to cry over hotel bridal policy?

[PrebendsBridge]

Getting married in 4 weeks v cheaply. Registry office, two guests as witnesses, no flowers, haïr dressers, cars or any of that stuff. £200 cream L K Bennett dress.

The only 'treat element' of the day was booking a night at a 5 star hotel, with dinner for our two guests.

That's all we can afford, and I didn't want to have to wait years saving to get married.

Only problem now is that I can't wear my dress to the hotel. They have a bridal policy of only one bride (their wedding package) at the hotel. So despite my not having anything ostensibly bridal, as my sheath dress is cream I can't wear it incase I offend a bride who can afford a massive wedding package.

AIBU to think this sucks??

Loving the knitted penis dress.

Get yourself a REALLY attentino seeking red dress OP. That's what I'd do. Bloody stupid rule. Wear a sign on your back that says "The BEST bride"

Is this for real ? Cos if it is I am stunned. Stunned that there is a hotel which operates such an absurd policyand stunned that there are in fact, women out there who are so caught up with being a Bridezilla, that they would have a strop at the sight of another bride.

< fond memories of playing drinking games til 3 am at my best friends wedding, with the bridal party from the posh function room next door>

Try - I love that dress!

Prebends - the hotel are barking - that is a gorgeous dress, and in no way will it scream 'bridal'. I agree with those who,have suggested you cancel and go to another hotel.

I wouldn't be wasting another second on this hotel - shop around. If you're splashing out, you want it to be on a hotel which is going to treat you well, not keep you hidden behind the pot plant in case you offend a wealthier person.

That's disgusting. Bollocks would I allow a jumped up hotel manager to tell me what I could and couldn't wear, wedding or no wedding. I would reply to the email telling them that due to their appalling customer service you would be going elsewhere, then I would contact the hotel hq to tell them about this, demand an apology and never ever visit there again.

Rockliffe Hall in County Durham

I sense a hashtag coming on.....

Oh yes, you should definitely email them a series of ridiculous suggestions!

Bruno's suggestion of getting us all to spam them with links to wedding dresses is genius. Do it!

Maybe we can all make fake bookings and ask if our dresses are acceptable as well. I shall book under "mr and Mrs Michael Hunt"

You have to either get changed into another outfit or change the hotel. I wouldn't do the wear a jacket/add bright accessories thing.

Yes, I was thinking that you could suggest that you wear the knitted penis and if another bride turns up, you hastily run to the loo and pretend to be a loo roll cover. 'a BRIDE? Me? never guv'

This is so bizarre! Of course they can't tell you not to wear a white dress. That is crazy.

Is it the only nice hotel in the area? Is it so nice that their ridiculousness won't bother you the whole time? It would leave such a bad taste in my mouth I'd be better off finding somewhere else.

You're going to look beautiful and have a lovely day. Hopefully all while not giving that hotel a fucking pissing penny.

I wore a proper long one to a dinner which was held in somewhere also used for weddings, but we were in a private dining room. No-one said anything at all about it- I certainly wouldn't have paraded up and down near the other bridal party, but it was all very discreet and just not an issue.

This dress is so not long bridal that I don't know what they are going on about, presumably you can wear white dresses to their restaurant! Is there any chance of changing hotels? Or having a different dress for the meal?

Seeing that this is not about competition over anything physically exclusive- like who gets to stand in the best photo spot- but merely about whether, as you sit down to dinner, your eyes will fall on somebody who may also be having a special day of her life could somebody please explain to me what kind of mentality you would need to have to think anything was being taken away from you?

Seeing that you are not marrying the same bridegroom, entertaining the same guests for dinner or have the same family and friends who may be expected to take an interest in the proceedings, what exactly can you take away from this woman by merely sitting in a restaurant?

The sense that she is of special and exclusive interest to other dinner guests? But she won't be- they will be there for reasons of their own and not care very much about her either way. The sense that she is of special and exclusive interest to the hotel staff? But they do one of these packages every night and still have to think of the other guests too.

I'm really interested in how this (potential) other bride might be expected to think.

Tripadvisor is your friend!

If you really want to book there, cancel and rebook under a different name. Odds are, the person being a shit won't be there.

That is bloody outrageous - i would book somewhere else! wankers

There are hundreds of places with one wedding policies but none that would enfoce it to the level of ridiculousness of this hotel. I wonder if they would say anything if you were just wearing a white dress (tempted to try).

Is Slaley Hall any good OP? I only know the spa (fab) but around Durham area?

Cancel, book another hotel and don't mention the word "wedding".

It's an L.K. Bennett dress, from their main collection. They aren't a wedding outfitters. Anyone at all booked to dine in the hotel that night could rock up wearing that dress, although probably very few of the men could carry it off successfully.

I can see a "no Wedding Dresses" policy, but a "no white dresses" policy is utterly ridiculous.

cancel and get someone with a different name to rebook and do not mention weddings, then rock up wearing it and look shocked if they say anything. deny all knowledge of a wedding say you are dressed for dinner with friends for a special birthday. or book elsewhere. if they know its a bridal do then they will likely up the price. alternately find a lovely small local restaurant and arrange a wedding meal with them, they will probably do nicer food than a hotel anyway and might dress things up a bit making it feel special for you. much better than an anonymous hotel tbh. You could then head off to a hotel wearing whatever you like.

I'm off to tweet about this appalling establishment.

Lovely dress.

Shit policy

'We believe every wedding should be different so we can arrange all the extras too and, because no two weddings are held on the same day, it truly is your wedding day.'

From their website.

Cancel! It looks like a very beautiful stylish cream dress - it doesn't scream WEDDING to me. I think they are being a bit petty. As vivipru says you want to be made to feel special and valued as a newly married couple, not an embarrassment that they want to try and hide away. Is there nowhere else you could try?

Dear Hotel Uppity, will this do?

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Yes, take your custom elsewhere. I do get the one bride thing if they are paying for the package, but this clearly is a bit different.

I love the dress.