AIBU let date in house with my kids.

[mumofbeautys]

I have 2 girls aged 4 - I have been single there whole lifes and promised I would never bring a date back only someone I was serious about.
anyway a while back a guy started a temp job at my work and we got to know each other , I really like him.
so we have been arranging a date for like ever lol it was my birthday this week he offered a meal out and maybe the cinema but I had no one to watch the children and its unlikely I will ever at the right time. so he text me tonight saying we could get a Chinese. IABU to maybe invite him round once the girls are in bed .. for some Chinese and wine ........ ?

He also bought me a Pandora bracelet but denies it lol he knows I had a rubbish bday and that there no 1 to do gifts from this girls etc and I kept up in the morning and it was shoved under the coffee table wrapped it'd got the twins initials in beads and then a few others and said it was from the twins which it obviously wasn't lol

I LOVE this thread!

I was coming on to tell you to go for it.

He sounds brilliant. Is he coming over on Thursday??

yh his coming over Thursday although I really am nervous now lol .... because like Its been a while if you know what I mean haha and it nearly happened sunday . feels like my first time again haha

op I came on to say go for it. People are obsessed with this notion of men coming over to women's houses automatically being seen as more, when actually kids are generally accepting of whoever comes into their lives without question.

My now dp came to see me as a friend and stayed at my house without the need for sex. No my ds wasn't here at the time (he's eleven so a bit older obv) but when we did get together my xh came round with him to pick something up he told me that I would now have to tell my ds that dp and I were together or he would because it was inevitable he would ask questions. He didn't - he knows I have always had male friends - and had no inkling that there was any more than friendship between us. So I was forced to introduce my ds to someone new in my life way before I thought it was appropriate because of an adult's perception of how things would be seen.

Am glad things are going well. You know your children, and you know yourself, just take things as you want them, if you want to have sex with him then as long as you're sure the kids won't come down then do it. Nobody bats an eyelid if people have sex with their partners on the sofa and it's generally not assumed the kids will come down, so why people suddenly think that the kids are going to catch new partners in the act when catching their own parents isn't that common I have no idea.

good for you op, you deserve to have some fun, and dont worry its like riding a bike you dont forget

I agree - you never forget!

He's probably nervous too. He obviously really likes you. That bracelet thing is so thoughtful.

So, have you a seduction routine in mind?

he sounds amazing.

Hope it carries on going well. Think you are an amazing person and deserve a lovely man :)