Are your children the most beautiful little people you have ever seen?

[lollalaughs]

Do you think your children are the most beautiful things in the world. I mean genuinely?

I have only ever known one person say their child is not cute. I have heard oh he has big ears or a big head etc

Reason I am asking because more than one person I know said before they got pregnant that if their child is ugly they would know, they wouldnt just say they are good looking for the sake of it etc etc.

They have their child and guess what they say the child is beautiful. They KNOW their child is and they would definately say if they wasn't. But the said children are not beautiful...

So question what is it that makes people think their kids are gawjusss even if they are clearly not?


SN: I am ready to be slated but this is a genuine question and relates to people pre pregnancy who slag of children for not being stereotypical cute.

[KellyEllyMincePieBelly]

Calm down. I'm quite calm. Perhaps you could work on being slightly less patronising, or maybe add a 'dear' afterwards and go all out? As there are clearly a number of posts stating that people do think this about their children it was slightly strange/goady sounding comment/question.

[Thisisaghostlyeuphemism]

Mine are the most beautiful of all.

Others seem a little put out - jealous- when I say this but what can I do?!

[Koalagone]

The first time my HV seemed to take my worries over bonding (now diagnosed with PND) seriously was when DH told her I didn't think my DS was beautiful. I'm actually jealous of other parents talking about their gorgeous DCs, even if sometimes I thought it was a bit silly before I became a mum, because I wish I could feel that way about mine.

[HesterShaw]

I think you are possibly reading too much into one innocuous question followed by another innocuous statement Kelly.

However if I have inadvertently and unknowingly offended you, apologies and all that. I was not being "goady".

[HootyMcOwlface]

(Whispers) My son was kinda funny looking till at least six months old. He was IUGR and very scrawny with tiny little eyes. Now he's one he's chubbed up and I think he's really cute (other people say so too).
My MIL made some nasty comments about the way he looked in the early days but we ignore her!

[lilyaldrin]

I'm afraid I do genuinely believe DS is objectively an incredibly beautiful child I know logically it's hormones and bonding but I still believe it.

[Heartbrokenmum73]

DD is pretty, but averagely pretty. She makes up for average pretty with awesome and quirky personality though, so it's cool.

DS1 looks just like his Dad (according to everyone who ever meets him that knows/has seen his Dad). I can't see it myself - he just looks like DS to me. His Dad is good-looking, but in a non-conventional way - George Clooney needn't feel threatened . But DS1 is extremely photographic, stupidly so. But he likes to pull strange faces and poses in photos, so we never get a 'lovely' one of him, just weird ones

DS2 was the Neanderthal baby in Ice Age - fact. Big, spherical, perfectly round head (like Karl Pilkington!), squashed nose, the lot. I laugh a lot when I see his newborn photo (bad Mother). He's grown into his head now but it's still very round

[drspouse]

We are in the happy position of both having the most gorgeous child in the entire world and not being able to take any (genetic) credit for it.

I find it a little odd when people say "thank you" in response to "oh, isn't your child gorgeous", as if it was a personal achievement. But then I'm not sure what else to say. We usually say "oh, yes, and he knows it", or when he was younger "that's very kind of you to say so", or if people say "I can see where he gets it from" say "oh, that's kind, but I think he's much better looking than me!"

[dramajustfollowsme]

Of course, my dd is the most beautiful child on earth.
She looks like her mother!

[Voerendaal]

Actually my DD is the most gorgeous :) but then I am slightly biased as are we all!

[cory]

Ds was not as handsome a baby as my nephews and nieces or even as random strangers' babies in the street. But I loved him more.

Dd otoh was an unusually nice looking baby.

Looking back at the family photographs some 13-17 years later I see exactly the same thing as I saw then: one pretty baby, one less pretty, but the same adoring faces hovering above both of them.

I didn't need to think they were both beautiful babies to love them, any more than I now need to believe that dd has a beautiful singing voice or that ds is clever with his hands. I don't have every wonderful quality under the sun and my parents still love me.

[Rufustherednosedreindeer]

I have just checked with my children

They say they are the most beautiful children I have ever seen.......apparently

[Joysmum]

Of course my daughter is the most beautiful and nicest girl and I'm so lucky to have. If that wasn't enough I have the sexiest man in the world as my hubby and he (according to him) have the most gorgeous and amazing wife.

