To put tights on my son?

[YoureBeingASillyBilly]

He is 4 and has been wearing tights during the winter since he was a baby because they dont to long johns in small ages and i was getting his older brother LJs and the tights were cheap in asda. They are plain black not pink and glittery.

A few weeks ago i was dressing him and asked him to grab himself some socks, he said "i want tights instead" so i started putting them on him when ds1 ( 8) shouted in "erm, X (their dad's partner) doesnt really like him wearing tights" i replied that if ds wanted to wear them then it wasnt really anyone's business and left it at that.

Dcs have come home from a weekend at their dad's and ds1 asks me "did you get ds2's tights in the girl aisle or the boy aisle?" I asked him if someone had been talking about ds2's tights and ds2 said that "daddy and X told me tights are for girlies"

Is this really an issue? AFAIC they're an extra layer to keep him warm til he is big enough for LJs and he likes wearing them. He will be big enough for his brothers now outgrown LJs next year and still fits in the tights at the minute so why would i not put them on him? I honestly cant believe two adults would tell a child this about his clothes and try and make him feel wrong for wearing them. He is 4 fgs.

I've been tempted to buy tights for my DSs but never done so. It is a bit odd IMHO

Yanbu. My 3 year old has a variety of tights. Most sensible thing in cold weather.

My nanny did this with my son. I recall being told rather than asked to get plain black thick tights. I wasn't going to argue she knew far more about what she was doing than I did.

He must have liked it as he wears long johns if it gets really cold.

Buy him spiderman tights in H&M!
YANBU

My ex husband was a bouncer on the pub we worked in when we met. In the winter he used to wear my tights .

YANBU and it's none of his dads g/f business.

Why do you think they are odd? He doesnt wear skirts with them you know he wears trousers so they look like black socks with the added bonus of not coming off inside his wellies and as a baby it meant he couldnt pull them off no matter how hard he tried

I buy my son plain, black leggings to wear under his school trousers on really cold days. I couldn't find proper long johns in the shops and I don't want him to freeze

Spiderman tights! Really? Oh he will love those. Thank you!

Boys wear tights/hosen in the rest of Europe, only seems to be an issue in the uk not sure why....

Not odd at all. Struggling to see a problem 18m DS has tights under trousers in this weather.

So far his penis hasn't fallen off!

Some people are weird.

Yanbu, but what when he goes to school. I know it's wrong but children do tend to think tights are for girls. Which makes no sense as almost every super hero wears tights.

A bouncer with tights! You dont get much more macho than bouncers do you? That has made me happy to hear. I dont know whether to ask exp not to say anything to ds again. We are pretty much no contact and i dont want to cause a hooha over nothing but i dont want ds to think theres something wrong with things he likes and chooses to wear.

not odd at all. tights.. leggings.. least their warm.

Tights are brilliant in the cold weather. Who cares as long as they are warm. Everyone I know puts tights on boys.

Forty he has worn them to school and he hasnt mentioned any comments but tbh i dont think anyone could tell what he was wearing. I dont let him wear them on PE days as they wear thicker joggers anyway and wouldnt want him to overheat.

And good point about the superheroes.

Can we form a list of superheroes that wear tights so i can tell ds?

Superman is all i can think of

It's a sensible response to cold weather. It's not your fault it's not seen as the done thing for some. Because SHOCK HORROR tights are ''for'' girls.

My dad, a joiner, used to wear tights for work in winter. Cheaper than long johns I suppose.

If you are concerned that they disapprove so won't put them on and therefore he'll be cold maybe get him some leggings and call them long johns. Presumably thy don't stop DS1 from wearing proper LJs for BOYS.

I know that builders wear tights. But girls only wear tights because they don't wear trousers. Personally I wouldn't put tights on a boy it would feel a bit ugh.

I'm sure I've heard that before about bouncers wearing tights and hill walkers as well.

I work with toddlers and a few of the boys wear black tights in winter as a lot of the mums dont drive so the kids walk I have never come across anybody who thought it was girlie to be warm

Really what you should do is tell your ex and his new missus to have a word with themselves but I appreciate that might be more trouble than it's worth.

Billy they change both dcs out of their clothes i send them in when they arrive and put them back in them before they drop them off home again so he's not wearing any of his clothes from here when he is there.

It's fine if your son ok with it. My older Ds wore until age 5 (only when v cold) and then asked for long johns - his big sister 2 year older and he was happy to wear her too small plain navy school tights.

My uncle is one of the most manly men there is, ex Navy now in the MOD police. Him and his colleagues in both jobs have always worn tights, when it is cold another layer will make a huge difference!

H&M dont do the spiderman tights anymore sadly, but they do do longjohns.

I would be having a word with your ex along the lines of it being far better that he wears tights than is cold and that it has absolutely fuck all to do with his GF!