Or is my husband - re: repeated information

[DolomitesDonkey]

I've got a good memory and whilst I'm not a fan of labelling the quirky - had I been born in the last decade I'd be "in the spectrum".

On Thursday there were pictures in the media of that house in Italy which was nearly crushed by a giant boulder.

Yesterday morning my husband asked me if I'd seen it, I replied yes, I'd seen and read about it Thursday.

In the evening he asked me whether I'd seen the house in Italy blah blah blah.

I said "yes. You asked me this already today and my answer is the same as this morning - I saw it Thursday". He got grumpy and said he couldn't remember and that I'm arsey.

This is just one example, and by my own admission, I sometimes ignore him when he asks a question because it's repeated information/query or just plain dumb.

AIBU and a massive bitch or do repeats cause your soul to wither too?

Plus being diagnosed with aSD is a lot more than being academically brilliant but a little "quirky".

I'm sorry you feel that way. I believe that we are given intelligence and analytical skills which allow us to process information and make informed decisions and draw conclusions without needing to ask only "professionals". We all need to learn to trust ourselves rather than constantly deferring to others to make decisions. I digress, this has nothing to do with the topic.

I know where my family reside on the scale. It's quite normal for our family - but I think it's incredibly insulting to be labelled "SEN" just because you're different.

It's also quite ironic non that you are able to diagnose both myself AND my uncle as non-spectrum due to my posts here - despite your protestations of "armchair diagnosis".

"SEN" is not an insult.

And getting a diagnosis is not some failure to use your own intelligence. .

What a crock, sorry.

Dolomites Do you have any idea how that kind of statement can harm a parent that perhaps is just coming to terms with their child having SNs??? Saying that it's "damaging" and "bringing them down and clipping their wings" to get a diagnosis??

It's not that you've chosen "not to live life by labels" (oh, and by the way, having a label or diagnosis does NOT make you a victim), it's that you seem to find it easier to toss about the phrase "on the spectrum" to excuse your impatient and rude behaviour.

Your family sound perfectly functioning as they are.

Not everyone has that luxury so you would do well to think a little before sounding so smug about not needing a diagnosis.

In what way is it incredibly insulting to be labelled "SEN"?

Actually, I didn't say anything about your uncle at all. And I didn't diagnose you either. (YOU did that) I simply said that having a good memory and being pedantic does not automatically mean you are on the spectrum. Which is perfectly correct.

So much for that intelligence and analytical skills which allow us to process information. Try reading the responses.

Another thing that happens to me and DH is that the initial description of d

...something "imprints" and changes don't. Eg discuss plan to meet friend in London. Discuss change of plan to meet friend in Reading. Ask what train we are getting to london to meet friend.

Does your DH do that kind of thing?

Let's see. You've slammed SNs, someone's made a comment about "gay"... I guess we're just waiting for someone to chime in with a racist remark and someone can yell "bingo!"

KingRolo, I know you are trying to be light hearted, but I have reported your post. Using 'gay' as an insult really isn't on.

Cross post Alice

YABU. I can understand annoyance in cases like that of the poster up the thread who talked at length about an appointment she was terrified of, only to have her husband subsequently ask her if she was going anywhere nice. That is deeply frustrating, as he's 'forgotten' something personal, emotive and important.

But a house crushed by a rock on the news isn't important (unless it's your house, obviously). Your husband was just making conversation. Look up the phatic function of communication.

Oh god, not back to 'calling someone who is gay/black/chinese a big gay/black/chinese twat isn't offensive''

Surely not?

OP - my DH does this. all.the.time.

Classic example is asking me what's for dinner, after I have told him a few times. So we got a blackboard in the kitchen and I now write the dinner on. He still asks.

Drives me nuts.

Having ASD DX is not clipping someone's wings.

In fact since we began the DX process myself and my DS have flourished - mostly thanks to the wonderful ladies on MNSN - but also due to the fact we have adapted to meet his needs and his thought processes.

I do think your rude actually and that is not because you may or may not be 'in the spectrum'