to cry over hotel bridal policy?

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Getting married in 4 weeks v cheaply. Registry office, two guests as witnesses, no flowers, haïr dressers, cars or any of that stuff. £200 cream L K Bennett dress.

The only 'treat element' of the day was booking a night at a 5 star hotel, with dinner for our two guests.

That's all we can afford, and I didn't want to have to wait years saving to get married.

Only problem now is that I can't wear my dress to the hotel. They have a bridal policy of only one bride (their wedding package) at the hotel. So despite my not having anything ostensibly bridal, as my sheath dress is cream I can't wear it incase I offend a bride who can afford a massive wedding package.

AIBU to think this sucks??

I'd want to be somewhere where the knowledge of the nature of our visit was met with a "Ooh how lovely, we'll be sure to make it an extra special stay for you" rather than "Ok. We'll take your money. But at no point must you resemble a couple on your wedding day under any circumstances.

^ This ^

Wouldn't you prefer somewhere that'll offer their congratulations and make you and your guests feel welcome? This attitude would really spoil things for me. Take your lovely frock and spend your money somewhere else. It's gorgeous.

And totally take the piss with sending those links - some brilliant suggestions already!

Am v up for wedding dress flash mob. Unfortunately I can't get in mine any more so will have to order TryDrawing's red velvet number

I think any decent hotel could cope with dinner for four, in a cream dress, with style!
Agree about the £££££££££££££

this place is fairly near Rockcliffe or what about Ballentynes (sp?) restaurant (may also be an hotel) actually in Darlington? I have eaten there and it was nice. there are also some lovely country pub / restaurant places in the area with good food all very posh

I doubt I could fit into my dress any more but DH has got a lovely wedding dress that he wore for Halloween. I'm sure he'd love the opportunity to wear it again.

Un-fucking-believable that they asked you to email dress suggestions for them to approve.

Caja and Drawing, YYY to singing 'White Wedding'!

Or 'Going to the Chapel of Love' for a more retro effect.

This will be fine instead, I'm sure.

Definetly dont give them your money!!! Find an alternative Restaurant / Hotel.

owl genius!!

My wedding was in 2005 but we nearly had issues because of this. I booked into the hotel the night before and the night of my wedding. The hotel asked me very nicely to not be around in my wedding dress as they had an official wedding party there. I had my reception elsewhere, so literally walked through reception on my way out that afternoon - wedding was at four, and the official one was in full swing. Couple of guests mumoured, couple said hello, nothing major. We came back at midnight to the bar and got royally drunk in the bar area in my wedding dress - by then the other party and reception didnt care.

So they have a 'one bride per day policy' but they are happy to have you, a bride, there and take your money as long as you don't look like a bride?? By the way your dress is lovely but there is no way if anyone saw someone wearing it they would automatically think bride! They are being ridiculous! If I were you I'd mail them a link to this thread and hopefully they will see the error of their ways! Take your business elsewhere and have a fantastic wedding day!

I could crochet folks into their dresses that no longer fit!!

OP ignore us looking for a fight stand off. The hotel are within their rights to refuse service to anyone (most likely us lot turning up looking like the zombie brides of the apocalypse)

Cancel your booking, and get somewhere that wants your business. This lot clearly don't. More fool them!

If they have a one bride policy then all they are doing is protecting themselves. They will have a contract with the one bride and won't want that broken in any way shape or form

They can't have though, the hotel does offer an exclusivity package, but that includes sole use of the entire hotel, so if the OP has been able to book, then that bride can't have gone for the exclusive package.

It's silly, as you will obviously not be dining alongside the wedding party that has booked that day.

I'd go elsewhere.

Haven't time to read the whole threat - but wanted to say - gorgeous dress and ridiculous hotel policy! Hope you get them to see sense. They're being stupid.

flock of twats.

This is crazy. Do they vet all dinners in case they are wearing white/cream ?

Please dont give these jumped up twits any money or memories.
You deserve a lovely day being treated kindly, not this nonsense.

Bruno that is like a massive cock dress!

thread not threat

Name and shame and we will all turn up that day in wedding dresses.

What about this instead?

Why don't you look into booking Beamish Hall. It is beautiful.

what a very stupid policy, and especially so since that dress could easily not be a bridal gown (it's lovely, BTW), and yours is not a large party.

That would pee me off enough to take myself elsewhere.

Amber the nature of the contract will state one bride only. Or words along that line. I would imagine that a wedding there would cost in excess of 30k. The slightest thing that means them breaking the contract will have them panicking. Exclusive use of hotel and one bride policy are two totally separate things I'm afraid. Op take your money and your lovely dress and go somewhere else. The service you recieve that evening will be under par anyway as they will all be making damn sure the bridal party is happy.

I definitely would not give them my hard-earned money

Tell them it's OK, you've changed the dress.

Then turn up in something like this

Seriously though I think I would cancel. They are bonkers. How presumptuous to want to advance vet your dress!

Get them some publicity in the local DM equivalent about how ridiculous their policy is