AIBU to expect not to be blocked from my ex's facebook?

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Ok back ground. ExDP, we get on great (?!) we have two children. I was friends with him on fb before he blocked me a few months back a few weeks before we broke up. Im friends with his mum, brothers, sil on fb because they asked 'friended' (cringe) me and they are nice and why would I say no? I was in a relationship with their son/brother/bil at the time.

Exdp moved out, but hasnt yet found a place, he see's the kids at mine a couple of times a week.

He went away for work last week for a few weeks.

His family are linking him in comments involving me, to me, on my statuses, except it doesnt work so Im left explaining that he has deleted and blocked me (fucking big cringe). All he while he has no idea the conversation is happening and he is oblivious.

I cant be arsed to go into detail but I was made to look like an insensitive arse today for commenting (innocently!) on a friends status, but ex had previously posted on. Hard to explain but I ended up looking like an insensitive bastard, all because I couldnt SEE exDP's post.

Aibu to think this 45 year old man shoud fucking unBLOCK me?!

Its pathetic, no? Ive asked tonight. I said why, all the reasons above.

Nothing in return. Still blocked.

Not fb friends, fine. But to be blocked?

I agree with that too.

I probably am creating more drama in my head then there actually has been.

Right well, thanks for the perspective everyone. Im off to name change back and forget its happened.

Forget what happened?

FB is not real life, and it's not essential to being in the real world.
Forget it, and him, and move on.

That's a pretty salient point you omitted from most of your proceeding posts, OP.

as far as his parents are concerned we are actually still together

I thought you were being massively unreasonable to moan about him blocking you - just state it on any shared posts.

Now I only think you are being mildly unreasonable. If he is not man enough to tell his parents, then someone needs to. His parents need to come to terms with it, and to prepare for their future relationship with their grandchildren.

"Sorry, I can't see X's posts, he's blocked me".
"Why has he blocked you?"
"We split up".

Oh, I completely missed that! Well obviously that makes things different. Sorry to be blunt but that is mad. I would tell them myself if I were you. The longer this goes on the weirder it will be for you.

I was all for saying YABU because I do believe it's the right of every person to do whatever they want with their own facebook but I actually think YANBU given the circumstances and the fact that he could have just unfriended you rather than blocking you too.

I think perhaps you need to tell his family that you are not a couple anymore.

ah yes, that is unreasonable of him. He should have the balls to tell his parents. I didn't understand why you had to be so polite, friendly and involved with his parents before that detail.

I would just tell his family. "Look, we split up 6 months ago". It's not your responsibility to maintain a complicated facade that is not your priority.

OP I am still friends with my lying cheating ex's family on FB and he is blocked. I went them to visit them a few weeks back with the kids too. His name is never mentioned! If it was, I would be delighted to tell them why he is blocked as I suspect he's omited to tell them that he had been living with another woman while working abroad and fucking prostitutes across the world before that but sadly they've never given me the chance

As for him not telling them you've split...WTF?! I'd tell them myself if I were you

That latest bit of info does put a different slant on things

He is still NOT BU for blocking you, but he is BU for not telling his family you have split up & allowing the charade to go on.

BUT you can't make him, his life, his choices & so as others have said you need to tell them yourself - no need for any big drama or drawn out conversation - just simple -
"cant see messages as he blocked me"
"OMG why did he block you"
"because we split up ages ago, so I suppose he's entitled to do as he likes"

• simple

If they don't know you have split up then I can see why it is embarrassing. Where did they think their son was when they visited for 4 days.

So, er, you tell people you can't see x's posts because he's blocked you, and they say OMG why. Some might take this as an opportunity to explain that you split up with him, rather than giving a literal answer to the question - you may not know precisely what was in his head, but you do know that having split up is something to do with it. As it appears the people asking the question have no idea about any of this, no wonder they keep committing faux pas. And yet your proposed solution is to get the ex to unblock you, perceiving this as less awkward than telling them he is an ex. Can someone explain to me why this makes any kind of sense?

Truly Facebook is a different country. Possibly a different universe.

"cant see messages as he blocked me"

How is the OP supposed to know that he's made a comment and she needs to explain this?

People won't always tell her when something she posts seems inappropriate. If they don't, she doesn't know.