To get pissed off some days with living with a fussy eater.

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DH.

He is perfectly capable of making his own meals but it's nice for us all to sit down and eat the same meal of an evening.

He is rubbing off on ds which pisses me off the most.

He has annoyed me tonight with his fussiness, I could happily tip tomorrow's tea over his head right now.

Frustrating is an understatement.

YANBU.

There's one of those in this house.

If they won't eat what's on offer that's tough, I don't cook separately for them. I don't pander to their fussiness. I don't discuss it any more. In this case a lot of it seems to be attention-seeking so I don't feed that either.

I'd feel very resentful if I was cooking separate meals or altering the nature/timing of the family mealtimes to accommodate a fussy eater.

if OH was a fussy eater I would not let him eat with us. Just not worth the headaches of him rubbing off on little ones

My dh is a bit fussy and I've. Consigned myself to a life of no chilli
Or mushroom
Or squid.

I could go on

Keeps th food bill down though!

I can't abide adult fussy eaters. It's just so toddlerish!

I'm a fussy eater :-( definitely not something I feel great about

Won't eat ANY fruit or veg or salad items.
Unless it's chicken nuggets or spam or chips he won't touch it.

I'm working tomorrow,won't get in till after 6 so I've done a Bolognese to put in the slow cooker tomorrow. I've grated carrot & chopped up a red onion into tiny bits. He looked in it and said "I'm not eating any of that".
Fine, he can sort his own tea out, mine is made & will be lovely.

Twat off twatty.....

Can you give us some examples op? What does he say when you call him on the fact that your child is starting to copy it?

Yanbu. I would be pissed off every single day, every single meal.

Don't know how you can stand it.

Infact, I could never have settled down with a fussy eater. When it is your child you have no choice, but when it is an adult ...

He cleared his fucking plate last time I made it in the exact same way.
I have to hide all fresh good stuff.

Get him to do the cooking!

Unless it's chicken nuggets or spam or chips he won't touch it.

Sorry, with an adult being that fussy I would leave him to sort himself. No way would I be catering to such childish levels of fussiness, especially not if its rubbing off on your child.

Twat off twatty is right.

Fussy eaters are irritating (imo) but when they are rude with it they can twat off!

Everyone has a few preferences and pet hates and of course that's perfectly fine and I will accommodate it at home, but when the list of they Won't eat is longer than what they Will they can find someones to cater to them.

He can make his own dinner.

Well ds (10) & dh are very close. They go everywhere together, do loads together. When they go anywhere to eat...usually McDonald's or some such, ds will have what dh has....without salad or veg.

I send a pot of grapes or an Apple with him & insist he eats these before he has any shit.
If dh cooks for them, it's always without veg.
If he makes ds a packed lunch for school, I have to insist he puts fruit in.

That would annoy me too. Child fussiness is one thing (and I know all about that, having an ASD child with food texture issues), but adults who are ridiculously fussy wind me right up. My friend's DH won't eat veg (including tiny bits of onion etc chopped up in sauce) - he always asks for no veg/ salad in restaurants and if they serve it up with a salad garnish for example, he sends it back!

Wouldn't let them eat with you, really? My wife is a VERY fussy eater and she eats at the table with us. Because, you know, we're a family and that's what families do. Maybe I should consign her to the scullery and rustle up a curry...

He cleared his fucking plate last time I made it in the exact same way.I have to hide all fresh good stuff.

why are you enabling him? hes a grown up. don't leave someone with these issues in charge of providing nutrition for your child but don't hide his fucking veg. Tell him to sort his shit out.

My dp was like this when I met him, he would disect every meal and pick out anything that looked like it might have vitamins in it

I refused to ttc until he had dealt with his unhealthy attitude to food, I didn't want to be telling a child they had to try everything on their plate whilst dp ate chips with ketchup on.

Dp did sort out his eating issues and now eats everything apart from raw tomatos.

We have one in this house :(

If he doesn't eat what I cook it is his own bloody fault if he's hungry!

Oh ffs. Does he feel ok about giving your dcs the message that it's ok to eat no fruit or veg then? What grown adult willingly eats only spam or chicken nuggets?

I couldn't have married someone like this. (Dh was a bit fussy when I first met him but I educated him)

Sorry that's not v helpful but you are absolutely NBU!

To me, that's less about fussy, and more about rudeness and having bad manners.

I can't stand this self-indulgent crap from adults, of course they can eat fruit and veg they just choose not to. This is one thing that really gets my goat!

Kids allowed to be fussy grow up into fussy adults.

LTB