Dsis charging for Christmas dinner.

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Hi.
We are going to my dsis for Christmas dinner this year. This is the first year she has hosted.
In previous years my dmum or I have hosted and on these years have footed the bill except if somebody has offered to bring alcohol or puddings with them. I have just had a text from my dsis telling me that she has worked out the bill and it is £16 per head so I need to pay £64 for me, dp and 2dc (5 and 7). Now I do not consider myself to be tight but feel angered about the way this has been done because it really does feel that she is charging her own dniece and dnephew to eat. Aibu to feel rattled by this?

SNORT @ "dessert from Paris". Because that is so different from dessert from Wolverhampton

Wouldn't it be a bit cold and congealed by the time it arrived from Paris not as nice and fresh as from Wolverhampton surely

Oops sorry misspelt... naice

34DD Well done to your DH for telling her to fuck off, what a cheeky bitch.

Did she still charge your dad?

Yes she did!

I can't imagine she'll get many takers next year.

No I think the plans will definitely be different next year

Oh, your poor dad!

How absolutely low, it just ruins everything

Just read all this. Did she recalculate the cost so the other guests had to pay more. ie instead of splitting it between 11, split it between 6?

I cooked dinner yesterday for my nan and db and sil, and theres no way id ever think of charging (and I pick them up and drop them off) Its disgraceful

Your sister is even more cold and grasping now thst we know she charged your dad alone!

Utterly shameless, cow!

how was the atmosphere yesterday afternoon?

Pay her your fair share...

.. but in 2 pence pieces...

Happy New Year. God Bless Us - One and All xxx

Actually you're on to something there. I did 3 hrs driving yesterday so that relatives could join us for dinner. One guest even told us beforehand what they did and didn't want, which we happily catered for. Such tailored service would surely come at a premium. I even gave them presents! Should I have charged for that too? There was me thinking it was families being families.

Shit a brick, she charged her own father for dinner on Christmas day.

Put that way it does sound quite bad Fish doesn't it ?
Slightly worse even than charging your own sister?

I discussed this with my family around dinner, my mum and her DP, agreed, if the cost was discussed before or items coming from certain guest, that would have acceptable, but to charge just before xmas like your pre booking at a restaurant takes the piss.

Oh god no, any family is just awful; I just can't believe she went ahead and did it.

Charging her father is just horrible.

When she gives you a gift does she ask you to reimburse her?!?
It would be just as cheeky.

I relayed this tale to my parents today over delayed Christmas dinner... They were gobsmacked although my dad looked as though he was considering it for a minute at the concept of charging guests!

As others have said (lougle was one) the cost itself isn't that unreasonable - certainly if you were getting in a really nice turkey - but announcing that you are going to charge, the day before, when you yourself have enjoyed free hospitality every other year, is outrageous.

If she wanted to get arrangements onto a different footing, she should have suggested that from next year you split the bill for the food items or similar. But it's just wrong to decide this off her own bat.

How did your Sisters dinner go then OP, do you know?

Well, the DF is on DLA.

But, yeah, I haven't heard specifically that the father had ever hosted the dinner - OP and her DM both have (but let's not assume that mum and dad are a unit - sometimes people aren't these days!).

So, my outrage has been evenly split between the OP and her mum getting charged, and DF as well because of the DLA factor. Unless I hear otherwise, I'm feeling that DM might get some sympathy points deducted for letting DSIS to get the way she seems to have - a previous OP post made me ponder this...