Should the neighbours bring over our parcel?

[Parcels]

We order lots of stuff from amazon and other mail order. Our neighbours very often take it in. DH says they should bring it to us. I think we should get it from them as they have done us a favour. AIBU?

If you were my neighbours I would think to myself that you could get fucked you cheeky bastards, and politely refuse all further deliveries. If you not only can't be bothered to arrange correct delivery addresses but thenexpect me to play postie you would find you had a distinct lack of parcels. And I do deliver them if I have them if I happen to be on my way out.
Your issue here is your dp being an entitled, lazy, rude brat. I assume you go and you say thank you? Considering he's such a tosser?

But I still think this thread is a wind up.

"He just hates looking anyone in the eye,saying thank you and making conversation"

Does he have social issues? It isn't hard.

We take in parcels for our neighbours, and they take them for us. Simple really.

He just hates looking anyone in the eye,saying thank you and making conversation.

But... surely he has to do that whoever walks between houses, him or them?!

We have lovely, lovely neighbours - always have, we've been uniformly lucky - and always take parcels for one another. Would never expect anyone to walk to anyone else's place, though nor do we keep tabs either as it's reciprocal. But the person taking the parcel in is doing the favour, so shouldn't have to do anything, surely?

He just hates looking anyone in the eye,saying thank you and making conversation

So do I. I am painfully shy. However, I force myself to exhibit good manners - it isn't that hard to manage a small wave of the "we missed you" card a please and a thank you.

If you not only can't be bothered to arrange correct delivery addresses

Where did you get this from?

I always collect. I will wait till the next day if I get home late, though. My neighbours have occasionally popped round with a parcel, if they know I'm in already, and they're about to go out. The rare occasions I take one in for them (they WFH, I usually go into the office,) I pop round with it, as they might not catch me otherwise, if it's one of those days where I'm at work then out in the evening. It's not a hardship, though - we are literally next door neighbours, and I just lean across from my step to knock their door.

The only times I haven't picked it up (if they haven't come round because it suits them more to do so,) is when I had no card. In one case, I had started a complaint to say that they'd said it would be delivered and a week on, still no sign (it was something I needed, too, rather than a book or something which could wait.) I'd asked my next door neighbours who usually get my parcels - but not the neighbour two doors down, till she mentioned they had a package for me. It was massive, as well. I felt bad, but never having had a card, how was I to know it was with a neighbour not next door, someone who has never hsd a parcel for me before or since, if I hadn't had a card?

I am also quite familiar with the local sorting office opening times, and the depots of some of the local courier companies.

Soup - I meant why don't they put themselves out by getting things delivered to work, a relatives house, or arrange it for a time they are in. If parcels have to be taken by neighbours a lot, which is an imposition, then delivery is to the wrong address - it needs to be delivered to one where they are going to be.
But not only do they not make sensible arrangements so expect next door to do them a favour the neighbour is then expected to play postman.

They are out of the house doing something, so send their packages there.

"Soup - I meant why don't they put themselves out by getting things delivered to work, a relatives house, or arrange it for a time they are in"

My place of work has banned people from arranging stuff to be delivered to work because it got out of control. Our nearest relatives live 150 miles away. Parcel delivery people aren't always obliging as to delivery times. When they have upwards of 50 drops a day it isn't always possible to arrange a delivery time.

It isn't always that easy.

TotallyBursar I know what you said and the OP has not said anything to give the impression they "can't be bothered" (your words) to have it delivered to work. Plenty of people have no options as to a delivery address.

In the case of Amazon, you have to hunt it down, but there is an option to have it delivered to an "Amazon locker" if there is one locally.

However, the OP has made no indication as to whether an alternative address is available and whether they simply "can't be bothered" to have stuff delivered there.

Unless a neighbour specifically came over and told me that they were expecting a parcel, that they weren't likely to be in and asked me politely if I could I take it in for them, I wouldn't accept it. What if it got damaged in transit and the neighbour blamed me. Who would be held accountable? I really hope the courier companies don't start doing things like that here in Australia (you can nominate someone else to take it in but the accepted social norm is to ask that person first). I think your DH is being very rude to expect them to drop it in to you!

The apathy & rudeness came across quite clearly actually.
It's not always that easy? How about speaking to the neighbour(s) who are getting these packages anyway & just asking nicely to make a slightly more formal arrangement instead of taking advantage of their kindness. I live rurally, I still don't take the piss with my neighbours. I don't understand trying so hard to make an excuse for being so rude.
It's exactly that easy, it's as hard as you want to make it. They could eat into their own time by using a delivery toa shop, a click & collect point, po box etc. It's easier toget the neighbours to do it though.
I don't think it's that hard to sincerely thank someone for helping you.

Anyway op hasn't been back so it's a bit pointless waiting for answers.

I've taken in loads of parcels this last fortnight for neighbours, sometimes 2 a day. I'm happy to take them in but I don't go delivering them. The children sometimes do, if we have certain neighbour's parcels as they've learned they'll get 50p for their troubles

I don't however expect anything more than a quick thank you when they come to collect it, nor would it have ever occurred to me that they should have asked me before hoping I'd be in to take their parcel. I usually just assume they've not been given the option of picking when it's delivered. I order that much crap online that most couriers around here know me by name and always try my door when they can't get hold of someone who lives near-by

I've even had one of them bring a parcel for my neighbour to my work place (I work within a 30 second walk of my house) because she had too many undelivered parcels to go back to the next day, so she "hoped I wouldn't mind her cheek"

Dh is lazy.

You are right. Easy peasy lemon squeezy!

Surprised you even have to ask.

Of course you collect, and say a big thank you if it happens a lot.