DM and DD1's prom dress

[Ladyfarquhar]

I really don't know if I am bu, but I'm feeling a bit sad.

DD1 is having her end of school prom this summer, she is beginning to get a bit stressed as all her friends have gone shopping and seem to be all sorted. So, Friday evening it was arranged to go shopping but when it came to it she wanted to go with friends for food so I agreed to go another time. We have had a look on line and talked about what she was looking for and I was really looking forward to going with her to choose, and talked about making a day of it.

Last night she stayed at my DM, I don't have the best relationship with her but DD1 is her first grandchild and she does go on occasion and stay the night.

I texted this morning to ask if she wanted to go shopping for the dress today, but got no answer, I tried ringing but no answer, so just got on with house stuff.

I have just got a text from her saying she is in town with DM and she has her prom dress. I am gutted. I know the main thing was she has her dress but AIBU to think my DM would of asked me if it was something I would like to do before going? I know they wouldn't of gone to town and just happended to see a dress, it would of been pre planned as trips into town isn't something they have ever done before.

I'd be grateful as hell. My parents are both dead, before the kids were born so I think it's nice she can share moments like that with her gran. If it was her wedding dress I'd cry in a bowl of custard for a week.

Book a day before where you both get hair done, nails etc.

You're getting the fun bits. Buying dresses ain't fun. I'd rather do the fun stuff, accessories and preening!

You have too much time on your hands me thinks.

Not probably.....ABSOLUTELY! X

That was to worra btw...

I am very glad that its all sorted OP, but please... its should HAVE, not should OF

Awww. Well done for coming back and admitting your boob OP . Now FGS don't let your DD see this thread!!

YANBU, I would feel upset too but as another poster said it's not the end of the world, you can do the whole accessories/hair appointment thing instead. At least now she has her dress you'll know what accessories and shoes to look for. When you don't know is when stressful shopping days happen and the fun day imagined is gone. You've avoided that now!

Oooh, well said pixiestix - my teeth were beginning to itch with the "would/could/should OFs" !!!

We bought dd's dress online thank god.

I am hoping she doesn't want me to go and choose a wedding dress in the future.

Without wishing to derail Pixie and Dance - your rudeness is far more tooth-provoking than an error - by a country mile. Such appallng bad manners. Tsk!

OP - what a star you are for updating. I hope you enjoy the trying and buying trip with your DD and that she has a great time at her prom.

Ladymariner

If you think that that was rude you must have (not must of) led a very sheltered life Lets.

No. I grew up in a rough enough area. I just value good manners

at mrsjay condescendingly before asking if she has a swatch of fabric in her handbag....

noo not at all

LadyF, well done for having the good grace to own up .

Get yourself a large glass of wine.

We bought dd's dress online thank god. I am hoping she doesn't want me to go and choose a wedding dress in the future.

Wedding dress shopping was painless.
We went to one place (one where they did private appointments, but not hugely expensive compared to others).

No more than three dresses were tried on. No 2 was chosen.
I cried (and I'm normally not that soppy).
It was lovely.

mrsjay please tell me.....you didn't tell me the exact place I must go to in order for ds to waste spend his hard earned cash on a corsage, did you???? You're not....(dramatic drum roll) PROMZILLA??????????

Oh, I love, love, love a happy ending.

Happy prom dress shopping.

jsut read update,
so pleased for you op,
aww. your lovely dd.

brokenhearted. The uk is awash with American influence. A prom is just another name for an end of year party. The kids enjoy it. Some of the dresses are a bit naff but it's a nice way to celebrate finishing school.

I'm a bit perplexed by this thread. Since when was buying a "prom dress" with your mother a big deal in the UK? I would be really pleased if my mother went out with my daughter and bought a dress for her. It would save me a job (and money).

please tell me.....you didn't tell me the exact place I must go to in order for ds to waste spend his hard earned cash on a corsage, did you???? You're not....(dramatic drum roll) PROMZILLA?????

oh good god no I dont know why i got humphy at the boyfriend going i guess i thought it was a thing for my dd and her school friends to go to together and he had already left school I never said anything to her hated he was in the photie though that i paid for tut

what is with the uk US references so what a school does an end of leaving do they call it prom some mums want to buy a dress with their daughters it is not a huge deal whatever5 you sounded quite sneery if you ever have a dd of that age will you tell her no it is a load of bollocks i am not going to go and chose a dress with you at all

mrsjay- of course i would choose a dress with her if she wanted me to. I just wouldn't be at all bothered if she chose it with someone else (e.g. my mother).
I am not sneering about it but we didn't have a prom or even a leavers party when I left school (mid 1980s). It's nice that people now do but I'm honestly surprised that people think buying a dress for it with their daughters is a big deal.