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AIBU let date in house with my kids.

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mumofbeautys · 22/11/2013 15:48

I have 2 girls aged 4 - I have been single there whole lifes and promised I would never bring a date back only someone I was serious about.
anyway a while back a guy started a temp job at my work and we got to know each other , I really like him.
so we have been arranging a date for like ever lol it was my birthday this week he offered a meal out and maybe the cinema but I had no one to watch the children and its unlikely I will ever at the right time. so he text me tonight saying we could get a Chinese. IABU to maybe invite him round once the girls are in bed .. for some Chinese and wine ........ ?

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Doinmummy · 22/11/2013 19:37

I 'dated' my DP like this for ages and ages. He came to mine , we watched tv and had a take away. He didn't mind because he liked me.

I hope you have a lovely evening Op.

herladyship · 22/11/2013 19:40

Shock of course having children does not mean its inappropriate to have a (shock horror) male friend over for a takeaway..

Glad you've got a movie date though OP, sounds like you deserve a night off!

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mumofbeautys · 22/11/2013 19:47

im going to make sure the kids are 100 percent settled first and if one of them does pop in they will probably just be like hiiiiiiiii ! so not sure they would really know what dating or boyfriend was lol

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kitsmummy · 22/11/2013 19:47

Have a great time (yes, it's totally fine to invite him around), enjoy Smile

UC · 22/11/2013 21:08

Mumofbeauties, I'm sorry you were upset earlier. I hope you have a fabulous evening on Sunday, it's a good movie. Does have a really sad bit, so have some tissues.

You sound as though you always put your DDs first, but you also need and deserve to be happy. I don't have any experience akin to yours, but I can imagine it's really exhausting. Please don't feel guilty about looking into respite care. It may do all of you the power of good.

Some Thanks and Wine for you. You sound like a wonderful mummy.

UC · 22/11/2013 21:09

Oh, and your DDs probably wouldn't bat an eyelid. He's just Mummy's friend.

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mumofbeautys · 23/11/2013 09:58

ahh I am pretty nervous about tomorrow lol , I think I must have febreezed every part of my home possible :)

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 10:21

Haha bless ya. It is such a good feeling though, isnt it!

Enjoy every minute of it and i hope you have a fantastic time tomorrow night! Grin

ILetHimKeep20Quid · 23/11/2013 10:34

I want to come round and give you a huge hug, you are doing so bloody well.

Enjoy your date!

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mumofbeautys · 23/11/2013 10:37

lol wontletmesign it is ... I have been single since 17 I don't know about this dating malarkey.

I did end up explaining to the girls that I was to have a friend around 2moro night obviously didn't explain the ins and outs.
I was still pretty shocked :0 last night about that comment
but then I thought well if that was the case he would of gave up a long time ago :).

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wontletmesignin · 23/11/2013 10:41

Well i definitely think it is time you treat yourself to a bit of a male! You deserve it.
Ignore last nights comment.
You kno what you are doing, and you are doing great. And you are right, he wouldnt be hanging around still if he wasnt interested.

Enjoy Grin

foreverondiet · 23/11/2013 20:42

How long have you been working with him. Are we talking several months or a few weeks?

TheCrumpetQueen · 23/11/2013 20:54

Have a Iovely evening, op and shag him senseless on the sofa if it feels right. You deserve it by the sounds of it! :)

defineme · 23/11/2013 20:59

I think you are a person in your own right as well as a mum and I hope you have a lovely lovely night.

AngelsLieToKeepControl · 24/11/2013 14:03

Good luck with your date tonight. Are you nervous yet?

FortyDoorsToNowhere · 24/11/2013 14:08

I would, it not like you have a blind date.

wontletmesignin · 24/11/2013 14:26

Oooooo are you super excited!?
Good luck! Hope you have an awesome night Grin

ZombieMojaveWonderer · 24/11/2013 14:48

I don't see why this is a problem? I have female friends over who I've just met, how is it any different because he's a male friend?
Even if they had a bit of a snog it's not the end of the world.
There's another thread on here talking about a friend having a quickie while she was meant to be looking after her friends child and no one batted an eyelid at that.

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mumofbeautys · 24/11/2013 23:04

he came last night instead and we have a really good time ..... ( innocent eyes lol ) xx

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wontletmesignin · 24/11/2013 23:19

Awww thats brilliant Grin
Pleased to hear you had a good night! Xx

JulietBravoJuliet · 25/11/2013 00:42

I'm a LP and have recently met someone. First couple of dates were out the house as ds was at his dad's but it wasn't always an option and I bit the bullet and invited him round after ds was in bed one night. I felt my gut instinct was right; he seemed a decent bloke and wasn't going to rape and pillage me! It was a lovely evening and I now see him most nights after ds is in bed. They met for the first time at the weekend; we met on the park with the dogs, and they got on well. I'm not planning on letting him stay over whilst ds is her for a few months yet though, but if eel I was right to trust my instincts. Good luck on Saturday :)

AngelsLieToKeepControl · 25/11/2013 10:43

Excuse me Mumof do you call that an update. I We need details. Are you seeing him again soon?

BrianTheMole · 25/11/2013 10:52

Thats NOT an update. Try again Grin

livinginwonderland · 25/11/2013 10:57

More details please OP!

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mumofbeautys · 25/11/2013 18:24

Lol i saw him again last night and probably went a bit to far with haha x
He has rang today to ask if he could come round Thursday , I feel v weird lol

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