Re DH's friends wedding

[Juno77]

DH friend is getting married later in the year. DH is the best man. I am due to give birth 6 weeks prior to the wedding.

DH is going away on stag weekend (abroad) when child is 3 weeks old. I don't mind this, but it is a factor in my current annoyance.

Wedding is in a really fancy hotel, about 50 miles from where we live. We aren't planning to bring the children anyway.

We were planning to stay 2 nights in fancy hotel, as DH has plans with the groom and other friends the day/evening before. I was happily going to relax in the hotel, maybe go to the spa, go for a nice walk, just relax child free. Spend the night together, and wake up on the morning of the wedding and take my time getting ready, relaxing breakfast by myself etc.

DH friend has now told him he's booked them a room for the night before (along with a third friend). So, DH is staying the night before, and I will just have to sort myself out in the morning and make my own way to the hotel, already dressed for the wedding (as check in is too late to get ready there).

I'm pissed off. AIBU? And if so, should I be pissed with DH? Is it really his fault? Should he say no, or should we be more accommodating to the plans of the groom?

For the purposes of not drip feeding;

1. It's over £200 a night so I don't want to spend that on a room for the night before, by myself.
2. I'm not friendly with the bride at all

I've read them. They were ridiculous.

It doesn't bother me Bumblebee. I'm just wondering what people have gotten so particularly worked up about. I think it's just because I've posted lots - but as I said, that was because I was replying to other people's posts to me.

Which one in particular Harold?

And it just keeps going.

you too stay - you've called me 'disgraceful' I think? Or something else. What have you based that on.

I think it's your complete lack of self awareness as to what you have said that is most disconcerting.

No, sorry - my comments were outrageous. Which ones did you find outrageous compared to other people's?

Have a good time at the wedding Juno.

You too RJ - go back - because it was quite interesting to read some of your first posts to me.

And it just keeps going.

You know, when I was a kid I used to hate those Duracell bunny ads.

Well the couple at around 6.30 where you accused the OP of being more concerned about her bags was ridiculous.

She posted about going to the wedding, she wasn't asking about wether to leave the baby because clearly as she tried to explain numerous times, she is confident that her parents are well able to do this for a weekend.

And I am not trawling through anymore.

And I haven't singled you out in my previous posts, you weren't alone in being ridiculous.

But you did ask.

perfectstorm - example of my 'disgraceful' comments? no?

I can't copy your messages (because I don't know how on my phone) but you have made comments that are really judgy and hurtful. I'm sure you didn't mean it to come across like that but it has. I think you have been so persistent about it that you have drawn attention to yourself, especially from people that don't share your view.

I wasn't the only one to say that Harold so not sure why that would make me particularly unreasonable.

Op very supposed to read you have been here for 10 years, surely you should have antipated the responses you would receive?

It is the overall tone of your posts, smugly alluding to the OP as an uncaring mother who just needs to be set straight Bumbley....when she never asked for your opinion on her parenting choices in the first place!

You made your point the first time, but seeing as she did not crumble under your disapproving eye, you saw fit to make it again and again and again, ramming it down her throat!

And now you wonder why people are getting angry with you?!
Are you really so bull headed as to not understand that your responses here are totally inappropriate? You have no right!

That is why I asked what you are hoping to gain?

Your horrible comments to Juno and Rhonda of course.

Maybe she could have but it dosent make them right in my opinion.

Bumblebee - I have been persistent in replying to other people's posts to me. A small percentage of my posts were directed at the OP. Perhaps if people weren't so intent on accusing people of being 'hippy-parent-lentil-weaver-attached-at-the-umbilical-cord-with-no-life' I wouldn't have had to post so often but there you go!

Well one of my first posts to you, three hours ago, suggested you step away from the thread for your own sake.

You didn't, you kept on picking, at me and everyone else. You have posts proflifically on this thread but at no point have you shown you have the emotional capacity to either understand the effect your words may have on others, or to understand that others may have differing views to you but that does not mean they are wrong and you are right.

You've kept going for hours and hours and hours - posting near constantly.

Fwiw, none of your posts have been interesting, merely opinionated and at times downright nasty.

For me it was your horrible comment directed to the OP about enjoying herself in the spa while her newborn was screaming itself hoarse. Conveniently deleted now, of course. But fucking nasty.

bumble it's really patronising to keep telling me that I should consider I might have a 'high needs baby' that won't settle for anyone else, when I have repeatedly stated that that isn't my style of parenting.

The baby will settle for other people. I won't be BFing, I won't be co-sleeping, I won't be caring more than 50% of the time for the baby.

All babies will settle with other people than the mother. We've gone over this. It just depends how happy the mother is to allow this to happen, as it can take time. Some think this is distressing for a baby. I don't.

And I have explained the make up bag situation. It was a descriptor, not a literal issue.

Please stop repeating these points. You sound obsessive.

Bumble seriously I don't agree with you. I didn't single you out and I'm not trawling through the thread copying and pasting everything you posted.

Surely you can read your posts and see what people are on about?

I didn't single you out in any of my previous comments so that's all I have to say on the matter really.

Lol Perfectstorm!