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Should the neighbours bring over our parcel?

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Parcels · 26/11/2013 22:20

We order lots of stuff from amazon and other mail order. Our neighbours very often take it in. DH says they should bring it to us. I think we should get it from them as they have done us a favour. AIBU?

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DrHolmes · 26/11/2013 22:50

I actually hope your neighbours never accept a parcel for you ever again. Entitled much?!

bellablot · 26/11/2013 22:52

You should obviously go and get it, your DH is a moron!

earlesswonder · 26/11/2013 22:52

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Areyoumymummysnet · 26/11/2013 22:53

DH should get it. Lazy arse Wink

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BreconBeBuggered · 26/11/2013 22:54

Does your DH think he's doing the neighbours a favour, letting them play with his lovely packages for a few hours?

OddBoots · 26/11/2013 22:55

Before I read your follow up posts I wondered if his logic was that if they brought it to you then they could do so at a time that suits them rather than being disturbed at a time that suits you (my neighbours work shifts) but I guess not!

Monty27 · 26/11/2013 22:56

Go and get it and stop being a pain in the arse to your neighbours, get your parcels delivered to where you can receive them.

Gryffindor · 26/11/2013 22:56

Is this a reverse?

morethanpotatoprints · 26/11/2013 22:57

FFs, parallel universe.
You get lots of parcels and your neighbour takes them in.
Bloody good neighbours.

Our neighbours have bloody parcels arriving all the time.
We got so fed up we refused to take them and nobody should sign for other peoples parcels.
They all get returned now.
Talk about take the piss.

Monty27 · 26/11/2013 23:03

I do it constantly, it would seem every time I'm home for the day, one I couldn't even pick up! Neighbour comes to the door to collect and gives me daggers like I've done something wrong.

And, half the time she's in or her dh or dd. (I've actually seen her dh looking out the window when they've been wrapping my door). They're too lazy to answer the door. Other neighbours are complaining about her too. Angry

MilkyBarButtons · 26/11/2013 23:13

I get lots of parcels, my lovely neighbour would take them in regularly as the postman often managed to deliver in the short window I'm out I always go and collect if I got a card or email delivery notification. I also regularly bought my neighbour flowers or a nice tin of biscuits to say thanks plus a treat at Christmas. When I moved out I bought flowers, fancy chocs and a bottle of wine to say a final thank you.

It is a simple case of good manners, the world would be a far better place if we all had them.

fuckwittery · 26/11/2013 23:20

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Wahtawah · 26/11/2013 23:21

OP - if you order lots of stuff from Amazon and other mail order outlets, how about using the 'next day' or 'nominated day', for delivery ie a day you or OH are in?

Posters who resent receiving parcels for their neighbours - how about just saying no to the delivery?

WooWooOwl · 26/11/2013 23:23

Your DH sounds rude!

chipshop · 26/11/2013 23:26

I take in lots as I work from home and it annoys me if I can see someone's home and they don't bother to collect it.

There is a couple a few doors down who do this, I've taken parcels round a few times cause I'm fed up of their Ikea boxes being in my hall for days and they just mumble and don't really look at me. Rude!

DP once messed up on this score tho - BA lost his case and we had a knock at the door a few days later from a man saying he had it. Grumpy DP thought it was a cabbie sent by BA and said well bring it in then. The man was in fact an elderly neighbour who trotted across the road and lugged the heavy case he'd kindly taken in for DP earlier out of his house. Bet he regretted taking it in. Grin

ilovesooty · 26/11/2013 23:27

My next door neighbour brought my last parcel round but I was about to go and collect it. It had been delivered the day before but I hadn't got home until about 10.30pm and I thought it was too late to knock. I hadn't specified anywhere for it to be left and expected it to go to the sorting office.

You are right and your husband is wrong.

MidniteScribbler · 26/11/2013 23:31

If you're getting that many parcels, then you need to find an alternate method of delivery (workplace or a locked box) not bug you neighbour with them. If I were taking in multiple packages per week for a neighbour I'd tell them to fuck off (especially someone who didn't bother getting them himself, or wouldn't say thank you). It's not your neighbour's job to play postman pat for you.

Forget the argument of pick up or delivery, yabvu just to expect your neighbours to keep taking them in for you. Unless a neighbour has specifically come to me prior to the parcel being delivered and asked if I would mind, then I would refuse to accept any parcels, especially if I have a limited relationship with that person anyway. My neighbour last year asked me before ordering if she could deliver to my house and pick up after her son was in bed as it was a christmas present. I had no problem with that, but would never take one for someone who didn't check with me first.

Lucylouby · 26/11/2013 23:32

Our postman never puts a card through to say there is a parcel next door for you, so I never know to go and collect it. But our neighbours don't mind bringing parcels round and I take parcels round to them too. If post man leaves parcels for other neighbours in the street, I tell him to put a card through their door. I see it as part of my role as a good neighbour to take in parcels, but It is not my job to deliver mail to half the street.

CrohnicallySick · 27/11/2013 07:16

If I take in a parcel, the postman often says 'do you want me to pop a card through their door?' I just think 'well of course! It's part of your job, and how else would they know I had it?'.

Having said that, the last parcel I took in I did deliver round, seeing as I had been out all afternoon (so didn't know if they had tried to collect it already), and I got home just in time for baby to go to bed so didn't want them coming round and disturbing the baby.

Wonderwhy123 · 27/11/2013 07:18

I work from home so am always taking parcels in for half the street. Most times now the delivery drivers don't bother knocking every door they come straight to mine because I'm usually the only one with a car on the drive in the street. I
Don't mind but I won't deliver them, although my next door neighbour had been home for hours once and hadn't collected their parcel so I took it round and they hasn't had a card put through.

Iris445 · 27/11/2013 07:23

I took in a parcel for a neighbor. Three days later she came round all stroppy that she had to wait for it!!!

I refuse her parcels now.

Ragwort · 27/11/2013 07:26

He just hates looking anyone in the eye,saying thank you and making conversation

Are you really married to someone like that, God Forbid he ever needs to call on his neighbours for help in an emergency. Where I live we are fortunate in that everyone helps each other, we have some seriously disabled neighbours who often need very practical help (ie; if they have fallen Sad). I am so glad I live in a friendly area.

IDontDoIroning · 27/11/2013 07:40

Your dh appears to be rude entitled and lacking in common courtesy.

I wouldn't take in parcels for anyone who
Expected me to deliver them to me
Didn't say thank you
Thought I was an idiot because he didn't like my choice of car

I suspect the problem will be solved soon as if he carries in they will start to refuse to take them in for you/him.

StuckOnARollercoaster · 27/11/2013 07:41

I'm guessing you are getting the picture that he comes across really badly. Orders lots of stuff knowing that you often you won't be in so it will end up at neighbours and think they should complete the delivery and don't deserve a thankyou. He needs to be given a lesson in manners...
Before I went on mat leave our parcels would end up at the neighbours. They would usually see me and pop out with it as I pull onto driveway but if not I would pop round straightaway assuming the delivery people have left a card (but I'm not convinced they always do). We have a safe storage place (classy - it's a broken down car on our drive that we leave unlocked!) if I am asked for an alternative if we are not in. I'd never assume it's ok to use the neighbours. I am always very thankful if they do have anything of ours. In fact this thread has reminded me it's about time to take over some baking to say thanks and be neighbourly!