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Should the neighbours bring over our parcel?

141 replies

Parcels · 26/11/2013 22:20

We order lots of stuff from amazon and other mail order. Our neighbours very often take it in. DH says they should bring it to us. I think we should get it from them as they have done us a favour. AIBU?

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BackforGood · 27/11/2013 17:11

Why on earth not Mimishimi ? Confused
I work at home sometimes - it really doesn't ruin my day to answer to door to a delivery every now and then.
If I'm out, it saves me a LOT of time having to go and collect from the Post Office at a time they are open, having sought out some ID, having found somewhere to park, etc.,etc.
Are you saying you can't order anything off the internet if you aren't definitely going to be in your house 24/7 ? Hmm

DoingItForMyself · 27/11/2013 17:32

You should get it from them, I deliver parcels for a job and if I have to leave it with a neighbour I always say I'll put a note through their door so they know its here and can come and get it.

Especially at this time of year people who are at home all day can be taking in several parcels for different neighbours, expecting them to also go and distribute them is out of order.

I would feel awful knowing that not only had I inconvenienced them by dragging them to the door to sign for someone else's stuff, but that they were also expected to keep an eye out to see when you are home and deliver it to you. Your H is a lazy bugger!

Hulababy · 27/11/2013 17:47

You are right; dh is wrong.

You should go and get them from them. They have done you a favour by taking the parcel in as you say.

flatmum · 27/11/2013 17:49

i used to wfh and took loads of parcels in for people. I didnt mine but wouldnt take them round - they should come and get from you.

flatmum · 27/11/2013 17:50

I worked from home and was that person. It didn't really bother me most of the time. If I was on a call and it wasn't convenient I would just not answe the door.

AwkwardSquad · 27/11/2013 19:07

YANBU. DH is BU. I agree with all who have said that you / DH should collect the parcel and not expect the neighbour to deliver it to you.

I admit that if I take a parcel in, I do usually deliver it myself but it's because I want it out of my house so that I don't have someone knocking on my door when it's not convenient to me.

Note of caution though - my neighbour kindly brought a parcel round for us the other evening. We had no idea that there had been a missed delivery because there was no bloody card left. So if the neighbour was waiting for us, it would have sat in his house for a while.

sandfrog · 27/11/2013 19:54

You should go and collect it as they've already done you a favour by taking it in. It's annoying when someone doesn't come round for their parcel, as you have to keep going round to see if they're in, and meanwhile their stuff is cluttering up the hall.

Or if you'd rather not have things left with neighbours you should get one of those Royal Mail opt out stickers to go on your letterbox.

You can request a convenient re-delivery day on the Royal Mail website.

MoominMammasHandbag · 27/11/2013 20:00

Yes, I am another one who only takes in parcels for nice neighbours. All the rude ones can make the 5 mile trek to the post office.

BillyBanter · 27/11/2013 20:02

You should make your dh go collect it.

BitOutOfPractice · 27/11/2013 20:02

I always take parcels in. And my neigbours do the same. My nearestneighbour usually brings it round as soon as he sees me get home bu but if not I call round and stop for a chat

NewtRipley · 27/11/2013 20:02

Why is your DH so awkward with people?

whydoibothersometimes · 27/11/2013 20:03

You are right, the neighbour has already done the favour by taking in the parcel. If I take in a parcel I would expect the neighbour to come and get it, I wouldn't get my young children wrapped up warm in the eve, if that's when you get home, to then deliver the parcel to you!! A parcel would sit in my house until the person it is intended for comes and knocks for it.

TheGreatWizardQuiQuaeQuod · 27/11/2013 20:04

I am sure he doesn't intend to, but he sounds dreadfully arrogant. He does know that they don't HAVE to do you and him favours, doesn't he? It's not his right to have parcels taken in for him. If he chooses to behave like this, they will possibly come to see it and start turning the parcels away.

I bloody would, anyway.

They're doing him a big favour and he's looking down his nose at them. Awful. Just awful.

Purpleknickers · 27/11/2013 20:11

I always go and collect my parcels left with a neighbour, today my DP took in a parcel for my neighbour in our culture de sac bosgrove Grin and my neighbour collecting it took an hour and a shared bottle of wine .. Result in my book as I don't know her very well

justmyview · 27/11/2013 20:12

OP hasn't explained why their parcels aren't delivered to them at work.

SEmyarse · 27/11/2013 20:19

Can I just say thankyou to all the lovely people who take in parcels. You make my life a lot easier as a delivery driver.

And yes, people who don't collect their stuff are a complete pain in the ass. It wouldn't be too bad, if there were the option of taking to a depot, but in our company I only get paid for a successful delivery, so I have to take away and try again up to 3 times (different days) and if I don't deliver it I get paid nowt. It's not just the extra time and effort, but i am getting increasing piles of stuff taking up valuable space in my van. For some reason the people who annoy the neighbours are also the most prolific shoppers (QVC mostly).

But in 90% of roads, you can hardly get to the door without people poking their heads straight out offering to take in. i think it's a fab reflection on society. The not collecting thing is by far the most common reason for not taking in, and I don't blame people at all for getting annoyed by other's self-centredness!

justgirl · 27/11/2013 20:35

I agreed you should go and get it yourselves, although I have been known to take my neighbours parcels to them, it would not be expected of me and if it was i wouldn't be very happy!

Ifcatshadthumbs · 27/11/2013 20:43

I'm the only person who is home most days in our street and take in loads of parcels this time of year. Sometimes I pop them round not always. For a sahm I seem to miss most of my own deliveries. Nothing makes me sigh heavier than a little Royal Mail card on the Mat

sandfrog · 27/11/2013 22:48

If you're the only one around locally in the daytime, there's a good chance that your house effectively becomes the local parcel depot, for everyone else's convenience.

chocolate140 · 27/11/2013 22:53

It's not their job to deliver your parcels to you. Your parcel = Your responsibility

LiegeAndLief · 27/11/2013 22:56

I quite often take in parcels for neighbours. I don't mind but there is no fucking way I'm going out delivering them. If your dh couldn't be arsed to show up to collect a parcel from me on the off chance he might have to look me in the eye and form the word "thanks" (which surely he would do if the neighbours dropped the parcel off anyway?) I'd keep it.

ChippingInLovesAutumn · 27/11/2013 22:58

LTB - reasonable cause 'GIT'

chocolate140 · 27/11/2013 22:59

the only time I would take a parcel round to my neighbours House would be if they'd forgotten/didn't know that I had it and it had been sitting in the corner of my kitchen for more than a week(ish) otherwise they can go stuff themselves come and get it themselves

BillyBanter · 27/11/2013 23:37

It's the perfect thing for him to practice eye contact, saying thank you and making small talk in small chunks.

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 28/11/2013 00:20

I will happily take in parcels for my neighbours and they do the same for me. If I had a neighbour like your DH though I wouldn't be taking in parcels for him because of his attitude.

YANBU your DH is BVVVVVU