AIBU to expect not to be blocked from my ex's facebook?

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Ok back ground. ExDP, we get on great (?!) we have two children. I was friends with him on fb before he blocked me a few months back a few weeks before we broke up. Im friends with his mum, brothers, sil on fb because they asked 'friended' (cringe) me and they are nice and why would I say no? I was in a relationship with their son/brother/bil at the time.

Exdp moved out, but hasnt yet found a place, he see's the kids at mine a couple of times a week.

He went away for work last week for a few weeks.

His family are linking him in comments involving me, to me, on my statuses, except it doesnt work so Im left explaining that he has deleted and blocked me (fucking big cringe). All he while he has no idea the conversation is happening and he is oblivious.

I cant be arsed to go into detail but I was made to look like an insensitive arse today for commenting (innocently!) on a friends status, but ex had previously posted on. Hard to explain but I ended up looking like an insensitive bastard, all because I couldnt SEE exDP's post.

Aibu to think this 45 year old man shoud fucking unBLOCK me?!

Its pathetic, no? Ive asked tonight. I said why, all the reasons above.

Nothing in return. Still blocked.

Not fb friends, fine. But to be blocked?

What is it with Facebook and people living their lives through it? It is only a website - it is not real life! YABU. .

Weird being friends with his family who have been my family for 16 years? Really?

As for him seeing my fb or me seeing his. We wouldnt. Quite simply. Why would I want to be friends with my ex?

YANBU - lots of missing the point going on here.

Blissx omg thank you! Im so chuffed you posted, thanks hun! I totally, like, for a minute there, really, properly actually thought fb was real life! Omg thank god you told me otherwise! Mwah! Xxxxx

Thanks notablob!

I stand by what I said on page 1, you don't want him to see your online persona.

He wouldnt see my 'online persona'.

How would he?

I'm friends with my exes family as they are dd's family. I just wouldn't want them on my Facebook. Two different things.

I guess it depends how you use Facebook.

Maybe I don't understand Facebook properly - and I should, because I do use it, but...

You're not friends on there (you were, though - is that right?), but he's blocked you. Does this mean you can't see anything he posts and vice versa? Is that how blocking works? I'm genuinely asking because I've never blocked someone so I don't know how it works.

But I am curious as to why you don't want to be friends with him, but you want him to unblock you? Is it just because it makes threads involving people you both know hard to follow?

I am understanding the problem exactly, but IMHO the problem isn't that the exDP has chosen to block the OP, that his choice, he is allowed

The real problem is not with your exDP or possibly even you, it is with his family including him in "Facebook comments" they need to know the truth, & to stop it, it shouldn't be embarrassing to anyone really, he is your ex, it is more normal than not, you need to stop over reacting & just tell them the truth

I totally get where you're coming from - I have an old work colleague blocked as she has ishoos that i no longer want to look at, in any way.

It does mean, however, that sometimes i'm only seeing half a story when i'm looking at things other friends have posted.

I'm sorry you've had an embarrassing situation because of it though. Thats shit.

I can understand where you are coming from, I think the best course of action would be to speak to his parents and let them know that he has blocked you so please do NOT try and tag him in any status's involving you. If it continues let them know that you will have to unfriend them,

If I was in your shoes I would be really frustrated. I was only with ex for 4 years but am friends with his mum on facebook. There are other people I am friends with on there that I see a lot less than her.

I agree Rockinhippy. What's so difficult about saying "sorry, can't see that comment as [ex] has blocked me from seeing anything he posts - you'll have to fill me in next time you are over to see the kids" or similar?

Its not that you cant see the comment - you cant even see that anything has been posted by them at all.

blocking does seem childish to me, you dont need to be friends with someone/ex on fb, but if have mutual friends then nice/helpful to see their replies on some status's

See, I told you Facebook was the work of the Devil. Once upon a time you only wrote to the people you wrote to. Nowadays you have to choose to un-write to people, and even then they may get huffy about it. The kindest thing one can say is that the etiquette is still evolving.

What about blocking him, so the family will have to stop "tagging" you to one another? Sometimes, friends and family do need a bit of forceful guidance in not lumping together people who don't belong together any more...

Thanks to those who understand the words im saying. And empathise!

YABU and acting really aggressively about these - you were shirty even before people were harsh on you.

renter first of all I cant block him. Ive learned this the hard way after unsuccessfully trying to block a true stalker recently (who would message me. Block me. Unblock me - message me then block me. Unblock me, message me etc etc etc)

If im honest, Id rather NONE of his family were on my fb, i tried deleting them all once but it didnt go down well. I ended up looking like a right cunt and Im still friends with them.

candy

How weird, being technically unable to block!

Need where on this thread did I give any indication that I would like to look at his profile? Nay, where on this thread did I even say the words 'his profile'?