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About DH's attitude towards the meal I cooked?

268 replies

FlatsInDagenham · 03/02/2014 19:43

I used the leftover beef and made beef noodle soup. It was delicious - full of ginger, garlic, chilli, soy, stock, vegetables, coriander, masses of noodles and lots and lots of lovely leftover roast beef. A massive panful, enough to feed at least 6, just for me and DH (DC don't eat chillies) with plenty left to freeze for another day.

DH complained that he didn't want 'soup' for his evening meal. I pointed out that exactly the same components on a plate with less water would have been a stir fry. He said that you get less in a bowl. I offered to get him another bowl. He said (with disgust) that he didn't want two bowls of soup for his tea.

I spent ages making that soup and it was bloody delicious, and healthy too.

Just had to have a moan about it here.

Angry

And ask you: Am I being unreasonable to serve up soup for an evening meal?

OP posts:
curlew · 04/02/2014 09:02

Nothing to do with whether or not you're on the poverty line Hmm. I love using up leftovers. I just wouldn't use enough leftover roast beef for 6 to make soup with.

dreamingbohemian · 04/02/2014 09:05

I'd love to see how the sanctimonious on here would react if they were served up something they didn't find fulfilling.

If it wasn't physically enough food, I'd make myself something additional later.

If it wasn't emotionally satisfying, I would get on with my life, knowing there are thousands and thousands of more meals in my future.

GhettoPrincess001 · 04/02/2014 09:10

Soup for dinner ? Is that all he gets to eat at the end of the working day ?

Soup is ok for lunch or a starter but the whole meal ? (Anyone have a problem with the word, 'meal' ? Deal with it.)

I wouldn't dare serve just soup to my husband at the end of the working day. It's beyond my self respect.

Why couldn't you have made a stir fry with noodles with those ingredients ?

nennypops · 04/02/2014 09:11

Did he even try it? Surely the time to complain is after he's had a bowlful (or even two) if he still feels he hasn't had a full meal at that point?

It sounds absolutely lovely, I'd have it like a shot.

NumanoidNancy · 04/02/2014 09:13

Ooh i made a very similar Ramen style soup last night (mine has lime juice and beansprouts in it too) it is a delicious meal, my ex used to love it and he was an army marathon runner type, seemed like it was filling enough for him. Your DH is def being an arse. Plenty of cultures around the world would have similar as a regular normal main meal.

FuckingWankwings · 04/02/2014 09:16

Ghetto, what's the difference between a beef noodle stir fry and a beef noodle soup, with the same ingredients?

And the rest of your post makes you sound like a 50s relic, TBH.

OP, it sounds delicious. My rule is, if someone's made it for you you eat it, say thank you and ideally do the washing/clearing up afterwards. You don't fucking moan.

GhettoPrincess001 · 04/02/2014 09:17

Oh, and I don't think the husband of the OP is being an arse.

Who made/served the soup ? Nuff said.

It's only women that are allowed to speak up isn't it ?

GhettoPrincess001 · 04/02/2014 09:19

Fucking etc...........just go and burn your bra.

FuckingWankwings · 04/02/2014 09:22

Ghetto, what are you on about?

curlew · 04/02/2014 09:22

Wow, ghetto- what rapier wit. What scintillating repartee.......Grin

Actually, the difference between a noodle soup and a stir fry is usually, apart from the obvious presence of stock, the amount of noodles.

Onesleeptillwembley · 04/02/2014 09:26

It sounds lovely. We'd have it for a lunch, but we'd never just have a soup for dinner.

weebarra · 04/02/2014 09:26

Amazed at the number of people who think soup is unacceptable as an evening meal! If we call it pho or laksa is that better?
I often cook Asian soups with shed loads of noodles and veg, DH doesn't complain. Tastes good and generally healthy.

Onesleeptillwembley · 04/02/2014 09:38

Sorry, Wee, whatever you call it it's still a soup, and wouldn't suit us at all.

choceyes · 04/02/2014 09:38

We make a lot of noodle soups and it's just what I would cook for a stir fry (same amount of noodles curlew) just with added stock.

DH cycles 20miles a day and is on his feet all day at work and he loves noodle soups. Lots of protein, veg, and I put shed loads of noodles in (i make enough noodles for 2 people and give him the vast majority of it, I only have a little bit of noodles), with lovely spices and serve it all up in a massive bowl, similar to Wagamamas.
Even with my small amount of noodles, although with loads of veg, it's a very filling dinner for me, and DH also finds it very satisfying.

Although a normal soup bowl sized portion is probably not enough for a dinner. You have to have those massive bowls, that's the difference.

MaidOfStars · 04/02/2014 09:38

We had soup for dinner last night. Tomatoes/sweet potato/butternut squash. Delicious.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 04/02/2014 09:39

I see soup as a lunch, sorry. I always have it at lunchtime at work and am STARVING by tea time. It does sound delicious but I would have had to have something else before I went to bed.

I really don't think that there would be the same amount of noodles in a bowl of soup like that that you would have on a large dinner plate as the base of a stir fry (well, not the amount of noodles that we all like anyway). I would have to have LOADS of bread with it.

choceyes · 04/02/2014 09:41

Those of who that say that soup is not enough of a dinner, is it just the presence of liquid that makes it insubstantial, cos it's still got the same amount of solids in it, just extra liquid? How can it be anymore substancial without the liquid?
x amount of solids = dinner
x amount of solids + stock = not dinner?!

sunshinemmum · 04/02/2014 09:42

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curlew · 04/02/2014 09:43

But it wouldn't be the same amount of solids, would it? I bet there weren't as many noodles as the would be in a stir fry.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 04/02/2014 09:43

I think actually that the next time we have a stir fry I'll try and pour it into a soup bowl and see if it fits. I don't think we have big enough soup bowls - you'd need those massive deep noodle ones.

choceyes · 04/02/2014 09:44

CurlyhairedAssassin - you can buy massive bowls for your noodle soup. I have 2 that I bought from chinese shop, they are the size of a big saucepan.

choceyes · 04/02/2014 09:46

well I cook the same amount of solids as I would do for a stir fry and then bung it all in a chinese broth, so yeah, when I cook it it does have the same amount of solids. Sounds like the OP is similar.

FuckingWankwings · 04/02/2014 10:14

I cook tons of noodles in a noodle soup. If you go somewhere like Wagamama, it's basically a bowl full of noodles with stock/soup poured over. As opposed to a minestrone soup with a few token chopped-up bits of noodle floating in it.

AutumnStar · 04/02/2014 10:18

Ghetto, what a strange thing to say.

Your soup sounds delicious, OP. Your DH sounds like a child.

PrimalLass · 04/02/2014 10:20

But it wouldn't be the same amount of solids, would it? I bet there weren't as many noodles as the would be in a stir fry.

Why on earth not? I have huge noodle bowls from Japan. I would make noodle soup to fill them, and would (obviously IMO) put in the same amount of noodles as I would in a stair fry - one layer each.