About DH's attitude towards the meal I cooked?

[FlatsInDagenham]

I used the leftover beef and made beef noodle soup. It was delicious - full of ginger, garlic, chilli, soy, stock, vegetables, coriander, masses of noodles and lots and lots of lovely leftover roast beef. A massive panful, enough to feed at least 6, just for me and DH (DC don't eat chillies) with plenty left to freeze for another day.

DH complained that he didn't want 'soup' for his evening meal. I pointed out that exactly the same components on a plate with less water would have been a stir fry. He said that you get less in a bowl. I offered to get him another bowl. He said (with disgust) that he didn't want two bowls of soup for his tea.

I spent ages making that soup and it was bloody delicious, and healthy too.

Just had to have a moan about it here.

And ask you: Am I being unreasonable to serve up soup for an evening meal?

Oh ffs. I think I'd drive my dp if I discussed daily what was going to be for dinner. And I'd get really fucked off that I couldn't be trusted to cook withit approval.

That's just pathetic. It's dinner not a major life event that needs duel input.

My dp knows ill do whatever I fancy doing. If there's something he particularly fancies he will suggest it/ask for it. If he's not keen on what I do he will say thank you regardless and make himself something else later. As would I.

Drive my dp CRAZY

Thank fuck for the voice of reason, Giles!

Can you imagine the hours of wasted work time with pointless phone calls about dinner.

Ffs.

fucking

If he doesn't like it, he can cook next time.

LTB.

FFS yourself - it's a 2 minute chat in the morning before we leave, and occasionally a chat at lunchtime if one of us is shopping for that night's dinner (good to have anyway as one of us may realise we've got to work late or you've arranged to meet a friend after work for a drink). Not a nano-second of work time wasted, and 2 adults respecting each others' choices. And what a waste of time making yourself something later when for want of a 2-minute chat you could both be sitting down to something you both wanted.

I like looking forward to my dinner, especially after a crap day at work and a miserable commute in the cold and rain.

Because of course you never have a horrendous tiring day and think to yourself "I really can't face spaghetti and meatballs" and just have some cheese on toast once the kids are in bed

It's not wasted we just have it the following day if we end up just not fancying it.

Spot on Gileswithachainsaw

OP YANBU.
Soup is fine for supper.

Unless maybe it's "cup a soup"

I can imagine the conversation at half seven in the morning.

Me: what do you want fir dinner

Dp: don't know, don't care, you pick.

Well that was two mins well spent

:o

how is eating spag and meatballs that someone has made for you more tiring than making yourself cheese on toast? And that's not what you were saying in your previous post anyway.

but well done for missing the main point of my post and focussing on a minor side-issue.

just read your last post, I'm off - you really have no comprehension that not everyone in the world is like you and your DP, don't you? In which case having a debate with you is pretty pointless.

It's not more tiring, just when your shattered you don't always fancy a meal whether it's there waiting for you or not. Doesn't make a difference whether you discussed it before hand or not.

You either eat it or you don't. What you don't do is be an arse about it.

Why is it acceptable to cater for the culinary whims of an adult diner but not a child's?
So many posts saying that grown ups shouldn't have to eat what they don't fancy (with the implication that children should but as adults we don't have to put up with it)

Maybe YAbu OP. he works hard, he pays for the food and should expect a square meal of his choosing on the table when he gets home

I don't know why MrsOakenshield is getting a hard time. I understand her point. If I'm too tired to eat, I'm too tired to eat.. doesn't matter what it is. In that event, I certainly wouldn't be getting up to make cheese on toast or anything else.

Why do some people bother with partners at all? Surely, a quick visit to a sperm bank, job done - just deal with the fussiness of any resulting children. It baffles me, it really does. If a man had been posting that his wife had been disappointed in the meal cooked, he would have been drummed off the board by now.

Why do some people bother with partners at all? Surely, a quick visit to a sperm bank, job done - just deal with the fussiness of any resulting children

Because children rely on us to look after them and an adult is capable of sorting themselves out. There's enough to do at home without returning to the fifties where we sit and worry about making our husbands happy with a meal on the table when he gets in.

I try and so stuff we will all eat. As with everyone else occasionally recipes don't work out or it's clear in the morning that the kids are knackered and unlikely to be responsive to anything more than sausages and chips and beans.

I would expect an adult to either request something if there was anything they really fancied or to eat what there was. If he didn't like it that's fine just say and it won't be made again for him. I wouldn't expect an adult to strop over a perfectly decent soup that has all the components of a meal they have eaten before many a time, or fail to grasp a simple concept of not being an arse to the wife.

Or of course make themselves something else of they just didn't fancy it which does sometimes happen. But again it didn't require being rude and mean about it.

Who are these childish people who get so upset because their dinner isn't exactly what they wanted?

Indeed.

DH and I sort of half-plan our meals each week, we will do the shop (online) together and say "ooh what about xxxxx" or "could we have yyyyyy this week" and buy ingredients accordingly. Other than that it's whatever the cooking person feels like making. It doesn't have to be something I really really want, it's just food. Sometimes it's not what I fancy but hey I've got an effort free meal so why complain.

If you want something specific you either 1. Arrange/request in advance, 2. Cook it yourself or 3. Get thee to a restaurant/takeaway and pay for it.

And you're all being unreasonable continuing this conversation because now I WANT NOODLE SOUP

But we've done our weekly shop so it'll have to wait til next week.

Absolutely jen i just roared internally 'well you fucking cook then you ungrateful bastad' ahem

think ive been on here a bit much

I wouldn't want a bowl of soup for an evening meal on a cold day if I was hungry. But if he wanted something else let him get his own.

Sounds good to me. We often have home made chicken soup with barley for an evening meal or Tuscan barley soup or Canadian split pea with ham. Lots of bread and maybe a chunk of cheese-it couldn't be nicer,

Both me and dh would not want soup for dinner and both hate the idea of putting good beef in a watery mess.

If I have to have soup for dinner I would wonder one of two things

One... Why have we not been shopping properly
Two... Crap!! So glad it's pay day tomorrow

Just had Heinz tomato soup for tea, no bread either. Funnily enough I'm not starving. DH would easily have the same (with bread) and not moan (and he is a largish man )
Your DH is rude, and a food snob. Your meal sounds lovely.

Caboodle, you might want to check the calorie content on a portion of Heinz tomato soup. I got a shock when I checked a few years back although can't remember what it is. It isn't enough for an adult's main meal of the day on its own.