To be annoyed by photos if piles if presents on Facebook.

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It is probably present pile envy but I am finding it a bit vulgar. Plus it is making our small pile look crap.

Oh go on then carpe. Apologies for out of focus video

I don't do it, but I don't mind if other people do.

YABU. They are my friends and family on facebook and I like to see them enjoying themselves. Happy Christmas.

I don't really like to see piles of presents. I love to see excited children opening presents or playing with them.

I have a friend who is absolutely lovely in real life. However, she has posted photos of her children holding up £50 notes, and then put a status something like 'Tiffany fairy has been, I'm such a lucky girl, I'm so blessed with my amazing family'. I really do like her, but I hate what she puts on Facebook some of the time.

saintlyjim

Chewbacca is goooorguss ! And so careful and delicate opening it. Mine would probably just eat present whole.

Thank you so much for posting. Is she a retriever with a red setter coat or just a particularly beautiful exmple of one or the other ?

Love your floor by the way.

You don't like her Primrose. Or you would be happy for what she posts on FB because you should be happy for people you like.

BAH HUMBUG to the lot of you.

::goes to start posting pics of our presents all over MN::

He a working line retriever so smaller, leaner (& more bonkers) than the standard show retrievers :) very gentle mouth though. He opened all his presents (he had 3) then decided to try ours :)

Tee no one mentioned Christmas photos generally, it was specifically pictures of piles of presents. Of course no one objects to pictures of trees or children playing. A picture of just STUFF isn't 'look how lovely Christmas is' its 'look how much stuff I have'

I have a friend who does this, she arranges them neatly so you can see everything and takes a picture. I just find it incredible that she cant see this awful.

Maybe some people are proud that they have provided plenty of presents for their kids

Maybe they are pleased the great wrapping marathon is over.

Maybe that's okay...

No, it was 'look at how beautiful it all looks under the tree.'

And, interestingly, my friends got that. And I did for them as well.

It's as if Facebook exposes aspects of character that are not other wise seen.

Primrose, how do you reconcile your experience that your friend is lovely with the crass fifty pound note thing?

I dunno, I think generally people seem to conduct themselves on Facebook in a way they'd never do face-to-face. Once you accept that different rules apply, you don't mind the obnoxiousness so much.

Yes...that's exactly what I said. No one objects to pictures of pretty trees and WRAPPED presents. You appear to be getting irritated by people agreeing with you.

saintlyjim

I have Chewbacca envy. What a beautiful and well behaved doggy.

"...it was specifically pictures of piles of presents..."

Is what you said. You didn't say wrapped or unwrapped.

And further up thread they said 'wrapped under the tree'.

So there. :P

I think generally people seem to conduct themselves on Facebook in a way they'd never do face-to-face

True. I didn't go and knock on all my mates door's Sunday night and slur all over them in my rat arsed state.

Wish I could say the same of facebook.

*Pictures of wrapped presents - fine and Christmassy. They could be for the whole family so you don't know how many people got, you cant see what they are so no idea how expensive and the picture is usually of the tree as well.

Pictures of unwrapped presents with comments like 'I've been such a lucky girl!' are boastful and vulgar.*

Was my first post. So THERE.

You said that. Many others did not.

Merry Christmas!

DS had a big pile of presents, he got lots of small things and I probably spent a lot less than a lot of people on him. The quantity of presents says nothing about the value spent.

The thing is though, social media and face to face are different mediums with different functions.

S'like saying not posting pic of pressie under tree is the equivilent of throwing a sheet over piles of pressie under tree should you have a guest in the house, lest they find it "fritghtfully vulgar darling".

Or posting the pic on facebook is the same as knocking on people's door and showing them a wheelbarrow with a towering pile of gifts saying "look what we've got!"

Really hard to make meaningful comparision in some contexts.

Are there really different rules on FB? As in something can be vulgar in rl but not on fb?

Is it really the done thing to unselfconsciously let it all hang out and show off?

How weird to be so grumpy and judgy pants on Christmas Day.

Merry Xmas mumsnet (no matter how big your pile of presents!)

Godresttee actually I do like her very much - please don't tell me who I like and who I don't! She is lovely in real life, which is why I am so surprised that she doesn't come across well on Facebook.

Lazysuzanne I don't know. She is not boastful when I see her - really friendly, and we have helped each other out with children lots of times in the past. My kids really like her too, and they quickly seem to see through false people.

I'm not jealous of her, I'm happy she has lovely presents, and I'm happy that she's happy, but I don't think she realises it doesn't look very nice to flash £50 notes on facebook, especially when it's children holding them.