Weird parent at school

[Summerwood1]

I was friends with a Chinese lady at my daughters school. The Chinese lady's daughter fell out with another child at school, who's mum i also spoke to. Because I talked to the other mum,the Chinese lady now won't speak to me! My daughter and the Chinese lady's daughter are still friends at school and play together at school,but if we walk past the little girl whist she is with her mother,the child turns away and looks at the grass so she doesn't have to say hello! Yet play together every day at school. My daughter asked if she wanted to come and play,she replied 'I can't my mum doesn't know I play with you' . Our only sin was to walk with the other mum she had fallen out with,bizarre behaviour!!!

[KeatsiePie]

Period are you Chinese? It might be that it doesn't make sense because you're Chinese. I believe your ways to be very different from ours. If you're Chinese.

[ZingChoirsOfAngels]

Period

I don't know either

I'm China figure it out...

[AskAQuestion]

I love this thread.

My neighbour refuses to speak to me and turns her back when she sees us. But her parents were Indian born Brits

[Dontlaugh]

I'm Irish.
But I do love a Chinese.
Should I leave?

[waltermittymissus]

You must have it wrong, Ask.

Clearly the only logical explanation is that they're secretly Chinese.

[Dontlaugh]

But if she's Oriental then that changes everything. Obvs.

[missingmumxox]

I have china plates which are a bastard to clean, can't put them in the dishwasher... Does this count?

Also lots of Chinese parents at my boys school, as there is a college at the local Uni which is Chinese, but it is mainly the Dads who come in.

[AskAQuestion]

They must be. They did have a Chinese student stay with them for a few months about 3 years ago. I wonder if it is contagious?

Is it only Chinese ladies that behave like this or all Chinese people? Is the girls dad Chinese too?

[waltermittymissus]

That's it! They caught the Chinese!

[AskAQuestion]

[BumPotato]

Perhaps you should have left out her ethnicity out. You could have given her a false name instead. How about Lanying Chen? That would work.

[Mimishimi]

I go snubbed walking back from school this morning by a mum who Usually says hello to me. I don't think it was because she's Turkish, I think she was just embarrassed that they were running late.

[sandfrog]

[OhMerGerd]

' I-have-high-knees, lay me!'

This is a game of Chinese whispers isn't it?

[whatshallwedo]

After reading this thread the word 'chinese' looks all wrong now

[Grokette]

Can i have a number 26 with chicken, a number 8 with beef and the schezuan seafood for my DH please and thank you.

Christ I'm hungry.

[Aussiemum78]

She's probably Korean and can't work out why you call her Chinese lady. Plus her first name is Beryl. Poor misunderstood Beryl.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

what I find really funny about this thread is the amount of stereotypical ethnic posts that have been on the thread in an attempt to make the op look bad

[SatinSandals]

I think that OP has worked out where she went wrong by now and needs to start again to get any sensible advice!

[ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged]

I luff mumsnet

[CheerfulYank]

Oh I'm dying.

Whoever mentioned "skirting around the ethnicity" there's a huge difference between saying "er...that boy...the one with the green hat...no, the light green hat" rather than saying "the white boy", and mentioning someone's ethnicity when there is no REASON to. HTH.
-American (by way of Finland, Germany, Ireland, and the Blackfoot Tribe) Lady

[HECTheHeraldAngelsSing]

songlark, let me show you why it is wrong for someone to mention ethnicity when it is not relevant.

I was on the bus the other day and a white woman came and sat next to me, I think she was british. We talked about the weather and then an able bodied man boarded the bus and he sat opposite us. He was wearing a hat.

If that sounds really weird and you're thinking well, why would anyone say that? What on earth does their whiteness, britishness or able bodied ness have to do with the story?

But if you say I was on the bus the other day and a black woman came and sat next to me, I think she was Ugandan. We talked about the weather and then a disabled man boarded the bus and he sat opposite us He was wearing a hat.

Then you will be hearing the totally irrelevant ethnic or disability detail that is inserted into conversations day in day out. And many people won't think anything at all of it. They were only saying, what's the big deal?

Well, the big deal is that it is not a required detail of the story, without which the story cannot be explained (if you were describing a crime and the person you saw running away, then such things would be required).

In this case, was the OP attributing the behaviour to the other woman's ethnicity? If not, how was it relevant? What did the repeated detail of her ethnicity add to the story or our understanding of it? I have read many, many posts on here about interactions between several women. We get woman A, woman B, woman C. We get "I'll call them Barbara and Jean". What we don't get is White Mum and Mum.

But the really big deal is that it's not seen as a big deal.

[AskAQuestion]

Nice explanation, hec.

• white part English/ polish/ welsh & part time disabled lady.

[Kandypane]

Ha! Mumsnet fantastic response to OP!!
#halfirishhalfbritlady

[WhataSook]

I think if the OP was friends with the lady she would know if she was Chinese. ..so I'm not sure what is wrong with describing her as such?

And yes God forbid we imply that other cultures [whispers the next bit] think differently from British people.