Beauty is in the eye if the beholder

[TheMuppetsSingChristmas]

No, they're not the most beautiful things I've ever seen. Ds2 is very very cute in that small smiley child way, and ds1 is likely to grow up with sfine features. I've seen more beautiful children, and I've seen less beautiful children. But they're mine, and I would go to the ends of the earth and back for them.

[pictish]

Honestly OP - I think you have your answer from this thread...lots of people really do imagine their child is more attractive than the average Joe or Josephine.

[bluecheeseforbreakfast]

I think that not everyone agrees as to what makes a stunning baby/child. I think babies with long dark eyeglasses and either lots of curly dark hair or lots of curly white blonde hair are stunning, I think baby/toddler chub is aadorable.

I go to a baby group in a very culturally and racially mixed area, I'm an immigrant ( we live in Sweden) but ds looks Swedish. He is one of the only white babies in the group. The other mums and dads constantly comment about how he looks like an angel or a doll and how how he should be a model as he looks like tge babies on nappy and babywipe packets. On multiple occasions other mums have taken photos of themself or their children with ds to send to their family in their home country as ds is so angelic.

Ds just looks like an English/Swedish baby, he has big blue eyes and a bald head, he has no eyebrows and pale skin. Ironically many of the other babies are what I'd think of as a stereotypically gorgeous child. I think people either think that children who look like your own family or those who look very different are the most beautiful.

[BitchyFestiveFace]

Mine are the most beautiful to me. But I'm aware that that is subjective.

Objectively, they ARE attractive, but I've seen more beautiful children. I'm a sucker for little dark-haired, dark-eyed children (which mine are) and have seen some utterly gorgeous, scrumptious, ridiculously beautiful specimens in my time.

As babies, DD was extremely cute and DS was funny-looking; he grew into his looks by about 8-9 months and was a cute little thing from then on, but yeah, he was not the most attractive baby

[Ragwort]

My DS was born with a quite obvious disfigurement and everyone was too polite mention it, he was absolutely NOT an attractive baby - fortunately the abnormality could be medically removed when he was a few months old - which then left him with horrendous scars - but all that has faded now - might show when/if he goes bald like his dad .

Some children do not look attractive, it is a fact (you think 'at least their mum loves them').

I have a relative who is always fawning over her DD, telling everyone how beautiful she is (she really isn't) and putting her in for modelling contracts - which get nowhere. It is actually quite sad to see.

[rabbitlady]

yes, my child is the most beautiful person i've ever seen; her daughter and husband share that honour with her - they are all 'the most beautiful person i have ever seen'. my father is very handsome and my mother and i were both goodlooking when we were young. my brother and sister in law are a fine looking couple (he's a bit wrinkly now. my mother says i look younger than him. he's my little brother) and the man who insisted i should love him but isn't my partner (don't ask) was breathtakingly gorgeous when we met, though we've both aged a bit in the meantime.
i find the rest of the world rather plain. but people who are mine are very beautiful indeed.

[BuntyandherMassiveGlitteryCoil]

Mine are genuinely gorgeous. I often get random strangers stopping me to tell me they're gorgeous, which is lovely.

I sound like a complete arsehole, but honestly, it happens!

[jedishelly1]

I think DD is a little stunner! She has classic features paired with unusual colouring that make her looks striking. She is gorgeous! However, I'm not blind to the fact that the face she makes when her will is thwarted looks remarkably like John Prescott!

[moominmarvellous]

I like how my kids look. On an overall looks scale I'd say they were average looking kids.

Sometimes I think they look absolutely gorgeous, but at other times DS reminds me of Ian Beale and I can't remember the last school photo I bought of DD.

I like to think I'm a realist about it, and because of that, I sometimes wonder why people feel the need to harp on about the gorgeousness of their own children when it's quite obvious that they too are just completely average looking kids.

Makes me sound a bit heartless, but I do however think my kids are absolutely hilarious (yes......I'm one of those ones :D)

[gettingeasiernow]

But doesn't loving them make you love their faces? I do think mine is beautiful, could look at him all day every day. Nobody comments on his looks so I assume logically that I'm the only one who thinks it and in fact he is unremarkable. But then I think my dh is beautiful too and he definitely isn't by a very long chalk. It's the eyes of the beholder.