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To have not put make up on dd?

292 replies

selfdestructivelady · 13/01/2014 10:11

We went to a children's birthday party Saturday. All the little girls had make up on and all the parents were saying how pretty each other's dds make up looked. Dd is 4 yo the others were aged 4-5 they had nail polish eyeshadow and lip gloss on.

OP posts:
HavantGuard · 14/01/2014 11:29

The risk of allergic reactions aree a side issue for me.

My views are that the kind of person who puts makeup on their child isn't one I want to discuss anything with. They're a lost cause. The expression 'kiddy eyeshadow' tells me everything I ever need to know about you.

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 11:30

Of that list your husband will wear nice clothes/shoes and get his haircut. He won't change his skin colour, or his eye lash length or his lip colour to fit in with society.

pictish · 14/01/2014 11:30

But Havant I have told you there has been no adverse effect...do you not believe me?

mrsjay · 14/01/2014 11:30

think that is you told pictish an insult so early in the day

pictish · 14/01/2014 11:31

bear and?

HavantGuard · 14/01/2014 11:31

The longer you are exposed to potential allergens, the higher the risk of developing an allergy to them.

Bowlersarm · 14/01/2014 11:32

Havant you sound a joyful, accepting, rounded, person, indeed.

Quite honestly, I don't think you would be a person I would want to know either (although I don't have a dd to put eyeshadow on, whether I wanted to or not).

Weelady77 · 14/01/2014 11:33

My son tried fake tan! And he Ioves getting a tan abroad!

pictish · 14/01/2014 11:33

Havant - you're the one making it something it isn't. Not me. I see it as dress up - I'm not quite sure what you're reading into it.

And there's no need to become defensive and insulting towards me, because I've put you on the spot and asked you to explain yourself.Don't be so childish. If you can't provide an answert then just say "I don't know".

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 11:33

So in order to look your best you need make-up. Your husband doesn't. Can't you see that this is fundamentally sexist and inequitable.

mrsjay · 14/01/2014 11:35

but i blow dry my hair if i am going out i also dye it so i look presentable what is wrong with doing things to your face hair body to make yourself happy

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 11:36

Because they're five. They shouldn't be prattling about with make-up at that age.

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 11:36

And many if them are only doing it because they are copying mummy

Daykin · 14/01/2014 11:36

My husband is much vainer than me. Do I get a prize?

mrsjay · 14/01/2014 11:37

there is bugger all wrong with looking feminine nothing, being equal has nothing to do with make in a womens day to day life there is bigger issues than make up

pictish · 14/01/2014 11:37

What's the problem with copying mummy?
My dd likes copying the vet too - what's the difference?

Weelady77 · 14/01/2014 11:37

At 5 boys want to dress up as the hulk huge big muscles at 5 girls want to dress up as princesses with make up!

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 14/01/2014 11:38

There is no way I would ever put make up on a 4 or 5 year old, to me it is just wrong. I won't even allow my 9 year old to wear make up.

They do occassionally play with a bit on nail varnish but only at home.

My husband would freak out too if he saw the girls with make up.

I also think it is wrong to be teaching 4 or 5 year olds that they look prettier with make up on. Young children look beautiful as they are and the longer they think that the better.

Daykin · 14/01/2014 11:40

I wish dd would copy me, her room would be much tidier and the washing machine wouldn't be going like the clappers. She isn't into my androgynous genderqueer look though, she has her own thing going on and she gets it from her father

mrsjay · 14/01/2014 11:40

bet the op is terrified to come back to their thread now it has opened the flood gates Grin

HavantGuard · 14/01/2014 11:40

I'm not being insulting, just honest. Someone who puts make up on a child and can't see what's wrong with that isn't worth wasting time on. Google the chemicals if you care. Hopefully it'll never be an issue for your DD.

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 11:41

Princesses with make up on. Waiting for a prince to rescue them? It's so limiting.

mrsjay · 14/01/2014 11:42

but little girls at 4 who like princess clothes does not mean at 16 they are waiting on their prince to come these clothes do not need to influence our girls we at that age are their main influence

Weelady77 · 14/01/2014 11:42

Or the hulk with big muscles!

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2014 11:42

There are bigger issues than make-up but it's all linked to the perception of women in society.