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Are your children the most beautiful little people you have ever seen?

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lollalaughs · 16/12/2013 12:36

Do you think your children are the most beautiful things in the world. I mean genuinely?

I have only ever known one person say their child is not cute. I have heard oh he has big ears or a big head etc

Reason I am asking because more than one person I know said before they got pregnant that if their child is ugly they would know, they wouldnt just say they are good looking for the sake of it etc etc.

They have their child and guess what they say the child is beautiful. They KNOW their child is and they would definately say if they wasn't. But the said children are not beautiful...

So question what is it that makes people think their kids are gawjusss even if they are clearly not?

SN: I am ready to be slated but this is a genuine question and relates to people pre pregnancy who slag of children for not being stereotypical cute.

OP posts:
SomethingkindaOod · 17/12/2013 11:38

Being deluded is a perk of being a parent, if we weren't deluded we'd be sitting in a corner knocking back the gin.... Xmas Grin

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 17/12/2013 11:40

Deluded.....def!

When DS was a baby I thought he was the most gorgeous baby ever. I even entered him into a baby contest and was genuinely outraged when he didn't even make the final, I was positive he was going to win. I am normally realistic and level headed.

When I look back at his photos he looks like an egg :)

Of course, he is the most gorgeous 11 yo old ever ....... for sure !

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 17/12/2013 11:42

DS does have a friend though whose mother said to me look at his face, he has a face only a mother could love

I was like Shock

ladydepp · 17/12/2013 11:46

I have a friend who thought her ds1 (2nd dc) looked like a cross between Andrew LLoyd Webber and David Gest when he was a baby. I thought she was being a bit cruel but then saw a photo and OMG he really did - poor thing. He's 6 now and a lovely looking little boy Grin thank goodness!

I think babies can be a bit funny looking but they normally improve. My premmie ds2 had a very odd shaped head for his first few weeks, but I thought he was perfect. He is gorgeous now!

MummytoMog · 17/12/2013 11:47

My daughter is entirely possibly the most beautiful child in the world. I mean she's so beautiful that strangers stop and comment on how beautiful she is. Not so much since I cut her fringe wonky mind you. (she did do baby modelling, but is now too 'lively' monstrously badly behaved to do photo shoots)

When DS was born my first thought (to my chagrin) was that he wasn't as beautiful as DD. He is quite cute now, but he looked like a teeny tiny Winston Churchill for at least a year. There was a terrible phase where he looked like Wayne Rooney, complete with receeding hairline.

I think my best friend's DS is very handsome, but most other babies are a bit fugly. BiL's baby looks like Gollum.

I quite often mention how beautiful DD is, but that's normally as part of a conversation with other parents which goes:

'And how old is DD now?'
'4, but she seems younger because she doesn't talk much'
'is there a reason for that'
'don't really know, but she is generally delayed'
'oh, but she's so beautiful'
'Yes. She is very beautiful we don't need to talk about this any more if it's making you uncomfortable'

Whistleblower0 · 17/12/2013 11:47

Ah but something if you know you are being deluded, then that is not the same thing at all. We are all deluded about our children sometimes.Wink

Most of the posters on here though, not only think their offspring is the most beautiful baby/ toddler/ child who ever walked the face of the earth, but that, every random person they meet in the street/ on the bus/ supermarket etc thinks the same thing.

Oh My that is fucking hilariousXmas Grin

gertrudetrain · 17/12/2013 11:48

It's all subjective though. One man's princess is another man's troll etc.

My youngest 2 are blonde haired, blue eyed, petite 'typical' beauties. Ds1 is ginger, spotty, scruffy, greasy long haired, lanky, wonky teethed and freckly but he takes an amazing photo and he gets the most attention because he is one of a kind.

gertrudetrain · 17/12/2013 11:52

Its so weird when complete strangers come up to you and comment on your child's looks. I get so bogged down in the whining just taking care of them and separating the fights I forget to look at them Grin

Halfling · 17/12/2013 12:03

You are all deluded! My DS is the most gorgeous and beautiful child there ever will be Grin

However, seriously after having DS, I don't find other babies and kids as cute. It could be a biological thing maybe, where mother nature puts wool over our eyes!

But in general, I am yet to come across a baby or a kid who looks ugly. IMO, it is only when they are well into their teenage years that they start losing their appeal.

Doingakatereddy · 17/12/2013 12:04

DS has been a Georgous child right from birth, every time we go out people comment on his looks.

However, One day in Selfridges a camp store assistant exclaimed that DS was the 'most beautiful child he had ever seen', then looked at me aghast as If to say 'how the f* did you produce that?' Angry

DD bless her is a bit of a bruiser and looks like me, but she is the happiest baby I've ever come across

lynniep · 17/12/2013 12:07

Oh mine are both gorgeous. Not necessarily beautiful!
I thought they were both pretty rough looking babies. No rose tinted glasses for me. They had baby acne, dodgy hairdos (the 'monk' do - both lost it all from the top but not the sides), piggy little eyes. Gorgeous. Just not mighty purdy...

Fast forward beyond the baby years - DS1 became model pretty but is in a stinker of a mood most of the time which kind of detracts from the looks. DS2 is super-cute but not magazine cover material. He is all about the personality!

