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Original poster

About DH's attitude towards the meal I cooked?

268 replies

FlatsInDagenham · 03/02/2014 19:43

I used the leftover beef and made beef noodle soup. It was delicious - full of ginger, garlic, chilli, soy, stock, vegetables, coriander, masses of noodles and lots and lots of lovely leftover roast beef. A massive panful, enough to feed at least 6, just for me and DH (DC don't eat chillies) with plenty left to freeze for another day.

DH complained that he didn't want 'soup' for his evening meal. I pointed out that exactly the same components on a plate with less water would have been a stir fry. He said that you get less in a bowl. I offered to get him another bowl. He said (with disgust) that he didn't want two bowls of soup for his tea.

I spent ages making that soup and it was bloody delicious, and healthy too.

Just had to have a moan about it here.

Angry

And ask you: Am I being unreasonable to serve up soup for an evening meal?

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justmyview · 03/02/2014 20:25

Put it through the sieve and return it to the same plate, whilst rolling your eyes?

To be fair, it depends on your relationship. My DH is tactful and polite generally, but I don't take huge offence if he tells me that he likes some meals more than others

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FlatsInDagenham · 03/02/2014 20:27

Recipe for those asking:

Stir fry some chopped ginger, garlic and red chiilies. Add beef stock and coriander stalks, bring to boil then simmer for 30 mins. Add vegetables of your choice (I used peas and cabbage) to cook in the broth. Meanwhile make the noodles, shred the beef, stir some bbq sauce into the beef and then add it all to the soup pan. Season with soy sauce, garnish with coriander leaves and chopped spring onion.

Original idea from Save with Jamie - I have simplified it slightly.

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specialsubject · 03/02/2014 20:27

surprised he isn't wearing it!

TeenageTrauma · 03/02/2014 20:28

You should cook whatever you want and then he has two choices, to eat it and say thank you or to politely decline it and make something himself

I hope you told him to stop being a rude fucker and to cook for himself if your offerings weren't up to scratch

WorrySighWorrySigh · 03/02/2014 20:29

Poor sod cant even make himself a nice sandwich now that you have diluted the beef.

frugalfuzzpig · 03/02/2014 20:29

What a muppet.

I'll be at yours 6pm tomorrow for soup, ok? Sounds gorgeous :o

camsie · 03/02/2014 20:30

It does sound yummy but soup would not fill me up for an evening meal so I agree with your DH.

WilsonFrickett · 03/02/2014 20:32

In the immortal words of another MNer:

He sounds like a throwback.
So you should throw him back.

I may have been saving that one for a special occasion

cosikitty · 03/02/2014 20:33

Well, unless I had had a very substantial lunch I am afraid soup wouldn't be enough for me either, even if it had some noodles in. I don't think he was complaining about the soup, as such, just that it wasn't filling enough for a main meal for him.

Liara · 03/02/2014 20:33

Soup is a perfectly OK evening meal. Particularly the soup you have made. I often serve up plain vegetable or squash soup and get thanked for it.

DH does have a massive appetite and fills up with bread and cheese or boils a couple of eggs on the side if he needs to.

Your dh is an arse, and the only appropriate response is to take it all away (except your bowl) and freeze it.

He can fix his own dinner.

(that would be my reasonable and measured response, btw, at the wrong time of the month he would have ended up with a tin of dog food on his plate!)

Doingakatereddy · 03/02/2014 20:35

My DH has an intense manual job & if I have him soup for dinner he would be very pissed off.

I can see DH point that soup isn't really sufficient but there's ways to saying it.

Mellowandfruitful · 03/02/2014 20:35

Mmm, will be trying that out - have a beef joint in the freezer Smile

How often does he cook, OP? Everyone's allowed to have preferences but it is gracious to express those politely and not to be ungrateful about a meal you have had cooked for you. He has been both rude and ungrateful.

Snowdown · 03/02/2014 20:35

Add some arrowroot and call it a noodle curry! Some people are bloody weird and fussy about food.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 03/02/2014 20:36

YABU about the coriander. Horrid stuff.

He is being a twat generally.

Doingakatereddy · 03/02/2014 20:36

Actually, DH would be livid if I'd used all left over roast beef in a poncy soup.

canweseethebunnies · 03/02/2014 20:37

He is being an arse. My dp often cooks Asian style soups for dinner, and if I'm honest, they're not my favourite thing to eat for an evening meal, but if he cooks, he chooses and I'm nothing but grateful!

monkeynuts123 · 03/02/2014 20:38

I'd be sad with soup too

Liara · 03/02/2014 20:39

Dh has an intense manual job too, doing, and in fact eats only breakfast and dinner but he is not a twat.

There is lots of nutrition in the food that Flats served, if her dh did not want to drink the stock he did not have to, he could have picked out the solid bits.

Who tf are these men who dare complain about food that has been cooked for them?

WorrySighWorrySigh · 03/02/2014 20:39

My DH does all the day to day cooking. We discuss the meals for the week ahead. I would be unhappy if DH decided to ruin the leftover beef by making soup out of it. I would be even more unhappy if he told me that I then had to eat the ghastly mess.

Not everybody likes soup.

HuntingforBunting · 03/02/2014 20:40

He is being a twat. We just had delicious chicken noodle soup of left over roast chicken. I think you should tell him he is being bloody rude but nicely and ask if something else is up, but I'm trusting he's not usually one for behaving like an entitled brat?

HuntingforBunting · 03/02/2014 20:42

And flats thanks for the recipe!

JennyCalendar · 03/02/2014 20:43

YANBU

Noodle soup is a great dinner. DH does all the cooking here and I love it when he does his special chicken noodle soup.

Since when is soup not an adequate dinner?

The way he spoke to you about it is horrible. Is he an arse about other things too?

dreamingbohemian · 03/02/2014 20:45

A sad little can or carton of soup is not enough for dinner

Proper homemade soup with meat, veg and noodles is of course filling enough for dinner! I can't believe so many people think it wouldn't be.

We had homemade broccoli-carrot soup for dinner and couldn't manage more than one bowl each. You can definitely fill up on soup if you make it properly.

Ragwort · 03/02/2014 20:46

I'm another who wouldn't want soup for my main meal (unless as a starter); I loathe my husband's cooking Grin and really, really hate it if he cooks the meal so I can understand that he might feel the same way about my cooking Grin. My DH is never as blunt as the OP's DH has been but I can tell if he doesn't like something and to be fair, I would avoid cooking him something if I knew it wasn't really to his taste.

Original poster
FlatsInDagenham · 03/02/2014 20:46

He cooks at the weekends. He will cook on a weeknight too as long as I plan and shop for it. He works full time and I work part time but I'm home all day during the week with young DC.

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