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About DH's attitude towards the meal I cooked?

268 replies

FlatsInDagenham · 03/02/2014 19:43

I used the leftover beef and made beef noodle soup. It was delicious - full of ginger, garlic, chilli, soy, stock, vegetables, coriander, masses of noodles and lots and lots of lovely leftover roast beef. A massive panful, enough to feed at least 6, just for me and DH (DC don't eat chillies) with plenty left to freeze for another day.

DH complained that he didn't want 'soup' for his evening meal. I pointed out that exactly the same components on a plate with less water would have been a stir fry. He said that you get less in a bowl. I offered to get him another bowl. He said (with disgust) that he didn't want two bowls of soup for his tea.

I spent ages making that soup and it was bloody delicious, and healthy too.

Just had to have a moan about it here.

Angry

And ask you: Am I being unreasonable to serve up soup for an evening meal?

OP posts:
FuckingWankwings · 04/02/2014 12:50

shandy, you must be me. This is it EXACTLY.

FuckingWankwings · 04/02/2014 12:51

PS only just noticed 'chinky veg'. God, that's a terrible typo/texto Grin Grin

Gileswithachainsaw · 04/02/2014 12:52

pigeon

I think I've dropped my iPhone one too many times the auto corrects are getting embarrassing now

:o

TinyTwoTears · 04/02/2014 12:58

I make chunky soups for dinner, sometimes Sunday dinner Shock
DH never moans about soup, he eats more than two bowls of it. But it generally has all the elements of a main meal in soup format, like the op's. it sounds lovely bar the coriander.

To those that don't think soup is a main meal, do you ever go to wagamama's and have their soup as a starter?
Although I expect if you don't like that kind of soup then wagamama's probably isn't your kind of place.

cory · 04/02/2014 13:04

One of the most filling meals I've ever had was a noodle soup in a London Thai cafeteria. It was after a freezing experience watching football in the snow (thanks, ds Hmm) and it really saved my life. I couldn't eat it all though- in the end dc had to pitch in. Another one that springs to mind was a goulasch soup I had at a Christmas market a few years ago. At least as filling as a roast.

aquashiv · 04/02/2014 13:06

I'm having soup tonight.
What does he cook

lottie82 · 04/02/2014 13:17

in fairness, I don't think my OH would be too chuffed with just soup for his tea either, as he is out all day doing a manual / physical job.

he likes it for his lunch, but when he comes in from a hard days graft, he really looks forward to sitting down to a "proper" meal.

I can't really tell the tone of your partners voice from your OP, so I can't really comment, but if he was rude then yes, he was prob out of order. And if he had rejected your offering, then he should have made something else for himself.

Cerisier · 04/02/2014 13:19

We live in Asia and DH adores beef noodle soup. It is a standard dish here for lunch or dinner and very popular.

YANBU OP and your DH sounds extremely rude. If he didn't like the soup he should have just eaten it up at the time. He could have said something very gently a few days later if he didn't want you to make it for dinner again.

Tiredemma · 04/02/2014 13:20

Goulash soup! keeps me alive when skiing!

Preferthedogtothekids · 04/02/2014 13:24

Next time strain the liquid into a bowl so he has a two course meal of beef Consomme, and a main course of stirfry Beef with noodles. Simples.

CrazyOldCatLady · 04/02/2014 13:27

He was dismally rude and should have eaten it, but I have to agree on the soup issue; I'm not a fan of it for dinner either.

BitOutOfPractice · 04/02/2014 13:28

God I want your soup now OP

BitOutOfPractice · 04/02/2014 13:28

And I'd also eat it for dinner.

Aliama · 04/02/2014 13:33

Another one who finds the anti-soup hatred a little baffling. I love soup and find it more filling than 'dry' meals, although a lot of the soups we make in this house are closer to stews.

Has anyone heard of this experiment?

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/8068733.stm

The gist is that mixing solid food with water keeps you fuller for longer than eating them separately.

Honestly, to the haters, have you ever actually tried eating soup for dinner? Something filling, like a scotch broth, with meat, plenty of veg and pearl barley. Bulk it out with bread, have something else lined up for afters if you think you'll need it. But have a big bowl, and I'm guessing you won't. (Assuming you actually like soup, of course. Not much point if you don't)

pigletmania · 04/02/2014 13:35

In that case he should be a making dinner, or b taking you out to dinner

VegetariansTasteLikeChicken · 04/02/2014 13:35

Dh has been after the soup I made for past 3 nights.. .But's all mine I tells you!

Your dh is an ass and if he doesn't want soup don't fucking eat it.. but you aren't running a restaurant!

pigletmania · 04/02/2014 13:37

Or get himself something different to eat

VegetariansTasteLikeChicken · 04/02/2014 13:41

As for bra burning comment up thread! Grin

yes, demanding that someone not be rude to you when you have cooked them a meal.. why it's feminism gone mad isn't it!

Clutterbugsmum · 04/02/2014 13:59

Cerisier Tue 04-Feb-14 13:19:37

We live in Asia and DH adores beef noodle soup. It is a standard dish here for lunch or dinner and very popular. I think thats the point isn't it. For some reason a lot of people only think that a 'proper' meal is meat and potatoes.

OP I do think your dh was rude.

WhereIsMyHat · 04/02/2014 14:08

While my H would jokingly scoff at soup for tea, he would eat it. If it was a soup like you've described he would honestly be ecstatic, he would love it.

Guess your husband can cook dinner this week!

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 04/02/2014 14:41

My DH would love beef noodle soup OP.

ComfortablyGrumpy · 04/02/2014 15:52

I really don't understand all this not a proper meal stuff.

If you don't like soup, ok I suppose I can live with that. But the not a proper meal, I just can't understand.

Soups come in a bazillion varieties. Pick a chunky, thicker one, eat more of it. Have a pudding. It's not rocket science.

(We had this soup this week and it was bloody fab)

ShatzePage · 04/02/2014 16:13

I love soup-have it for lunch pretty much every day but both my dh and dcs would not be happy with it for dinner.

cosikitty · 04/02/2014 17:13

How dare the DH have an opinion!

VegetariansTasteLikeChicken · 04/02/2014 17:15

So if your dh made you dinner cosikitty you'd bitch about how it wasn't good enoug with disgust in your voice? About how it isn't good enough. Guess you're a bit of a wanker then