To put tights on my son?

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He is 4 and has been wearing tights during the winter since he was a baby because they dont to long johns in small ages and i was getting his older brother LJs and the tights were cheap in asda. They are plain black not pink and glittery.

A few weeks ago i was dressing him and asked him to grab himself some socks, he said "i want tights instead" so i started putting them on him when ds1 ( 8) shouted in "erm, X (their dad's partner) doesnt really like him wearing tights" i replied that if ds wanted to wear them then it wasnt really anyone's business and left it at that.

Dcs have come home from a weekend at their dad's and ds1 asks me "did you get ds2's tights in the girl aisle or the boy aisle?" I asked him if someone had been talking about ds2's tights and ds2 said that "daddy and X told me tights are for girlies"

Is this really an issue? AFAIC they're an extra layer to keep him warm til he is big enough for LJs and he likes wearing them. He will be big enough for his brothers now outgrown LJs next year and still fits in the tights at the minute so why would i not put them on him? I honestly cant believe two adults would tell a child this about his clothes and try and make him feel wrong for wearing them. He is 4 fgs.

Good lord! The children's father's GF needs to butt out of it.

We used tights all the time in Europe -- just not an issue. But then we all know that all European men are just gayer than a gay thing. All because of wearing tights when it's cold.

Johns not 'Kohns' !

That he actually took hully's post as a serious comment!

I don't think it's odd for him to wear tights, but I do think it's odd that they don't sell long johns for kids his age. Target sells them here for infants, toddlers, and right up to adults.

I know. I laughed like a drain at him making such a tit of himself at the time

I like the legwarmers, helps to kep the socks on & no trouser / sock gap.

OP, YANBU. My older brother (30) wore light blue, patterned and visible tights when he was a baby. It was very much the done thing in my area when my brother was little. It was a bit unseemly not to infact as they do keep babies lovely and warm :)
Also my dad is a bouncer and wears tights on the doors as it is bloody narkers this time of year.
I don't think your ex partners girlfriend has any right to dictate what YOUR child can and cannot wear.
Furthermore, batman in tights, phwoar.

Don't see a problem with it if the child doesn't mind.

Op you can buy long johns in younger sizes at H&M

One minute in, the thick humourless twat, so be careful what you say

I can't believe he took that post seriously. Thick humourless twat indeed

If you go back a bit he says it was a "major dilemma for some of the humourless posters on Mumsnet"

Oh dear, Matthew!

Thank you for all the long john recommendations- he will fit in ds1's smaller ones next winter and still fits the tights this year so i think i'll hold off on buying any new LJs for now- might splash out on a pair of spiderman tights on ebay though.

Interestingly- im just off the phone with my beat friend and told her what had been said and she says her ex has a problem with their daughter wearing tights under her trousers! Im so confused. I didnt realise there were so many issues around tights!

Yep i saw that bit shyla! Hes a knob. He can quote me on that too i he likes

The only reason I wouldn't be inclined to put tights on a boy is because they generally wear trousers/jeans and god tights aren't comfortable under trousers! Not for me personally anyway.

If he's happy, comfortable (and warm) then it's a non issue.

lol at quote!

I put tights under trousers on my DD, and I'd do the same if I had a boy. It keeps her legs warm!

X is being a cow, and your ex is being even worse not to protect his son's feelings. What kind of person would say that to a child and make them feel bad. Not very nice.

A lot of people have this weird idea that you can catch Gay! A friend of ours was not happy when his son was playing with his daughters dolls, it seems to be quite a common fear, although goodness knows why!

I was over joyed to have a conversation with my mother about a boy I was at school with, I asked if she remembered him "Oh yes, he was a bit....you know...funny" "What do you mean, funny?" "You know, very effeminate and girly, always playing with dolls, we all knew how he was going to turn out! Why do you ask?" "Just because I saw in the paper earlier that he and his wife have had their fourth child, it was in the announcements" "Oh......" :o:o

Bogey

Yes some thick people do seem to have this odd idea that 'gay' is catching. Interestingly i never hear these people worrying about girls turning out 'boyish' when they wear trousers or disassemble radios or enjoy being in the vicinity of petrol powered engines

DS(9) wore tights all the time, when he started school he didn't wearing them on PE days but that was just because they made it harder for him to get changed for PE (DD wears socks on PE days too). If it helps, my Dads mate told us he used to wear tights under his trousers as a kid if they were off to play in the snow or it was really cold out and he was in the SAS (less creepy then it sounds, it came up coz ex had a problem with DSs tights)

ds1 is 15 now and from been a a wee babe right up till starting school he wore tights, a because they were warmer and b it stopped filthy looks when he managed to desock himself. Its practical ffs. Just like thedrawstring nighties he wore when he was a wee one.

My ds wore thick black/navy tights every day in winter when he was younger, it just made sense at the time.

Can't see the issue, would rather they were warm!

YANBU. At all.. Feel sad that some silly adult would rather see your kid being colder than he could be and not dressed how he wants to be, in order to satisfy her own prejudices.

Guess she wouldn't hesitate in putting on some tights if she was a bit chilly- but she says not ok for a child to also do this.?

As you say, OP, it's a total non issue except for the fact she is making the kids feel uncomfortable about something normal in a completely unnecessary way.

STOP, OP!

Your son is at risk of becoming a .

DM used to work for Securicor and managed their static guards team (essentially bouncers). They all used to wear 2 pairs of tights under their uniform . Apparently it is the warm air between the layers that is the key.

All of mine wore tights. DS1 is now 23yo and wears them when he is on military exercises in the winter.

Another vote for boys in tights. DS1 started wearing them under jeans in the snow last year and loves them. Highly macho South American OH even thinks its sensible (and he's a bit unreconstructed male).