To get pissed off some days with living with a fussy eater.

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DH.

He is perfectly capable of making his own meals but it's nice for us all to sit down and eat the same meal of an evening.

He is rubbing off on ds which pisses me off the most.

He has annoyed me tonight with his fussiness, I could happily tip tomorrow's tea over his head right now.

Frustrating is an understatement.

But 2 is when children can become fussy as a stage and it's only a stage. We were always told we had to try what was on our plates. If we didn't like one bit then we could leave it. (We're always bits we would eat). Neither dsis or I was particularly fussy and after a while we ate most stuff. Dsis spent a fair bit of her early childhood thinking she only ate chicken (which came from chickens, sheep, cows, pigs).

There's a difference between managing a toddler's sudden fussiness and hopefully getting them through it to a 30 odd year old man chucking his toys out the cost because he's given a vegetable. And as for 'I'm not eating that shit'. How bloody rude.

Cost should be cot.
We're should be were

I think it's funny how so much fussiness surrounds fruit and veg, you rarely get someone complaining how they can't eat eat processed foods, it's always some aversion to peas/cucumber/satsumas/anything green, generally makes me think it stems from a big deal being made about how healthy foods have to be eaten

You might have a point there, Sooperdooper

My DS is majorly fussy about fruit and veg. But he is also majorly fussy about sweets, biscuits and cakes. He is an equal ops fusser

I've got a v wide palate, but I think it's also very insensitive.
I was eating Danish blue cheese at just over a year old, apparently, I'm a huge chili fiend, love venison and aged beef (so maybe not all that insensitive, as I can tell the difference).

DS is a bit of a supertaster, like his dad, but he will also devour capers and olives.

DD is a blue cheese and chili fiend, like me - she found a bird's eye chili when she was two (I thought I'd picked them all out). She screamed for a minute or so then carried on chowing down.... Poor DS would still be in therapy!

Oddly enough, though, neither of them like potatoes!

I do get food aversions, though, although mine are texture-based and I wonder how many aversions are like this. Aubergines and the middle of courgettes make me heave, and nothing will make me eat them. Love a good moussaka, but I have to pick the aubergines out. Crunchy really does it for me....love crunchy things.

Most do though. Your son's experience wouldn't be typical, it would be outside most people's experience. Nobody thinks they are a better mother than you, but for most people the age 2 fussiness does fade away.

OP YANBU

DP had a far more limited diet when we got together. I think it's something to do with how food and mess when eating was handled when he was growing up.

Much better now. Combination of maturity and having to eat well with the kids I think.

Mine wont eat cheese, yogurt, exotic fruit or veg, fish other than cod and cheesecake. He is a traditional meat & 2 veg man but it has to be carrots & potatoes man as aubergines (which I love) are too fancy).

I am fussy. Not purposely, but a lot of foods are quite bitter, and I can really taste it. Broccoli is just about bearable, but cabbage, sprouts and cauliflower are just so bitter they make me gag. Coffee is so bitter that just the smell makes me retch.

I dish up all of these things to my DC's, and all bar one love them. So I'm not passing on my food issues to them, but equally I can't just suddenly not gag at how bitter they are.

I can't eat many processed foods, because anything that contains sweeteners gives me a massive headache, makes me vomit copiously, and get itchy hives. I'd far rather eat the contents of my fruit bowl than a low fat yoghurt...

My dh insists he is not that bad. But winges when I make anything fish related. However when I put it down in gr

Sorry posted too soon. Put down in front of him he invariably eats it.
Have been training him over the years - he now eats salad and meat other than chicken and beef - still winges when I tell him what I have made - then wolfes down and pronounced it is good! Then forgets he liked it last time and winges the next time!!!! Like living with a child!

My younger daughter became fussy around 2, and this developed into extreme fussiness until at 6 years she would only eat 1 variety of white bread, 1 variety of cheddar and cherry tomatoes (and any amount of sweets and ice cream). When she started to get funny about tomatoes, we decided to see a specialist psychologist who worked with eating disorders. She identified it as a type of anxiety disorder - a food phobia. We had to gradually reintroduce foods with her agreement, in small amounts, starting with ones that she had most recently dropped off. We were told to use ice cream as a reward for eating the food alongside her usual dinner. It was slow progress at first, but then as she added new foods in, she gradually lost her anxiety about food, and it became faster. At age 11, she made a decision to try all new foods and not be fussy any more.

She is still a bit fussy compared to the rest of us. She often prepares her own meals (aged 13 now) but also eats a lot of our food. It is more noticeable when we travel or are away from home. Extreme fussiness can be treated, but takes determination. I'm glad we got help when we did.

