to cry over hotel bridal policy?

[PrebendsBridge]

Getting married in 4 weeks v cheaply. Registry office, two guests as witnesses, no flowers, haïr dressers, cars or any of that stuff. £200 cream L K Bennett dress.

The only 'treat element' of the day was booking a night at a 5 star hotel, with dinner for our two guests.

That's all we can afford, and I didn't want to have to wait years saving to get married.

Only problem now is that I can't wear my dress to the hotel. They have a bridal policy of only one bride (their wedding package) at the hotel. So despite my not having anything ostensibly bridal, as my sheath dress is cream I can't wear it incase I offend a bride who can afford a massive wedding package.

AIBU to think this sucks??

[RaptorInaPorkPieHat]

If you wish us to consult on any alternative dresses please do not hesitate in sending us the link to the webpage

Oh, Hell no!

They don't get to pick your dress!

I think you need to go somewhere else where you can be appreciated as the beautiful bride that you will be (dress is lovely BTW) NOT as the second best bride (that isn't spending as much with them as the Alpha bride obviously is )

[AnneWentworth]

Bruno - where on earth did you find that. What did you put in google to come up with that.

[SarahBumBarer]

Ah sorry - Darlington end of Co Durham - a bit too far south for my knowledge!

[Nerfmother]

God you lot. All this outrage.
The hotel have told you of their policy. You don't like it. It's not illegal or discriminatory so therefore you can choose not to go.
If for example the other bride sees the op, she will not know the circumstances and will assume two weddings are going on. The hotel will not want this. The other bride is paying a premium to enjoy her wedding day as she sees fit.
It's unfortunate but not unfair.

[HavantGuard]

It's about ££££

Only one wedding a day so only 52 Saturdays a year to fight over. The more exclusive it is the more they can charge.

[Hulababy]

I'd definitely ook somewhere else.
If they want to offer exclusive bridal packages then they should have a plicy of tht is all they have - and not try to make extra money booking up the restaurant as well.

Are they vetting everyone's outfit as they arrive to make sure noone wers something white, cream or ivory - or any form of gown at all tbh just in case it matches the bridal party's colours?

Are brides really that shallow they need to be the only one dressed up in a venue? Really? Cos I have met one or two bridezillas in my time - but this isn't something evn they have come up with - or if they have they've chosen a venue where it is only them there.

I can understand not wanting to be party of a parade of brides one after another - like some beach type weddings - but not being offended by seeing someone else in a white dress!

Ridiculous policy.

[AnAdventureInCakeAndWine]

Not quite as posh, but what about the Hall Garth Golf And Country Club?

[MikeLitoris]

What date are you getting married?

I have visions of crowds of mumsnetters turning up in meringue dresses for dinner

[BobaFetaCheese]

Can DH and your other two guests wear wedding dresses too?

Or book a civil partnership there with a girlfriend and then come to blows when you're both rocking dresses.

Sorry they've been arses, hope MN has cheered you up a little.

[cory]

I am beginning to feel really sorry for this poor (mythical, dreamt up by fevered hotel managerial imagination) woman who is so emotionally fragile that she won't feel she has had a proper wedding if she is allowed the slightest reminder that anywhere in the world (say at a local registrary office not linked to her hotel) there exists another woman who has also got married on this day. Life must be horribly difficult if you suffer from her affliction: a whole planet will billions of other human beings just like her: whatever she is doing it is a pretty good bet that somebody else happens to be doing the same thing. Doesn't bear thinking of.

[FuckingWankwings]

Cheeky feckers! 'If you wish us to consult on any alternative dresses' indeed.

Cancel, remind them how much money they're losing as you do so, tell them you'll be telling all your invisible online friends just how shitty their policy is, and suggest that they consult your foot as it makes its way up their fucking pompous arse.

[chipshop]

They've obviously freaked out at the mention of the word wedding due to their policy, but asking you to email dress links is ridiculous. Anyone could wear that dress to dinner and not be a bride. They should have just cancelled your booking if they have such an issue with it. I'd be looking elsewhere.

[TryDrawing]

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[Quinteszilla]

Holy crap, what a terrible hotel.

How dare they dictate that people cannot wear a white dress when dining!

[MistyB]

Where are you getting married? Could the powers of MN find you an even better hotel within budget for the four of you? Your dress is beautiful and the hotel are being obtuse. Just don't mention wedding with your booking!

[BobPatSamandIgglePiggle]

Are you in Durham OP?

Is it a hotel / just restaurant you want?

How about Lumley Castle www.lumleycastle.com/dining/

[Hulababy]

BTW - did they tell you of their policy before you booked?

[drbartlet]

could you cancel the booking, then make the exact same booking in an other name (perhaps one of the guests) without mentioning the wedding element? that way you're just four people having dinner.

[Tweasels]

Wear a different dress, something black, get it OK'd. Then add a huge veil, massive bouquet, hang a horseshoe off your arm and attach a huge Just Married sign to DP's back.

Or, more sensibly. Cancel your booking, re book in your friends names and turn up in the (beautiful btw) white dress. No one will even notice.

[BobPatSamandIgglePiggle]

Are you in Durham OP?

Is it a hotel / just restaurant you want?

How about Lumley Castle www.lumleycastle.com/dining/

[ViviPru]

the other bride sees the op, she will not know the circumstances and will assume two weddings are going on.

If I saw someone wearing the dress the OP has linked to, I wouldn't think "Bride". Especially on my wedding day. I could barely see DH for all the hullabaloo.

[Tweasels]

Oops xpost

[PrebendsBridge]

Thanks for the support everyone

Was actually in tears earlier but laughing now, especially at the link to the huge red velvet dress that isn't white or cream!

[dontcallmemam]

I do understand the 'one bride' policy. What I don't understand is the restaurant, will you be sharing the same dining room? It would be odd for you & your guests to be hearing the speeches etc. i would imagine the other bridal party will be a separate function room, with loos & bar etc. She won't even see you and if she did wouldn't presume you were another bride.
Maybe your DH tried to book the bridal suite or some romance package & they got twitchy.
That dress is gorgeous BTW