to cry over hotel bridal policy?

[PrebendsBridge]

Getting married in 4 weeks v cheaply. Registry office, two guests as witnesses, no flowers, haïr dressers, cars or any of that stuff. £200 cream L K Bennett dress.

The only 'treat element' of the day was booking a night at a 5 star hotel, with dinner for our two guests.

That's all we can afford, and I didn't want to have to wait years saving to get married.

Only problem now is that I can't wear my dress to the hotel. They have a bridal policy of only one bride (their wedding package) at the hotel. So despite my not having anything ostensibly bridal, as my sheath dress is cream I can't wear it incase I offend a bride who can afford a massive wedding package.

AIBU to think this sucks??

If the bride booked exclusive use tht means they book te whole hotel out and no one else stays. If they don't (and they haven't because you are staying) then tough shit. It's not like you're turning up in a BFGW number completely with veil and bridesmaids. I would kick the hotel into tick hand book somewhere else. Enjoy your day and congratulations!

They are being stuffy and bastardly about this, even if you turn up (in that dress or any other) you will still feel on edge and unhappy now. Go somewhere else where they'll be happy to have you and congratulate you, rather than making you feel like you should pretend it's not your wedding day! Other places would be happy to have you. Any smart hotel would snap up the chance of good publicity.

Kick the hotel into touch and*

I hope they apologise.

I hope you have a lovely wedding, OP. Your dress is adorable, I hope you have as good taste in men as you do in dresses.

Have you considered sending them this link?

Glad you have somewhere better to go.

I can understand the 'one bride' policy, but unless they made you aware of dress conditions at the time of booking (and presumably tell everyone not to wear anything white ) I think they are refusing to honour your booking. I would send them a long, snotty email pointing out that, although their policy is perfectly reasonable, their implementation is bonkers, and also that you would never have booked with them had they advised you of the policy in advance. So you'd like your money back please.

Glad all is well that ends well - I cannot believe all this fuss and they don't even have a wedding booked!! WTF?!

OP your dress is absolutely stunning and I'm sure you will have the most amazing day!

I am imagining a bridezilla somewhere telling the hotel no other hotel guests can wear anything "bridal".

The poem

The dress is fantastic, I hope you wear it somewhere less wanky.

Your wedding sounds intimate. That is just my sort of wedding.

Congratulations.

Glad you've found somewhere else, that was right right choice
Finding somewhere

This has probably been said further up the thread, but ANYONE could turn up to the hotel wearing that dress, especially in the Summer. Would they refuse entry to anyone in a cream or white dress on the day of a wedding. Of course not! And I agree, it's lovely!

Glad you have rearranged and booked somewhere with a more friendly approach to your special meal/evening.

And astounded that the original place didn't even have a wedding booked in for the night in question anyway - and only a month away so unlikely to!

Wheels, that story makes me weep for humanity! Good on you.

My friend does a cracking rendition of 'Could of been me' in drag. He'd be up for a Mumsnet flash mob. He did it at my wedding & battered DH with his handbag so hard he has bruises. We could set him on the manager.

Glad you found somewhere else. I hope you have a wonderful day.

Just reread and see you have booked elsewhere. So glad.

Have a lovely day.

Yay! Oh well done Prebends! now, have you sorted the entertainment yet or are we still coming up on a coach to do the thriller dance in our wedding frocks for you? not that there's a rats arse in hell chance of me fitting into mine . Congratulations and have a fab wedding day!

I hope you're going to publicise on Trip Advisor the fact that they won't let you eat there if you turn up in a white dress, and that they demand to know what you're going to wear when you book just in case you dare to turn up in white or cream and they happen to get a wedding booking that day.

Oh and I can't believe the hotel didn't even have a bloody booking! Loons! Please add a link to this thread with your cancellation

So there isn't even another bride? WTF.

Why can't you be the designated bride for the evening? Because you won't be spending enough?

I think you have done the right thing by cancelling.

Nope, there wasn't even another bride. Made me feel pretty that one....as in you can't afford to pay for a massive wedding package so you're not allowed to be a bride having dinner and staying at our hotel.

At one point I was thinking I would need to return my dress, and just wear something I already owned, as we'd already made a non refundable payment on the room.

Glad we've got it sorted now though and I won't be made to feel bad about wanting a low-key weeding.

I would tweet whoever owns their hotel group about the loss of business their policy has caused.
Glad you're sorted.

What a weird policy. Why would someone care if another person was wearing a wedding dress . I think it's absurd that the hotel are telling you what to wear. Take your business elsewhere!

Glad you've manage to sort it OP. Good for you for going somewhere else. They said on Twitter that the policy is to protect their (imaginary) brides. Protect them from what exactly? A lady in a cream LK Bennett dress?? Nutters!

Sadly there are such Bridezilla's about! I went to a friend's wedding who threw a massive strop when another bridal party turned up and ended up getting a massive discount from the hotel. Even though we were on the complete opposite side of the hotel.

Unbelievable xpost with you!

No bridezilla?

I hope you give them a pasting on trip advisor.
Cheeky twats.