to cry over hotel bridal policy?

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Getting married in 4 weeks v cheaply. Registry office, two guests as witnesses, no flowers, haïr dressers, cars or any of that stuff. £200 cream L K Bennett dress.

The only 'treat element' of the day was booking a night at a 5 star hotel, with dinner for our two guests.

That's all we can afford, and I didn't want to have to wait years saving to get married.

Only problem now is that I can't wear my dress to the hotel. They have a bridal policy of only one bride (their wedding package) at the hotel. So despite my not having anything ostensibly bridal, as my sheath dress is cream I can't wear it incase I offend a bride who can afford a massive wedding package.

AIBU to think this sucks??

That place looks great!

They will refund the deposit. You just need to say that at no point when you booked were you aware there was a single wedding policy. That it was then pointed out to you that there was a clause in place and you were advised you could not wear your gown. This in effect means they could not offer you what you were expecting so therefore full refund as service could not / would not be provided.

So glad you have found an alternative you love. They don't deserve your money. You do deserve to be treated like a princess. Wishing you an amazing day. x

OP, if they don't want to refund, point out that YOU wanted to come and THEY didn't want you. Any trouble and a letter to Head office, or the threat of it should sort it. I would play upon your great disappointment that they won't have you.
Can't imagine this will be a problem, but do it sooner rather than later.

Glad it's sorted. I was about to suggest Matfen Hall if you didn't mind going further afield. Or Langley Castle.

This is the story of my life at the moment!! My sis is getting married in June and has used a lovely stately home which doesn't have any accommodation.

We've therefore tried to book into some very nice hotels in Warwickshire area for night before and wedding night. Have been turned away from quite a few due to one bride policy - Billesley Manor and Walton Hall consider yourselves shamed!!!!!

It's really common and they absolutely will not budge. It isn't even about the rooms, it's the F&B that a large wedding reception brings. I work a venue, F&B is key and can make thousands!!!

They couldn't give a stuff about the fact that you are bringing business there - if there is any chance it might conflict with the larger booking, no chance.

Trust me, a venue will only ever do what suits them and guide their customers to doing that.

OP - do not bother wasting your time and money on this hotel, find somewhere else and DO NOT mention wedding. This policy is far more common than you realise. My poor sis has been in floods of tears. Not worth it, plus said wedding will take over everywhere. More places they can go, more pissed they can get and that equals more money for them!!!

And finally ... Just had to point out they didn't even have a bridal party booking for that day - a Friday.

All this fuss was just in case some bridal party booked a massive expensive wedding (on a Friday with four weeks notice)

The web site says single wedding policy, not single bride. OP would not be having wedding there.

Come to this a bit late, beautiful dress. Stupid hotel for wanting to vet your outfit.

What about Headlam Hall

I live very very near Rockliffe. They have more than one restaurant anyway, the tight gets.

Croft is okayish. What about Headlam Hall? Utterly gorgeous place. Or the Morritt at Greta Bridge?

Ah, just RTFT. The Tontine will be fab. Fuck Rockliffe!

Gorgeous dress, spend your money at another hotel! Congratulations and have a wonderful day.

That final detail is just outstanding, OP.

Or Redworth Hall They're doing a bottle of sparkling wine, 3 course meal, room and breakfast for 2 for £114. It has a spa and some suites/ 4 poster rooms so maybe you could upgrade for not much if you ask.

I don't know the hotel though i've just looked at web images.

Wait, there wasn't even another wedding booked? What. The. Fuck So are white and cream dresses just banned all the time?

The Tontine looks gorgeous, and far less corporate than the Headland.

Good thing we didn't end up going to rockcliffe for my birthday dinner the other day and went to The Bay Horse instead. Food was gorgeous but I don't think they do rooms.
I was going to suggest Seaham Hall or if it wasn't too far, we got married at Beamish Hall which was wonderful.

It's a lovely dress, glad you will be able to wear it somewhere else.

It's not traditionally bridal, maybe, but does it being worn by a bride make it bridal??

Please cancel and give a more hospitable hotel your money. Fuckers.

www.headlamhall.co.uk is very lovely.

That is a lovely dress but not weddingy no way - it is a smart cream dress. Hotel is stupid

The Tontine looks way nicer than Rockliffe! It looks beautiful and intimate, much more suited to your lovely occasion than a big, modern place. Leave the flash bastards to it!

We didn't mention it when we booked our wedding night hotel. I turned up in full bridal garb quite willing to strip off in reception if they made a fuss (and then they would have begged me to stop). They didn't say a word and we headed to bed.

The next morning the bride from the wedding the night before was stomping around the breakfast room demanding poached eggs saying "I am the bride!" Urgh!

Glad you have found somewhere else. X