Piercing babies ears

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So.... AIBU to think that piercing young children's ears and esp babies is on some level abusive as it's not got any medical reason and only the vanity of the parents?

I'm not saying it's up there with beating etc. But to purposefully put your child through pain, for a cosmetic reason isn't right surely?

So presumably you had a conversation with your baby daughter, Weelady where she told you that she wanted you to take her somewhere and have holes forcibly punched through her tender little earlobes? She agreed that it would look 'oh, so pretty!' did she? She wanted this mutilation of her tiny little ears?

Thought not.

Btw, putting lol at the end of every post is weird.

Lol.

Aside from causing unnecessary pain for a totally pointless procedure done purely in the name of vanity ...

The risk of infection is very real. How many babies are pierced in a proper studio with a needle and how many are held down in a high street chain for a gun to be fired at their ears?

A small baby with a huge abscess in their earlobe inside which is an infected stud needs a general anaesthetic, surgical removal and will be left scarred. I've anaesthetised far too many.

Or the little girl who "just wanted to play dress ups", pulled her jumper over her head and ripped both lobes in half. (Sadly more than a few if those).

Plus in my opinion, babies with pierced ears just don't look as cute and adorable as babies without.

So I don't think yabu at all, OP.

I think they're still adorable but it's a 'grown-up' fashion on a tiny child which doesn't look 'right'.

That's a stupid stupid comment regarding makeup and heels lol!!

How is it stupid?

What difference is it?

Makeup and heels = wearing them to look 'nice'
Earrings = wearing them to look 'nice'

Funnily how youre not against the actual thing that causes the most pain.

I put lol cause I am, I've gave you my reason why I did it I've also said I can see every single one of your reasons why you don't like it! But you are all still going on and on!!!

you haven't actually said why you thought it was a good idea though.

LEAVE the topic then weelady. If you're okay with causing your DD pain for absolutely nothing then you don't have to keep condoning your decision - because let's face it there is nothing you can say that makes hurting your baby so they can wear jewellery right.

No, you haven't given a single valid reason other than 'all my family did it', which is a very childish thing to say.

Did you do it because your daughter wanted it done? Did you do it because you think it looks cute or pretty? Did you do it because you failed to take into account that your daughter is actually a living, breathing person and not a fucking doll for you to 'make priddy' as you see fit?

And no, you're not lolling. No one actually lol's or rofl's or pmsl's.

And if you are actually laughing at this, you need your head examining for finding what you did to your daughter amusing.

I never mentioned anything against makeup and high heels you said I would be the type to be against it did you not?? If she wanted to play dress up with makeup and heels she can if she wants! She's only got her ears pierced she's no different from any other little girl apart from studs in her ears!

Once again that is your opinion!!

It's actually boring now!!

Happy new year to you all

no one has said she's different, no one's attacking your DD!

Oh dear.

She's only got her ears pierced.

Would you only get her tattooed too?

I love how it's always only ear piercing.

Tattooing a baby isn't legal is it!!!!

But if it was, would you do it? And I'm sure you could find someone who'd do you a nice home-made one.

Even if it was only a little one?

Just because something isn't illegal doesn't mean it shouldn't be, or that morally it's right. People should be able to use their common bloody sense and realise that it's unnecessary, and cruel.

Could someone please explain why it hasn't been banned???

it's also legal for a 5yo child to drink alcohol, is that ok?

Many of the children I work with are, or have been, victims of real abuse and neglect.

While I don't like/agree with ear piercing on babies, it certainly can't be put in the same bracket as never washing your child or their clothing, or dressing them in a t shirt in deep English winter or making them believe they are cursed by a 'demon' because they have epilepsy. Or not taking them to the doctor when the burn they got on their face 5 days ago is infected.

Not to my taste - but not abuse.

Thinks it all becoming a bit silly now ladies tattooing drinking

Maybe because they know that people would go and get it done anyway? There would be people who would do it behind closed doors, with heated needles, in their own kitchens. Teenage girls have pierced their own ears before now.

Maybe because the babies themselves can't speak up and explain that it fucking hurts and is totally unecessary, that they didn't ask to have it done and they didn't want it done, but that their Mum (the person who supposedly loves them more than anything else in the world) decided to get it done because 'it looks soooo cute'

Your parenting is 'a bit silly' if I'm being honest.

But each to their own, eh?

I said abuse to an extent. Deliberately causing your child pain is abuse in my eyes.

Because the UK, like many other countries, has not fully moved away from the traditional belief that children are their parents' property. IIRC, the first legislation against cruelty to children was in 1889.

I don't think my dd is going to hate me for getting her ears pierced if she suddenly hates them she can take them out but I can't see that happening as nearly all girls want there ears done when there older!