My response to my DC's is similar - poo on a plate. It stemmed from a joke when I was crap at cooking (now thankfully vastly improved). When DD was tiny, and I first attempted a beef stew, I dished it up, and her question was "why have you given me poo on a plate?!"

And it kind of stuck. She was 3yo then, almost 16 now. And the stock response when asked what's for dinner is still "poo on a plate".

Don't worry, my stews now look like stews, the DC aren't going to starve!

I don't think it fair to say there's children starving in other countries so buck up

My comments weren't aimed at fussy toddlers, rather at grown men who can't stand the texture of a certain vegetable or won't eat beef that the gravy has touched or can only eat processed shite or whatever. The 'sensitive palettes'.

And I stand by my statement that I'm damned sure that these issues don't exist in the third world.

I think I know where Bones is coming from.

I am at the end of my tether with my friend. I don't care about what her dds will or won't eat. Rude comments about food and screaming matches when forced to sit at the table have spoilt every meal they have ever eaten in my house. Both girls are chubby and won't eat anything remotely healthy. I've told my friend that in future, she can bring them what they will eat to my house herself. I've also said we need to get to a place we can sit around the table nicely. If they can't, they can eat in the other room. They are lovely girls in every way, other than at bedtime but that isn't my problem.

My DN is restricted about what she will eat. We sort out things she likes and don't pressure her to try new things or comment about the different food my ds is eating. Nothing is good or bad and there is no judgment about food choices. She has lovely manners and doesn't make rude comments about food or pretend to be sick like my friend's DC. Mealtimes are tranquil and enjoyable.

Exasperation! My 20 year old son has Aspergers - he will only eat yellow(ish) food. Every single day he has to have different food to us, this has been a lifelong thing. It drives me demented - its the only thing about the whole Asperger's I can't get a handle on even today all these years on from him being diagnosed. It costs a fortune to feed him as his shopping list is different to the main house one. When he was little, he was physically sick if he had food that was not yellow - to the point the doc's told me to just give him what he wanted as he was underweight and needed to eat. He had therapy - people would sit with him and get him to try foods, he would vomit. We couldn;t do a thing about it.
Yellow - pizza, cheese, yoghurt, fish fingers, swede mash, breadcrumb coated chicken. Cheese spread - you get the jist, yellow or almost yellow. Aside from the chicken, he is a virtual vegetarian. Perversely, he will only drink Dr Pepper though. Argh! I was told peer pressure would change this - at school he would do as others did - not a chance of it. He is the exact same now at 20 as he was at 6.
I feel your pain!!

I would have thought that chicken nuggets were the last thing that someone with a 'sensitive palette' would eat - they're revolting! My DH told me that he was allergic to curry, back when we got together. He was sick every time he ate it. Turned out he'd only ever tried it after a night out with the lads, and it was the copious amount of beer that was making him sick, not the curry :)

I dont think im fussy. I love sprouts and lots of vegetables and have a varied diet, but others say im very fussy.

I wont eat meat on the bone as it makes me gag, I wont eat bananas or mushrooms even if buried in smoothies or pie for example, I don't eat left overs or pre packaged sandwiches, rare/medium rare meat etc. Also any oven potato products make me vomit..not good if eating with someone who is also eating, I have put my DP off his food due to being sick over him when served potato wedges.

For me it's mainly texture issues and also fear of food poisoning.

Another one here who is a "fussy" eater.

Where is the line between "fussy" and "don't like something"? Because, quite honestly, as an adult, I don't see why I should eat something if I really don't like it. I LOATHE cooked or melted cheese and the smell alone makes me heave. Eggs are the same. It's not a question of being "not keen", I really HATE quite a lot of foods - usually taste, but sometimes texture (fruit, for instance). If I like the taste of something but the texture is an issue, I have tried to make myself like something but trying it regularly but it just makes me gag. Which is unpleasant for other people when dining out.

My friends and family are aware of this and, bless them, they make allowances and occasionally will cook something separate for me from other people, just as I do if I am having people round for dinner and one has a nut allergy, or one is a vegetarian.

I have to say, I don't LIKE not liking a lot of foods. It limits where I can often go out to eat. At a wedding recently, I literally ate NOTHING off the menu (interestingly, there were eight on my table and three of us didn't touch a thing, so maybe I'm not so "fussy" after all).

My ex was vegetarian. We managed for 10 years. Sometimes we cooked for ourselves, sometimes we cooked for each other, sometimes we cooked something we could both have and just add in one other item.