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AIBU?

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Should the neighbours bring over our parcel?

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Parcels · 26/11/2013 22:20

We order lots of stuff from amazon and other mail order. Our neighbours very often take it in. DH says they should bring it to us. I think we should get it from them as they have done us a favour. AIBU?

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BigArea · 27/11/2013 07:44

I've had a bloody great humidifier in my hall since Monday afternoon - is it yours OP?

Lweji · 27/11/2013 07:46

Is that his way of saying you should go and collect it?

I'd probably be telling the neighbours to stop accepting things in his name. I'm sure he'll find it easier to collect from the post office.

EugenesAxe · 27/11/2013 07:48

at your partner's attitude. So needless to say YANBU.

Our neighbours across the road; of the four parcels I've taken for them they have collected one. They are very generous otherwise and at least once a non-collection has been a misunderstanding so I've let it go, but after having their things hanging around for days on these occasions, I did consider not accepting parcels for them. Their drive is long and steep, which might have something to do with it...

misshoohaa · 27/11/2013 07:48

Are you my neighbours? Our postman now just brings about 4 houses worth of boxes to our house most days as he knows I'm on. We don't mind delivering it as I don't think the neighbours always know its arrived.

What does annoy me is when they get massive boxes dropped off with no warning. My house is tiny and I have to store it in the kitchen and try and stop DS from leaping all over it. I mainly don't mind but don't be surprised if your amazon parcels sometime end up on your doorstep as I'm going out or don't feel like answering the door later that evening.

southeastastra · 27/11/2013 07:54

going against the grain, i usually take it over as soon as i see them as i don't really want to be disturbed later on when i'm sitting on my arse busy. it's not a massive deal usually

Bosgrove · 27/11/2013 08:00

One of my neighbours never collected her parcels, and sometimes didn't answer her door when I took them over even though I could see her through the window. The parcels were often huge, once there was a large rug I had for a few days blocking me from getting my pram out.

I get that she had two children and didn't want to leave then to nip over to get them but she could have at least come over when her DH was home or sent him over. Every time I ended up leaving my 3DC in the house and taking the parcel over often a couple of times before she let me in.

I ended up refusing to sign a couple of times if I already had a few parcels of hers that I couldn't deliver and was really happy when they moved.

It was a shame because we live in a small culture de sac and are used to taking in each others post without any problems.

ShakeRattleNRoll · 27/11/2013 08:01

well surely it is up to them to come to you unless you are expecting something on a certain day hth

Bosgrove · 27/11/2013 08:03

cul de sac .....stupid phone.

southeastastra · 27/11/2013 08:05

am liking 'culture' de sac i live in one of those too

Taz1212 · 27/11/2013 08:32

I work from home so I get most of the parcels. I do tend to pop round with them when I see the neighbours come home home but that's because:

A) I hate having my hallway cluttered with other people's stuff and
B) I don't do the carting over. I have two DC who love nothing better than popping round to the neighbours with their parcels.

I am, however, an oddity and YANBU at all!

ipswichwitch · 27/11/2013 08:33

I will take in parcels for most of the neighbours - they always come for them, say thankyou, etc. I'm no longer doing it for one neighbour though - she never came for them and I always checked that the postman put a card through the door. When I would knock on with the parcel, knowing she was in, I could actually see her through the kitchen window studiously ignoring me (no she isn't hard of hearing), and when she'd finally deign to answer the door I barely got a grunt never mind a thankyou. That was the last time - I can't be doing with the arseache of it all.
I'm not a postman, neither is your neighbour so your DH is being vu.

samandi · 27/11/2013 08:55

If this is serious, then your DP is being very unreasonable. If I was your neighbour and this was a set pattern of behaviour then I would refuse to accept the parcels.

Morgause · 27/11/2013 09:00

We were always willing to take in parcels, mostly we still are. However, just before Christmas last year a big parcel arrived for the people opposite which we took in. They didn't collect it that night. They didn't the next day - the day before Christmas Eve. Oh caught the man as he came home from work and asked him to pick it up.

He said his wife didn't want him to until after Christmas because "there wasn't room for it." DH said it would be on the doorstep in the wind and rain if he didn't fetch it right away.

We always say no if it's a parcel for them now.

Kipsy · 27/11/2013 09:11

If I take in a parcel for a neighbour, and I know a card is left, I expect them to come and collect it from me. If I am going out and I see they are in, I sometimes take small parcels over. For this, to their credit, they are very grateful.

If you know it is a large item, you really need to collect it asap. I once had some exercise equipment blocking my entire hallway for 2 days because my neighbours couldn't be bothered to collect - I never took in a parcel for them again.

Jux · 27/11/2013 09:15

I'll take in parcels for neighbours. Once or twice I have then taken them round, but that was my own decision and choice to do so. If it were expected of me, I would stop.

Our neighbours sometimes take parcels in for us. Mostly dh or I will go and collect but sometimes the neighbour brings it round to us.

We all co-operate because no-one takes the piss. Which your dh does.

SoupDragon · 27/11/2013 09:18

Both really - I always go and get my parcels if I know a neighbour has them but, OTOH, I always take neighbours' parcels to them as they don't always get a card letting them know where it is.

If you know the neighbour has the parcel, you should always go and get it.

Wuxiapian · 27/11/2013 09:31

They are taking in your parcel, thus, helping out their neighbour - the least you should do is have the decency to relieve them of it!

MrsDoomsPatterson · 27/11/2013 09:36

You go & collect & thank profusely.

You do not expect them to deliver.

What are people LIKE, these days? Sheesh.

angelos02 · 27/11/2013 10:36

They are doing you a big favour by taking parcels in for you. Also, you shouldn't order lots of parcels if you know you aren't going to be home to collect them. Now & again is OK but you are taking the mick if this is a regular thing.

MissMilbanke · 27/11/2013 10:37

To answer your question

Err No. Don't be so bloody rude.

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 27/11/2013 10:42

YANBU, you have to collect it from them. You husband obvioulsy has no idea...

Mimishimi · 27/11/2013 11:23

They shouldn't be leaving them with neighbours in the first place. How annoying if you worked rrom home and the parcel couriers made you their go-to person for the whole street/block.

SoupDragon · 27/11/2013 11:37

They shouldn't be leaving them with neighbours in the first place.^

Why?

How annoying if you worked rrom home and the parcel couriers made you their go-to person for the whole street/block

You can simply refuse to take them in. It's not hard.

oldgrandmama · 27/11/2013 11:55

Because I'm here at home pretty well all the time, I take in loads of stuff for almost all the neighbours (seven households) - except one, call it No. ?. These people totally blank everyone, even when one says 'good morning' etc., they let the courtyard gate slam in the face of anyone walking behind them and - the few times I did take in their parcels, no one came to collect them and when I eventually took them round, no-one answered the door and I was stuck with the parcels for several days.

Local posties, delivery firms all know me now and that I'm amenable to take in parcels. Usually my neighbours come round for them, but I have taken them round (just a few yards away). If I'm sometimes asked to take in a parcel for No. ? I explain why I won't, and have a little giggle to myself at the thought they may have to go to the local Sorting Office to pick it up

EugenesAxe · 27/11/2013 14:00

Morgause - I am flabbergasted.

I've got a mental image now of 'culture de sac' being what would grow if you put a petri dish full of agar in the way of your birth detritus.... hilarious spell check that one!

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