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About DH's attitude towards the meal I cooked?

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FlatsInDagenham · 03/02/2014 19:43

I used the leftover beef and made beef noodle soup. It was delicious - full of ginger, garlic, chilli, soy, stock, vegetables, coriander, masses of noodles and lots and lots of lovely leftover roast beef. A massive panful, enough to feed at least 6, just for me and DH (DC don't eat chillies) with plenty left to freeze for another day.

DH complained that he didn't want 'soup' for his evening meal. I pointed out that exactly the same components on a plate with less water would have been a stir fry. He said that you get less in a bowl. I offered to get him another bowl. He said (with disgust) that he didn't want two bowls of soup for his tea.

I spent ages making that soup and it was bloody delicious, and healthy too.

Just had to have a moan about it here.

Angry

And ask you: Am I being unreasonable to serve up soup for an evening meal?

OP posts:
ILoveDHIDo · 03/02/2014 20:58

Soup is not dinner in my opinion but YANBU as his was rude about it considering you spent ages cooking it.

ILoveDHIDo · 03/02/2014 20:59

he* not 'his'. English is my first language believe it or not

NoLikeyNoLighty · 03/02/2014 21:50

It sounds absolutely lovely, but I'm afraid I have to side with your DH as well - soup is NOT a main evening meal!
It'd be pretty poor just to get a bowl of soup or two for your tea if you were absolutely starving! even if it did come with bread
Soup would be great as a starter, or a lunch midday meal. Not main dinner in the evening.

RawShark · 03/02/2014 21:56

It's got noodles in it so, surely, more of an oriental casserole?

My dh does like "soups" for main meal but he wouldn't dream of saying anything about it!

gamerchick · 03/02/2014 22:02

Really glad to get to the end to see that nobody's bitten Grin I was hoping.

Ty for the recipe OP.

angeltulips · 03/02/2014 22:04

Well I learn something every day - I don't know anyone IRL who thinks soup is a) not a suitable evening meal or b) (even more bafflingly) that soup is "vile".

If it makes you feel any better OP, I was cooking a stir fry (no soup) tonight and asked DH to put the broccoli in that is pre cooked in the microwave (with water). He threw the whole bloody lot in, including all the water! He said he thought it was a bit odd that I wanted to add that much water Confused completely ruined it, I had to chuck the noodles & veg and start again

TamerB · 03/02/2014 22:13

I can't see the problem, tell him that you are quite happy with it, if he wants more he can go and cook something.

LindyHemming · 03/02/2014 22:14

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PrimalLass · 03/02/2014 22:17

But it's not soup with a few noodles. It's a shed-load of noodles in broth, with tons of other things. It sounds lovely, I am doing to do a salmon Thai fish soup tomorrow. OH loves it.

TamerB · 03/02/2014 22:18

People need to let people take on their own problems and not accept responsibility.
OP cooked it and happy to eat it.
DH wasn't happy.
Why is that OP's problem? Confused

GwennieF · 03/02/2014 22:25

We had chicken noodle soup this evening, made from yesterday's roast chicken. Seems like a perfectly good main meal to me.

I know DH sometimes fancies something other than what I make for tea but until he starts helping with the meal planning, shopping and cooking, he gets what he's given.

Joysmum · 03/02/2014 22:27

Well, there clearly are people who wouldn't want soup for dinner. I could say I'm happy with a substantial salad got dinner, many wouldn't be happy with that either.

People are entitled to have their own preferences, it's how they express them that's important.

Personally, I'd want my family to express their views politely because it'd save me spending ages in future making stuff they don't appreciate. I like my family to enjoy what I have taken the effort to make.

BlackeyedSusan · 04/02/2014 00:39

6 portions you say? well, thats another four meals you do not have to cook forr yourself. I am sure h will enjoy cooking for himself on those four nights as he does not like soup.

VestaCurry · 04/02/2014 00:56

That's a very well balanced main meal, made with wonderful ingredients. Dh has the appetite of 2 people and when I've made the chicken version of this he finds it really filling, doesn't matter if I use egg or udon style noodles. I serve it in our big pasta bowls, so similar to the Wagamama (main meal) serving.

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Squirrelsmum · 04/02/2014 01:51

I like soup and one with meat, veg and noodles would definitely make a fulfilling meal.
I'd probably dish it up every night for the rest of the week just because of the arsehole attitude he gave.

crazycanuck · 04/02/2014 04:19

Cripes I would have told him to shove it up his jacksy. Who the hell are these people (usually men from what I see on here) who complain about what's been prepared for them? My DH would never be so rude and ungrateful, no matter what he thought about what I'd made, and neither would I when he cooks. My mind boggles at the things I see on here sometimes that people put up with.

quirrelquarrel · 04/02/2014 08:27

it's not a man thing, it's an arse thing Hmm

curlew · 04/02/2014 08:35

He was rude. And so deserves no consideration at all.

However, if he hadn't been rude, I could see that the amount of noodles you get in a bowl of noodle soup-however delicious- may not be enough for a hungry person. It depends on how many you put in.

I can see Dp holding his bowl out with puppy dog eyes until I fished more noodles out of the pot for him.......

MomOfTwoGirls2 · 04/02/2014 08:42

We had lovely spicy prawn noodle soup for dinner last night. DH was it was yummy and had two big bowls. It is a favorite in our house.

Can you batch cook meals that freeze well, spag bol, chili, stew, etc, and have one of these for your DH while you enjoy your soup.

curlew · 04/02/2014 08:43

....although I do think you are stretching the point to say you "spent ages" making it, OP.Grin

Joysmum · 04/02/2014 08:43

I'd love to see how the sanctimonious on here would react if they were served up something they didn't find fulfilling.

Everyone has different tastes. It bugs me my hubby is happiest with fish fingers, mash and beans after I've spent ages cooking something I find delicious from scratch. As polite as he is about it, it galls me but if I want everyone to enjoy, I know not to cook the same again, just like he knows he won't please me by serving up the fish fingers he loves.

curlew · 04/02/2014 08:53

And actually, thinking about it- if you had enough left over roast beef for a substantial soup for 6 why waste it by making soup with it?????????

Joysmum · 04/02/2014 08:58

Exactly curlew

There are far more satisfying meals. We look forward to our evening meal together and that wouldn't be one we'd getting pleasure from. We aren't on the poverty line so can, and are, setting our expectations at family meals we all enjoy. We shouldn't we?

CMOTDibbler · 04/02/2014 08:59

Well, the other day I made pork noodle soup for me and ds that was more than both of us could eat for dinner with one pork chop, and it felt like loads of meat.

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