunch and I doing his washing

He can buy his own socks, make his own sandwiches and sticks a wash load on sometimes but if he needs socks and I'm in a shop that sells them, I'm not going to refuse, if I'm making packed lunches, I think it's a bit petty not to make his as well, I'm not wasting my time separating his clothes when I'm doing the washing.

Doesn't make me his mum

motherinferior · 12/02/2014 12:21

I asked Mr Inferior if he would like me to take over sock-buying but his response was somewhat unrepeatable.

I didn't even dare suggest making him a packed lunch.

Custardo · 12/02/2014 12:26

if you buy the occasional socks - fine

but some posters have declared ( including the op) that they buy all their DP/DH's clothes

this is seriously odd

SirChenjin · 12/02/2014 12:26

You didn't dare??

LTB!!

SirChenjin · 12/02/2014 12:27

It's odd to you (and me). It's not odd to them.

There are odder things out there

motherinferior · 12/02/2014 12:28

It was more in terms of what he'd say about the sort of men who require lunch-making tbh

wigglesrock · 12/02/2014 12:38

If my husband needs socks - he sticks it on a list & whoever does the shopping that week picks them up, I do the same. Same with kids clothes - although I don't think he'll ever get over agreeing to dd1s request for a quick run round H&M a few months ago. I think he's still paying the bill off.

SirChenjin · 12/02/2014 12:40

My DH made my packed lunch today, and often does - what does that say about me?

Martorana · 12/02/2014 12:49

The point is not the occasional buying of socks for one's partner. The point is that for some couples, women do all the buying of socks, pants and so on. And I have never, ever seen this going the other way. I have never heard of a man who chucked a couple of packets of knickers in to the trolley because he had noticed his partner was getting low on them. It is "wife work" if you like.

motherinferior · 12/02/2014 12:51

Wot Martorana said. Ditto lunches. I suppose if it's a trade-off it's different, I agree. But a trade-off in absolute kind.

Martorana · 12/02/2014 12:55

I will laugh if someone comes on saying "well, he wouldn't buy me knickers- he'd get the size wrong"!

Does anyone's partner buy sanpro unprompted? "Oh, she'll need some tampons in the next day or so- I'll just chuck some in the trolley"

Because if men had periods, women sure as hell would!

Custardo · 12/02/2014 12:57

you could apply the analogy that worse things happen at sea to almost anything to negate any opinion.

If a man bought all his DWs clothes - I would think that was odd

a DW buys her DHs whole wardrobe is just....odd

Martorana · 12/02/2014 12:58

"a DW buys her DHs whole wardrobe is just....odd"

Odd, but normal.........

TantrumsAndBalloons · 12/02/2014 12:59

I seem to live in sports direct thanks to 2 football playing DSs
Every time I go in there I buy 3 for £5 men's socks and 3 for £5 women's socks.

I don't know if anyone needs them, I just buy them.

I buy underwear for DH and DS there if they have a good offer.
I daresay if I didn't buy them, DH would have enough sense to do it, but whenever he goes to sports direct he does the same thing.

SirChenjin · 12/02/2014 13:03

So what if some wives choose to buy their husbands clothes? Seriously - so what? If it works for them, then I'm completely unable to get even vaguely concerned.

ConfusedPixie · 12/02/2014 13:03

I'd BU too if you are OP. DP doesn't often buy himself clothes nor do I and as I'm the one who ventures to the upstairs part of Asda when I do go I pick him up socks occasionally. He does the weekly shop more often than not and tops up the frequent buys so I'm happy to buy the odd sock!

QueenofKelsingra · 12/02/2014 13:07

The point is not the occasional buying of socks for one's partner. The point is that for some couples, women do all the buying of socks, pants and so on. And I have never, ever seen this going the other way.

probably to do with the fact that a lot of men (my DH included) wears a lot of the same stuff - always the same jeans, same style of shirts, same socks and pants. it is therefore very easy for the DW to buy clothes for them. Women's clothes come in a much bigger variety and styles effect sizing etc therefore much harder for a man to shop for a woman IMO

I make DH's lunch as well as do his shopping, I'm making the DCs anyway so it would be silly not to just make his at the same time.

Martorana · 12/02/2014 13:15

"Women's clothes come in a much bigger variety and styles effect sizing etc therefore much harder for a man to shop for a woman IMO"

Really? Even everyday socks, tights and pants? I tend to wear the same size and type of those- is that unusual?

MimiSunshine · 12/02/2014 13:21

If my BF needs socks, he buys them. He could ask me to pick some up for him (and I would) but he passes just as many supermarkets as I do on the way home so not sure why he would.

he does his own washing to and I don't buy cards for his mums birthday

I don't think it's necessarily odd to but pants and socks for your OH but I do see it as taking on a parental rather than partner role to do it without prompting because your getting the kids some as surely your OH can decide when it's reached critical point and remedy it themselves (or ask for some to be picked up)

SirChenjin · 12/02/2014 13:22

God yes - I wear a mixture (not all at the same time, obvious!) of thongs, control pants (different shapes, depending on outfit), big knickers for periods and smaller ones for when I just feel like it. Socks are black ankle ones, knee length for boots, thermal ones for walking boots, knee high tights for work in a mixture of opaque and 15 dernier. Tights are different colours, depending on outfit again, different size depending on where I'm buying them from, and different dernier. I won't even start on bras and bodys...

Stinklebell · 12/02/2014 13:24

Does anyone's partner buy sanpro unprompted? "Oh, she'll need some tampons in the next day or so- I'll just chuck some in the trolley"

Actually, yes, he does. He sometimes does the supermarket shop and tampons are one of the things he'll automatically chuck in the trolley - I've got boxes and boxes of the things.

He's the same with tins of tuna and boxes of cereal, we have cupboards full, anyone would think were stockpiling tuna, cornflakes and tampons in case of a zombie apocalypse

Martorana · 12/02/2014 13:29

I'd be worried- does he know something you don't know?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 12/02/2014 13:32

Dh does sometimes buy me clothes, but I prefer to choose them for myself - he is a bit hit-and-miss at choosing things I'll like. He is also happy to buy me sanpro, if I need it.

I think dh does far more in our marriage than I do - suffering depression has left me struggling to keep up with the housework, so he does all the ironing and a lot of the laundry and about half of the cooking too - so I think buying his clothes for him is something I can do, so the poor man isn't doing everything.

As others have said, it is a partnership - and I think he definitely gets the worst of the deal.

VegetariansTasteLikeChicken · 12/02/2014 13:34

"Women's clothes come in a much bigger variety and styles effect sizing etc therefore much harder for a man to shop for a woman IMO"

yeah but a lot of the women on this thread have said their male partners are incapable of buying for themselves. SO if it is so easy even the person not wearing them can do it... sholnd't they be able to buy it themselves?

VegetariansTasteLikeChicken · 12/02/2014 13:36

Dh would buy me sanipro if I asked him, but as curlew said upthread, it wouldn't be because "dw can't be trusted to do it herself...she'll just bleed all over the couch if not"

Think that's what gets people's backs up. The idea that men are a bit dim..and that if a man isn't dressed properly it's because he has a lazy wife in the background somewhere.