Danann · 17/12/2013 12:10

My DD looks like me so of course she's the most beautiful child ever. Wink

I don't think I've ever actually met an ugly child or toddler, I've met some whose ears are too big etc but they've always had a beautiful feature which balances it out.

Babies however are either very cute or really ugly, there is no middle ground and it doesn't always reflect how pretty they will be once they grow up. My baby brother was a very hairy baby (he even had hairy shoulders) he was a very long and skinny with a wrinkly face and his arms were too long, he looked a lot like someone had shaved a monkey and put it in a nappy up until he was about 6 months old and put some weight on Grin he is a beautiful child now though.

teenagetantrums · 17/12/2013 12:18

My teenage Ds was lovely at birth went through an angry Buddha looking stage at 6 months, then really turned in a Beautiful toddler, golden ringlets, long eyelashes ect, He is still 'good looking' if only he would wash and clean his teeth more often.

DD to be honest was a strange looking baby, then an average looking child, she went through an 'unattractive' stage at 10, and was bullied for it at school. Now as a teenager she really is beautiful, and some of those horrid girls who bullied her and called her fat and ugly are definitely not, so thats karma for you.

Oh and i would never tell my children they were anything other than beautiful to me,

vladthedisorganised · 17/12/2013 13:30

Aw, I think it's nice that most people think their children are gorgeous: isn't that how it's supposed to be? So long as it's not sneering "MY baby is utterly scrumptious unlike YOUR strange-looking child" I don't see the harm.

pictish · 17/12/2013 14:25

Of course it's nice that people find their children attractive. So do I. Very much so. They're all attractive to me.

I'm not so deluded as to imagine my children are stand out from the crowd lookers though, unlike many posters on this thread.

"I don't know where she gets it from, but she's honestly gorgeous. Everyone says so!" x150. Grin

CalamityJones · 17/12/2013 14:34

I remember being staggered by how lovely the lanugo on dd's back was. I thought she looked like an astonishingly beautiful monkey (she still does).

quesadilla · 17/12/2013 14:53

I think my dd is gorgeous and I think I am being objective but I am also sure I overstate it.

I think also that you see beauty in children more when you have had your own.

I could generally take or leave other people's kids until I had dd: now I want to cuddle all children. I am sure this is biological.

flyingspaghettimonster · 17/12/2013 16:24

My kids are nice looking... Two were ugly newborns, but right now they all look great. I would be lying to myself if I said they were the most beautiful kids in the world - but I am glad they got the good bits from both sides of the family.

Swanbridge · 17/12/2013 16:27

When DD was a baby I failed to recognise her in the Neonatal unit - they'd moved her fishtank since my last visit and I sat down by the wrong baby for a bit and had to be politely moved on, not least as you weren't allowed to peer at the other babies. Clearly that baby was the most beautiful baby ever. And he was a boy. (FAOD - neither of them was covered in wires at the time, I didn't even have that excuse.)

lookatmycameltoe · 17/12/2013 16:56

This thread proves your point, OP!

Cue lots of posters saying yes, some people are really silly but my kids actually ARE beautiful. People actually tell me.

Seriously? Everyone says everyone's kids are beautiful don't they? Even when they are quite clearly plain? It's just a nice thing to do.

I have several Fakebook friends who think their offspring have supermodel status. They are otherwise well-balanced, non-visually impaired, generally good egg type people so I can forgive them. One of them just doesn't shut up about her two (very, very plain by ANY standards) boys. Just today we were treated to a montage of their outstanding beauty. She really believes it too.

One of my friends actually has breathtakingly beautiful children who actually model professionally. She goes on and on about their looks but who can bloody blame her, they are edible, utterly delicious.

We all know looks/physical beauty is only a small part of being a person so why not be honest?

Egusta · 17/12/2013 17:24

My ds is the most beautiful child ever. In fact, it annoys me when people say he looks like me, because clearly he is way cuter than me.

When he was very little I actually stopped going to baby groups because I thought the other mums would be jealous.

Grin

Its biology, innit.

BenNJerry · 17/12/2013 17:27

Ahhh, I think my DS is such a cute baby. I look at his newborn pictures and he did look like Gollum when he was first born!

I don't really get people who are like "ahhhh so beautiful" at newborn babies. They look all scrawny and purple. They get cuter when they're a couple of months old and all chubby. Grin

Bicnod · 17/12/2013 18:04

Yes, my boys are the most beautiful children ever to grace this earth. HTH.

Whistleblower0 · 17/12/2013 18:45

I bet they're not Bicnod Grin

Mrsbear1 · 17/12/2013 19:18

Mine are absolutely gorgeous. Like really, really gorgeous. However I often wonder if I an also falling victim to nature's law that you think your own DC are gorgeous.

I found DD a bit weird looking when she was born but I still found her scrummy and loved her fiercely. Even now I look at pics and know she looked a bit strange for a good few weeks - and then there was the baby acne....

DS was just divine looking from the moment he popped out to me. But now I look back at his pics and think I was possibly a bit deluded.

Now though they are 2.8 and 8mo and genuinely divine-looking. I really wish I could show you all pictures.