Dsis charging for Christmas dinner.

[MercuryRising]

Hi.
We are going to my dsis for Christmas dinner this year. This is the first year she has hosted.
In previous years my dmum or I have hosted and on these years have footed the bill except if somebody has offered to bring alcohol or puddings with them. I have just had a text from my dsis telling me that she has worked out the bill and it is £16 per head so I need to pay £64 for me, dp and 2dc (5 and 7). Now I do not consider myself to be tight but feel angered about the way this has been done because it really does feel that she is charging her own dniece and dnephew to eat. Aibu to feel rattled by this?

Have a good one, she sounds like a grabby cow.

thanks for updating us mercury....interesting thread. personally i wouldn't have wanted SIL to recalculate - i wouldn't want to be subsidised by the other 'paying guests'. she is still missing the point - she's had free meals over the years from others and she's being a scrooge - as no doubt people have said

happy christmas

Misformumnotmaid I hope it all works out and you and dc have a lovely Christmas. Bloody families.

dreamingofsun you are exactly right - have a lovely Christmas.

for her to say if I had explained she would have recalculated the cost amongst the adults

Bloody hell, she's really not getting it, is she?

Hope she has a nice time when the ghost of christmas past, shows her the dinners shes had at others expense, and the ghost of christmas future, shows her having a miserable xmas with just her DH, because no one wants to join them, and shes banned from everywhere else.

Reccaluate, what a fecking cheek. It's the whole principle behind it tats the issue. She was quite happy to ake for free from people, you and your parents, but when it's her turn to host, turned it into a business venture. Good in you for making a stand, you showed her that this would not be tolerated.

I can't believe the nerve of some people! I'm at PIL's this year,and will bring starter and cheeseboard. MIL rang me this morning to ask me to pick up some more wine, and said she'd give me the money back, but I wouldn't dream of actually taking it off her not least because I'll be drinking most of it

I think I can now safely say I have seen it all!

Well done standing your ground, I have overbearing sisters and I know how hard it can be. Now you will have a great day with your dh and dcs without spending the whole day fuming at your dsis. I hope she realised how completely and utterly unreasonable she was being.

So there she is with all the food to pay for and hardly anyone to eat it. I wonder when the penny will drop.

I find some people unbelievable.

I think she has either deliberately misunderstood the point or it has not been explained to her. Recalculating would make no difference as you presumably would have to pay extra. The point is that it is rude and grabby to charge for Christmas dinner and completely different from asking people to bring drinks or a course.It Would still rankle with me that she hasn't got that. I hope you don't get her a gift!

Did you not point out that you've never charged her?

Id take some change and leave 50p p/person on the table. Smile sweetly. Then say...

"Oh, I thought we were tipping what we thought it was worth....?"

I'd also chug her wine like the titanic vs Atlantic. Gotta getcha monies worth at hers I think!

The sister must KNOW she's never been charged when others have done the catering, so if she was even thinking of this, should have laid it out clear from the outset, before people said they would come. It's totally not on to just ask for the money without so much as an embarrassed "whoops, I did not realise how much this was gonna cost, we really cant afford, please can you all chip in".

I still think the cost is way OTT £16 a head?? even with a couple of choices of good quality meat and a salmon/prawn starter and wine with choice of several luxury pudds, it would not cost that per head

I would have gone and treated the place like a restaurant. Send some food back, say that the wine was corked, ask if the bill included a tip etc.

I feel a bit sad for you, however idiotic your Sister has been I bet you feel a bit shit and sad now :(

Remember she left you with no choice, if you had all gone and stumped up your money then you may as well all written 'twat' on your foreheads as you sat round the dinner table!!

I hope you got a lovely reduced super duper platinum turkey today :)

Merry Christmas

I see now, cheeky cow is looking to make a profit, labour thats what it is, thats her pay for cooking it all.

Some people become utter ahem, cunts at christmas. My God!

Send her a spare Christmas tree or four - they are reduced to 1p each in my local B&Q today

I want more details! What exactly did you/she said?

Hope your dad joins you guys and you have a lovely Christmas lunch without the stress of your dsis!

Glad it's sorted Mercury

I would've been tempted to eat up, then complain about meal and service and requested a refund!

SNORT @ "dessert from Paris". Because that is so different from dessert from Wolverhampton .