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Should the neighbours bring over our parcel?

141 replies

Parcels · 26/11/2013 22:20

We order lots of stuff from amazon and other mail order. Our neighbours very often take it in. DH says they should bring it to us. I think we should get it from them as they have done us a favour. AIBU?

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intitgrand · 26/11/2013 22:32

If you know who has it of course you should collect it.But we hardly ever get a card to say

oscarwilde · 26/11/2013 22:32

Unless you are both disabled your DH is BU

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Parcels · 26/11/2013 22:33

Thanks. I do know he's being unreasonable really. He just hates looking anyone in the eye,saying thank you and making conversation

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Lilacroses · 26/11/2013 22:33

Why on earth would he think they ought to bring it to you? I have on occasion taken parcels over to neighbours if they haven't come to get them that day but generally I wait for them to come to me first.

crazyspaniel · 26/11/2013 22:34

I'm wondering if you're my neighbour. I took in a parcel today and the neighbours have been home for a few hours now but haven't been round to collect. If I was expected to be the delivery person I would stop accepting other people's parcels.

warriorwoman · 26/11/2013 22:34

I take in lots of packages for neighbours and if I see them coming home, I would probably take it to them, just because I would rather not be inconvenienced when they decide to knock just as I am about to serve dinner or something. I got fed up with some neighbours who had so many packages every day and just kind of expected me to take them in for them and didn't always come to collect them. They were taking up all my hallway, that I would have to go and knock so that I could get rid of them!

You should definitely go and collect them. If they didn't collect them for you, you would have to go and collect them from the Post office depot, so they are saving you a journey.

onedogandababy · 26/11/2013 22:36

Ha, are you my neighbours??

I have now started to refuse to take their stuff in (there are times I've taken in 4/5 parcels in a week and they never come to collect. I always have to deliver to them after a few days. I appreciate that it could be some misguided 'i don't want to disturb you' consideration on their part, but I can't be arsed to watch out the window for when they'll be about. I also no longer have the room to have parcels lying about.

So yanbu, your DH definitely is.

runningonwillpower · 26/11/2013 22:37

Parcels - I'm just curious to know why your husband thinks like this.

Why should your neighbours run about delivering your parcels to you?

What does he do for them?

NadiaWadia · 26/11/2013 22:37

He just hates looking anyone in the eye,saying thank you and making conversation. Wow. That must make life difficult. How did you first get together, I wonder?

Could you fetch the parcels? Or get them delivered to your workplace, or DH's, as someone else suggested.

MrsCakesPremonition · 26/11/2013 22:37

Go and fetch it.
At New Year, give them a bottle of wine to say thank you for helping you out all year (as it sounds like they take in a lot of parcels for you).

MrsOakenshield · 26/11/2013 22:37

I might pop round with it if I'd had it for a few days - they might have missed me when they came round. But, no, you go and pick it up from your very helpful and kind neighbours!

TheDoctrineOfWho · 26/11/2013 22:38

Um, if they bring it over, he still has to
Look them in the eye and say thank you...!

MrsCakesPremonition · 26/11/2013 22:39

Good point, Doctrine.

webwiz · 26/11/2013 22:41

I always go and get parcels from neighbours except when the helpful parcelforce man decides not to put a card through my door so that I have no idea that the parcel has actually been delivered Hmm

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Parcels · 26/11/2013 22:44

Ha ha a bottle of wine to say thank you. If I suggested that DH would say it wasn't necessary to give them anything because they enjoy helping out,or have nothing else to do, or they are idiots anyway ( he doesn't like their car)

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DrHolmes · 26/11/2013 22:46

Your husband is the idiot.

MrsCakesPremonition · 26/11/2013 22:46

Your DH needs a short, sharp lesson in social interaction. Possibly underlined with a boot up the backside.

BaronessBomburst · 26/11/2013 22:48

LTB!

Just thought I'd get that in first. Grin

HildaOgden · 26/11/2013 22:49

Is your husband generally such an odd and entitled prickman,or is it just in relation to that particular,helpful neighbour?

JemR234 · 26/11/2013 22:49

You should get it of course! The only time I have ever taken a parcel over to a neighbour was when it had been at my house 3 days, turned out they hadn't had the card and they were very apologetic.

LineRunner · 26/11/2013 22:49

Does your DH never answer the door, then?

Trills · 26/11/2013 22:50

You should go get it. They are already doing you a favour by taking it in.

Trills · 26/11/2013 22:50

If they bring it to you and he answers the door he'll still have to look them in the eye.

TheDoctrineOfWho · 26/11/2013 22:50

People do your DH one favour.
He wants them to do another favour.
He doesn't like saying thank you.
He doesn't want to give them a token of appreciation.
He thinks they are idiots with nothing better to do than favours for him.

OP, this problem will soon be solved as your neighbours will stop doing you favours!

BaronessBomburst · 26/11/2013 22:50

My DH won't answer the door. Or the phone.