DM and DD1's prom dress

[Ladyfarquhar]

I really don't know if I am bu, but I'm feeling a bit sad.

DD1 is having her end of school prom this summer, she is beginning to get a bit stressed as all her friends have gone shopping and seem to be all sorted. So, Friday evening it was arranged to go shopping but when it came to it she wanted to go with friends for food so I agreed to go another time. We have had a look on line and talked about what she was looking for and I was really looking forward to going with her to choose, and talked about making a day of it.

Last night she stayed at my DM, I don't have the best relationship with her but DD1 is her first grandchild and she does go on occasion and stay the night.

I texted this morning to ask if she wanted to go shopping for the dress today, but got no answer, I tried ringing but no answer, so just got on with house stuff.

I have just got a text from her saying she is in town with DM and she has her prom dress. I am gutted. I know the main thing was she has her dress but AIBU to think my DM would of asked me if it was something I would like to do before going? I know they wouldn't of gone to town and just happended to see a dress, it would of been pre planned as trips into town isn't something they have ever done before.

i think it is just something some mums like to do thats all tbh i wasn't that fussed when dd went to hers traipsing round the shops is my idea of hell but she did ask for my opinion and made sure i liked the one she chose it is a bit of a big deal for them I know to some of us it seems trivial but the teens get excited about it and then the mums can too, it is the end of era kids leaving school going to a dance to celebrate the leaving and moving on to the next step of their life and tbh the op just wanted to spend time with her DD picking her frock,

Mrsjay- I can see why the party is a big deal to the teenager but I don't understand why a parent would think it important to choose a dress with them. It's fine if you personally want to make it a big deal but you shouldn't get annoyed with other people (e.g. grandparents) for not getting it.

whatever5.
have you a dd who has had a prom?

i would advise waiting til then before passing comments.

LucyLasticBand- it will happen in the not too distant future and unless I have a personality transplant between now and then I seriously doubt that I will see buying a dress with her as a big deal.

Sounds an ideal outcome - someone else has done the legwork with your DD on the shopping front, and you can just swan in, give final approval (and pay for it).

To anyone who doesn't have a daughter who thinks shopping with a DD is the most wonderful experience . . . it isn't.

She's 18! I am surprised she wants to shopbwith either of you, to be honest. I sure as hell was not shopping with my Mum at that age.

Als, it's February FFS, talk about getting over excited. So much more to think about in your final 6months of school than dresses. Horrible Americanisation of the UK.

I am getting married in June and haven't even tried on any dresses yet.

my youngest daughter likes shopping with me well me going with her with my purse I have a feeling when it is her prom next year i will be trawling round shops with her sigh it is exciting for them and sometimes mums need to get caught up in the excitement if that is what we want even if we think it is dreary they are to old to be shopping with mummy or whatever,