To be annoyed by photos if piles if presents on Facebook.

[Lilliput]

It is probably present pile envy but I am finding it a bit vulgar. Plus it is making our small pile look crap.

[figrus]

I put a picture of my 'new puppy for Christmas' on Facebook. Can I expect some of my fb friends to unfriendly me soon?

[Val007]

It's hard pleasing everyone, but I advise getting off facebook for a few days it these pictures bother you.

I love seeing peoples trees with presents underneath. It gives out such Christmas spirit, brings joy to my heart and makes me smile.

[Primrose123]

A puppy is different - it's a wonderful thing to share a photo of your new puppy! A puppy isn't a material thing though is it, so it's not really showing off.

[Lazysuzanne]

Well I dunno puppies can be expensive, people use certain breeds of dog as status symbols!

[CarpeVinum]

Are there really different rules on FB? As in something can be vulgar in rl but not on fb?

Ask me in a few months, I'll be doing a MOOC on "cultural norms" on social media as a module....I think..

But generally yes, new forms of communication do tend to take on their own norms and "social no-nos" as they become established. Doesn't tend to be wholly disconnected from real world social norms, but there is flex and context given the differences of medum.

So... you post a pic of pressies under tree, with mainly family/close friends in mind as the "recipients", but all your other (more tenuous/less close) "firends" see it too, cos they have access to your content. That does not translate as being somebody in RL who would trapise around to all aquantences houses to waggle pressie pile at them while preening.

Intent matters, and intent is much harder to communicate/interpet in social media than face to face.

Pretty much, as far as interpeting motivation for what was posted, I think you have to mostly bear in mind what you know about the person. If showing off is not something you associate with them in real life, then that is unlikely to be the best explanation for the pic they posted on facebook. If showing off is just who they are all the time to the point that it annoys you, then for everybodies sake probably best to unfriend in RL and on FB.

[meddie]

Dont do it myself, but dont have a problem with it. God forbid people may be excited about how their tree looks with the presents under it and want to share their happiness with their friends and family .
Seems a bit mean spirited to me to be honest

[200Cigarettes]

I really don't understand some people's venom about FB. Its a social networking site made up of whatever your social circle put on there. If you don't like what comes up on your feed you have two choices - don't use it or only choose to befriend people on fb that are similar to you in taste and attitude.

Its not compulsory.

[TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge]

I posted one,do every year.It's a late night 'Santas been,my job is done' excitement photo!

[sparklysilversequins]

Thanks for reminding me OP. Just off to put my ostentatious present pile photos on FB.

[IamInvisible]

Well I boasted completely outrageously that my kids have bought me Robbie Williams tickets. If I have annoyed anyone I couldn't give a flying fig. DH isn't here, they wanted to make me happy and they have.

[Bunbaker]

It is insensitive and crass. I don't do it and neither do any of my friends.

[Lazysuzanne]

Carpe my question was largely rhetorical but your module sounds interesting.

My impression is that people see less need to edit themselves on social media, displaying an inability to think things through, lack of self reflection?

[annieorangutan]

I dont get why people mind it. I dont think it would phase me a child holding £50 on xmas as its only a small amount of cash and everyone on my fb has large amounts of gifts even those who live on benefits. Its hardly a rarity

[Pobblewhohasnotoes]

I really don't care.

I like seeing people's Christmas pictures. I have posted some. We're not near our families and they've asked for pictures.

Bah humbug to some of you!

[LuciusMalfoyisSmokingHot]

My Nephew posted a pic, family of 5 and the presents overtook the room, no wonder that lot are a PITA to buy for.

[Lazysuzanne]

A fiver is a small amount of cash, declaring that fifty quid is 'only a small amount of cash' is surely a brag, not even stealthy enough for a stealth boast

[annieorangutan]

On xmas?! Most people wont be getting a fiver as I said I have many friends with minimum wage jibs or on benefits and all of them have big piles of pressies under the tree etc. Its Christmas the biggest day of the year!

[Val007]

Excuse me, why is it crass???

Because people worked their buts off making their trees pretty and wrapping presents and arranging them pretty, wanting to share their joy with their friends. What precisely is crass about this?

They show off, yes, a pretty picture. If anyone is intimidated with it - it is their small soul problem. I personally don't know anyone in the UK who cannot afford to buy presents. I bought our presents from the pound shop this year. But still wrapped them nice and put them under our gorgeously decorated tree which cost maybe 6 times more than all the presents together. So yes, I can afford much more expensive presents, but I prefer to buy them for my family as and when needed, rather than when society tells me I can have these - at Christmas, because I don't need to save up for presents. Can anyone tell I have bought my presents from poundland just by looking at my pretty picture? NOPE. Instead, they choose to go green with envy, ha-ha-ha-haaaaaaaaaaaaa!

Some people need to seriously lighten up and take off the stick out of their backside. Gosh!

[saintlyjimjams]

Don't worry carpe - he's just nearly knocked me over charging down a hill (on lead) to the sea...

[AmberLeaf]

It's not something I've ever done, but I can't be irritated by it.

Some people never miss a 'sneer' opportunity do they?

[RockinAroundTheXmasTreeHippy]

^People get their judgey-pants on about everything don't they

I love seeing people's piles of presents^


^^THIS^^

I love seeing them too - even made ours into an e-Xmas card & I've posted a video of DDs Xmas face at opening a quite inexpensive, she thought impossible to get present [sticky out tongue smiley]

that said DDs pile is quite small this year as she's older & the older they get, the more expensive the requests get, so piles get much smaller

I'm not sat here with a smacked cats bum face at the big piles of likely cheaper, but bigger Xmas toys, I'm remembering the days we could afford to do that & enjoying the photos & smiles they will bring.

but then I'm not a judgey arsed miserable cow

[Lazysuzanne]

Do you really see christmas as the 'biggest day of the year'?

[IamInvisible]

Insensitive and crass my arse!

I'm not bleating that all my family and friends are posting pictures with their families having lovely days when my DH is 8000 miles away and I am trying my hardest to keep going.

If you don't want to look then don't!

[Lazysuzanne]

Isn't it just a vulgar orgy of consumerism?