Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Some f**king old bag

246 replies

Mummasmurf · 15/12/2013 17:31

Is it me?

We moved towns in July and started going to the local church. I joined the choir in November (half of which can't sing). A few weeks ago one of the old bags shouted loudly that she wished my DD would stop running round. I glared at her. The "running round" was that she went to the back of the church and came back to tell the choir master it sounded "beautiful".

Tonight we were at a Christingle service (a kids service basically) and she loudly had a go again cos the DD stood up to have a look at the goings on.

I'm really pissed off at her and now I don't know whether I should bother going back. The other women said she was out of order and don't let it get to me. It's just that when it's your kids someone's having a go at it's worse than if she was having a go at me.

OP posts:
garlicbaubles · 15/12/2013 20:51

You were my choral inspiration, monica

Xmas Grin
AntlersInAllOfMyDecorating · 15/12/2013 20:55

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

PumpkinPositive · 15/12/2013 20:59

Is it me?

Yes.

Golddigger · 15/12/2013 21:02

An advert for saga has appeared on the top of my screen Smile

CanIMakeItToChristmas · 15/12/2013 21:08

It's Peppa Pig at the top of mine Golddigger. Not sure what that says about me ...

JodieGarberJacob · 15/12/2013 21:11

Thank goodness for garlic telling us the old bag side of the argument! I can now get into my winceyette and soak my teeth.

custardo · 15/12/2013 21:16

OP - you don't need to be in a clique ( or quiche as it's known) :) to post.

anyway i want to say - she sounds like a rotton mean spirited person

but then, i do have to say, the most mean spirited people i usually meet in church funnily enough.

rant away all you like - but if you want to just moan - dont put it in AIBU, becuase the chances are, people will tell you that you are!

UptheChimney · 15/12/2013 21:22

Yes I am good natured, I guess I'm not in the clique

The one thing you can count on is that you'll be a "f* old bag" one day.

candycoatedwaterdrops · 15/12/2013 21:26

I'm already a fucking old bag and I'm only 25!

harticus · 15/12/2013 21:31

I'm really pissed off at her

You might need to work on that forgiveness and tolerance stuff OP.

Took DS to the nativity knees up at the village Methodist chapel tonight - excellent fun - kids running amok, loads of caterwauling of carols and everyone slightly pissed on mulled wine.

You need to shop around and find something less tight-arsed.

NewtRipley · 15/12/2013 21:33

This was only one person. You are pretty lucky, IMo if there's only one annoying person in any one place.

Beastofburden · 15/12/2013 21:37

So thats what a quiche is on MN. I did wonder.

Speaking as a fucking old bag myself, I don't think you can get snarky about church choirs. Some aim for a high musical standard, but many are community choirs, doing their best but including all who want to contribute. Best sing for a choir that auditions, if you want to make comments on standards.

ImaginativeNewName · 15/12/2013 21:52

Yanbu. The old bag description sounds fitting in this case... Grin

throwingstones · 15/12/2013 22:03

To be fair to the old bag a church isn't really a place for children, you should wait until your child is old enough to decide for themselves if they want to spend an hour a week praying to somebody that doesn't exist.

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 15/12/2013 22:03

garlicbaubles

Xmas Grin
startwig1982 · 15/12/2013 22:09

I take DS to church an everyone is very tolerant of him as they remember what it's like to have a demanding 2 yo. Plus I take food and toys and have even been known to resort to giving him my phone to play with.
I wouldn't, however, take him to orchestra, where people go for a bit of fun and want to learn/concentrate. I wouldn't take him somewhere where I couldn't supervise him so he didn't annoy people.
Maybe you need to rethink taking your dd and try being nicer more patient.

BrianTheMole · 15/12/2013 22:10

Well, I would agree with you op, but the fact that you are calling her a fucking old bag makes me wonder if your bad attitude is really apparent at church. And thats why she doesn't like you. But I'm old as well, so I probably would side with the fucking old bag as I'm probably one myself Smile. Fucking old bags unite!

VerySmallSqueak · 15/12/2013 22:22

The more I think about it,I fucking love being a fucking old bag.

But I still think that the mardy arse who thinks kids should be seen and not heard is a fucking horrible old bag.

There's a big difference.Well,there is to me after Wine Wine.

drudgetrudy · 15/12/2013 22:25

Think OP is really out of order and offended on behalf of my fellow fucking old bags but can't stop laughing at usualsuspect. Lol is the only phrase for it!

CanIMakeItToChristmas · 15/12/2013 22:26

Do you remember the Grumpy Old Women programmes? I'm definitely one! I think Old Bag fits well into that. I'm sad Fifty Shades of Beige isn't coming near me.

garlicbaubles · 15/12/2013 22:50

Pumpkin:

Is it me?

Yes.

Raucous old-bag laffter over here Xmas Grin

I've got an ad for £35 men's shirts! HOW does the ad server KNOW I need a shag and won't get one unless I bribe a bloke with "fashion shirts"?

I was hoping to get adverts for vintage Mulberry bags!

CanYouKeepASecret2 · 15/12/2013 22:56

No I've got Pepa Pig too! And I'm WAY past that stage with my DC, not that they ever liked that sort of thing anyway.

VerySmallSqueak · 15/12/2013 23:03

I've got a bank one.

Give me peppa any day.

Daddy pig makes me laugh.My bank balance definitely doesn't.

CanYouKeepASecret2 · 15/12/2013 23:04
Grin
ilovesooty · 16/12/2013 00:45

The OP is 40. I'm wondering how old some of the self confessed "old bags" on this thread are. Probably younger than that! Grin