to cry over hotel bridal policy?

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Getting married in 4 weeks v cheaply. Registry office, two guests as witnesses, no flowers, haïr dressers, cars or any of that stuff. £200 cream L K Bennett dress.

The only 'treat element' of the day was booking a night at a 5 star hotel, with dinner for our two guests.

That's all we can afford, and I didn't want to have to wait years saving to get married.

Only problem now is that I can't wear my dress to the hotel. They have a bridal policy of only one bride (their wedding package) at the hotel. So despite my not having anything ostensibly bridal, as my sheath dress is cream I can't wear it incase I offend a bride who can afford a massive wedding package.

AIBU to think this sucks??

Oh OP your dress is just beautiful

I am so up for a bridal flash mob - I still have my dress in my wardrobe - I think if 20 mumsnetters turn up in full veils you might just slip past the dickhead security x

TH even if they backtracked for me it would be spoilt ow.

It's your wedding day. You don't want to feel like they don't want you there - and by the sounds of it, they don't much tbh. They are only interested in their bridal party - think the rest of the hotel#s guests that day/evening are very much second best to them.

Or just cancel. That's what I'd do. What shoddy treatment - not hospitable at all, and not what you want for your wedding celebrations!

Both Beamish Hall and Jesmond Dene House are lovely.

Waiting for more wedding dress ideas!!!! Op your dress is solo beautiful, enjoy a different hotel xx

That's an absolute nonsense, and so stupid for them to be alienating paying customers because of an idiotic policy.

If you've not spoken to the highest up person in the organisation, phone them and complain. And if they stick to their guns, take your custom elsewhere and remind all your friends to blacklist the place

Op please cancel and go somewhere else. Whilst I understand their policy is fair to a bride using the venue, it's your wedding day as well and you should wear your beautiful dress.
Go somewhere else where you would be welcomed and treated well.

1. Find somewhere else to eat/stay.

1. Don't tell the hotel. Instead, bombard them with emails regarding a suitable dress. Cancel at the last minute, if you have paid a deposit (in time for its refund). If not, just don't turn up.

1. Send a load of Mumsnetters to dinner there in their wedding dresses while you enjoy yourself in another, lovelier venue. Maybe pop in to see the chaos if it suits you

Just Another vote for Lumley Castle!

You could go for one of these

Theyre being ridiculous not you. I'd cancel and go elsewhere.

This isn't white or cream. Email them the link, see if they approve.

How ridiculous and precious! Either go and wear it anyway, what are they going to do about it? Or go somewhere else, surely 4 weeks away you can find something nice, that's what I would do.

Jesmond Dene House is lovely

Beamish Hall is lovely! I had my wedding at South Causey Inn which is near BH and they couldnt have done more abd would totally welcome your party no matter size or attire

No way would I go anywhere that tried to dictate to me what I could and couldn't wear. I reckon they sound like right arseholes, is that really the sort of place you want to go? Pick somewhere else where they will treat you with more respect.

OP ignore us looking for a fight stand off. The hotel are within their rights to refuse service to anyone (most likely us lot turning up looking like the zombie brides of the apocalypse) I just had a vision of a bunch of brides doing the thriller dance on the golf club lawn outside the dining room windows... oh how I wish it could be done

Can someone do me a working link for the op's dress please? Can't even seem to cut and paste onmy phone

You dress is lovely but I think if you wear it to this venue even with a disguise of some kind ('tashes are on the way out again, so don't go hipster ) you will feel really uncomfortable for the whole duration of your meal and stay. It shouldn't that way but you will.

I can recommend Seaham Hall.

All sorted. Staying at the lovely Cleveland Tontine (my first choice, but they were previously fully booked), who have no bridal policy and no wish to pre-vet my outfit

Op I don't think I would wear it as they may very well refuse you entry / service. As I said they want to protect any contract they have in place with the bride who is getting married there. If your husband to be had not said anything it wouldn't be an issue. Blooming men. I do know however that all they will do is stand by the contract as it will be worth so much money to them. And as I said the service won't be all it should be, as they will all be devoted to the bridal party. Sad but true. Go somewhere else. It's not worth ruining your day over.

Awww fab. Have an amazing day.

Glad you got it sorted. Have a lovely wedding!

Just hope Rockliffe Hall refund the booking...or I'll be sending MNers round in their wedding dresses!

Result! Cancel the other wankers immediately.