To say 'bum bum'

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To 18 month old DS
As in 'I'm going to bite your bum bum', 'lets change your bum bum' etc
Apparently it is not good as DS now says it too and if he does it at school his teacher will mark him out as one of the 'naughty children' (says MIL, the obvious expert in these matters)

Yes it's nonsense and I could easily say bottom, it's just something I've always said to him.

I don't see the problem. I prefer bot bot though

I say bum bum too. I've no idea why I do, rather than just bum, but I do!

He's only 18m and MIL is already worrying about school?

I wouldn't stress too much just yet, he'll learn a good few other, even more unsuitable words by the time he gets there!

I say it ... I would just laugh mil off, we all have things that grate. I'm northern with a very strong accent (which i love but dislike people overegging it with 'aye', 'nor, 'y nar' 'too' etc so i cringe when people say them to DS.

I also hate when my Mam says 'boc boc' for bottle and 'yog yog' etc but figure that because i say bum bum i should keep my mouth shut about it.

Just laugh her off and say 'oh well - we best get spare carpet for the naughty step for when he wears it out' (totally outing myself with that if my Mam is on here!)

too = toon!

bum bum isn't a naughty word. Is your mother in law alright?

I mean, if your son actually chases kids round the nursery trying to bite their bum (or change it! ) then the staff may well want to have a word with you but I really doubt he's going to be marked out as naughty.

Perhaps if he rocks up there, says fuck me, it's cold. Has anyone got a light, I'm fresh out of lamberts...

Wizard

It's one of many MIL's bizarre commandments!

puntastic his duck impression sounds incredibly like 'fucky fuck fuck' - she loved that!

The older generation seem to think bum is terribly vulgar, ditto " fart". My MIL doesn't say either and was a bit shocked that I do ( I am supposed to be a naice girl) but she wouldn't tell me off and we generally have a laugh about it.

Also a bum bum saying family here. DD's teacher doesn't seem to mind teacher's pet

I say bum. I personally don't like the doubles of things, bot bot for bottle, bum bum for bum, bun bun for rabbit, milky for milk etc but YANBU it's up to you how you talk to your child and your MIL is a bit strange thinking saying bum will mark him as naughty.

haha, we call it bum bum too!

She's right. I've had this experience when my kids were told to say bottom not bum bum. Little kids think it's hysterical and do use it as a swear word. There's nothing wrong with teaching them to say things properly from an early age, even if they don't pronounce it right at first.

It's better than arse. "Let's change your arse then!" YANBU. I say "botty"

I say bum bum to my 20 month old ds and he says it to tell me he is doing the toilet.

Don't see a problem and I doubt ds will still be saying it when going to school.

What would your mil prefer you say?

Bottom, I think

Personally I cannot stand the phrase 'change your bum' as it seems totally inaccurate - I always say 'change your nappy' which is what is actually being done. I would also say 'bottom' but that is just personal, maybe I'm a prude. I do have pet hates of people using silly abbreviated words to children though - 'nana' for 'banana', 'choc choc' for chocolate, I prefer to use real words!

In the scheme of things it is insignificant and not likely to damage his academic progress!

Another bum bum household here. Quite sweet rarther than rude, I think. We also say wee wee, poo poo, tum tum etc. Don't know why.

Tbh by the time they are 4 most boys find all bodily functions and all things bottom related hilarious anyway regardless of what you call it.

Disclaimer - I only have a boy so girls may find this funny too, however all ds friends that I've meet that are girls -have looked distinctly puzzled at the hilarity trumps/burps bring on. I am aware this may be a huge generalization!!!

Can't explain why but I HATE hearing young children using the word bum. It just sounds wrong and like a naughty word to me coming out of a young child's mouth! II do use it sometimes myself but not in front of my DC. And if my DS does say it I don't exactly tell him off but I do tell him that I don't like that word and please say bottom. He does.

But having said that I don't think it's a bad word, I just don't like children saying it. I know, double standards when I (very occasionally) use it myself! Can't explain, it's just a weird thing of mine!

People like saying bum bum because it rolls off the tongue easily, apparently kids learn to say simple words more easily when they're doubled up, like da-da instead of Dad. It's good for households with babies and toddlers.

Maybe your MIL is just irritated with the phrase and is trying to get you to stop saying it?

Your MIL is being ridiculous, we're also a bum bum household

I don't mind "bum". But doubling it sets my teeth on edge. I just find it so irritating. DD picked it up from next door's DD and I've had to ban the phrase. It's just so cringily infantile.

I agree CoffeeChocolateWine I don't like it either. I think it's a bit vulgar