DH and i have different parenting styles and until yesterday i thought that these were compatable but different but ive since found out that he has been undermining me.
the situation in question is getting ready in the morning.
I believe that if a child can dress themselves they should dress themselves becuase it teaches them independance
DH thinks that its a parents job to help them get dressed, and if they dont then they are a bad parent
As DD has got older i thought i was teaching her independence, by letting her get herself ready for school, she would check she had everything she needed and she would learn the consequences for not being prepared. Having said that, on occasion she has not had the right equipment for school i have taken it to the school later on that day. whenever she said 'you didnt remind me to have my pe kit' i would say... well it is your pe kit and im not the one who does pe, but i will go and get it for you
But it seems that DH has been undermining me. every evening he goes into her room and gets her uniform out and puts it on a hanger in her wardrobe (so i dont see it) He even puts knickers and socks on there for her ffs! if she has sports then the sports bag is on the hanger too
so she had a meltdown yesterday becuase he hadnt got her uniform ready and she felt that she couldnt do it herself. I helped her obviously, but now im well pissed off at him because we have a 10 year old who cannot pick what to wear when she has a wardrobe full of uniform.
AIBU? how do i challenge him, becuase i can see this turning into a huge row where he makes me feel like a bad mum 