was this woman bu to complain about my husband?

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My husband drives a van for work. Driving to work in the morning traffic and the car in front of him slowed down as the car in front of her was turning off left, the woman then waited to let another car pull out of the junction.

My husband beeped his horn at her and shook his head when she looked in her mirror at him.

When he got into work, later on that day the company had received a complaint about him - the woman had noted his licence plate and company name and sent them an email.

He now has a mark on his employment record.

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The approach to a junction may have a ‘Give Way’ sign or a triangle marked on the road. You MUST give way to traffic on the main road when emerging from a junction with broken white lines across the road.

I had a feeling that the rule was this way round rather than an imaginary rule that says that you can't let drivers onto a main road from a side road.

But you are choosing to cause an obstruction on the road in that case!

An average journey in a car is full of constant obstructions - traffic lights, pedestrian crossings, balls rolling into road, cars turning - I could go on. No need for aggressive bleeping of horns and rude gestures.

How bloody stupid. Reported him for what exactly? beeping his horn Take it this silly silly woman has nothing better to do with her time. Feel for your husband.

Yes but none of those events are detailed. Please decided if you are talking about stopping or slowing. You are interchanging between the two arguments as fits you!

If the car can't turn left the emerging car will emerge knowing that there's no one on the carriageway it wishes to join and the one it needs to cross has halted anyway!!

It reads to me like slowing down lady might not have anticipated the car in front turning left. Therefore near enough stopped and then paused more to allow emerging car to pass.

If the woman made a mistake and had to stop how does this make peevishly tooting and head shaking OK? Shouldn't a professional driver be able to anticipate and make allowances for the less expert drivers around him?

Sorry she was right, he was wrong. She was just being considerate and probably helping the general flow of traffic. I probably wouldn't have reported him but that is a lack of gumption on my part rather than I think she was wrong to do so.

maybe if your husband - as a person whose profession is to drive - tried his best not to try and intimidate other drivers then he wouldn't be reported for trying to intimidate other drivers.

I don't know where the OP has gone, but is she in the UK? The use of "license plate" rather than "registration plate" might suggest not, and if not then lefts and rights will be different (?) in practice, won't they, if cars are driving on the opposite side of the road IYSWIM. I've confused myself now , not feeling well.

Perhaps OP your DH should attend anger management class and also a course to be able to read minds and the future whilst he is at is. Might cover all bases!!

Bozo very few roads outside London are clearways so I would doubt it.

Can I ask what you meant by that?

But if he tooted and shook his head at such a non event, what might he do if someone did accidentally do something slightly wrong. A car u turned across my path the other day, no looking, no warning, no signal. It had a trailer on the back so was across my path for a number of seconds. I had to slam on the brakes and hit the horn to alert him to my presence. His passenger stuck her finger up at me. Some people in cars are complete dickheads. Your DH was wrong and whilst most of us might have bigger things to worry about, the lady who reported him did nothing wrong. My LovelyBoy I wouldn't be surprised if someone reported your last post. You don't get to chuck around "mental problem" on here without comeback usually.

Do you by any chance drive a van for a living mylovelyboy?

Isn't it in the highway code; if a bloke in a white van shakes his head in a patronising fashion then beeps his horn there's a special hand signal? Its universally recognised.

Mylovelyboy - as others have suggested, maybe the incident was worse than the OP has related (as her husband is unlikely to have come home and told her how much of an arse he actually was - he would minimise somewhat to make it sound more like he wasn't in the wrong) - in which case maybe he was sufficiently aggressive to justify the woman reporting him.

An you cannot argue that what he did was right, can you? He did break the Highway Code (see up-thread for details).

I am not provoking, I am being realistic. I do not see that this man has done anything that warrants a report to his company. And as for the woman reporting him! She is going totally over the top. I am sure some of us on here have been tooted at some point. Did you report it? I am not goading, I am being realistic. If it was something serious, then yes it should be reported. But in this instance I think the woman was very silly.

OK, so two cars were distracted from concentrating on driving to look over and wonder why the bloody hell they're being hooted at and what might be happening? Very safe, OP's husband, well done .

So he didn't like she'd let someone out - who we think was pulling onto the other side of the road anyway so not adding to 'his' queue - how many seconds were lost? Seriously, how many seconds? And for that he alarmed, intimidated/pissed off, distracted other drivers. Obviously the strain of all that driving for a living is getting to him, he needs a holiday.

I think regardless of who was wrong, the woman formed a bad impression of your husband's company and therefore the company were right to put a mark on his record.

SDT Yes maybe the incident was worse than reported. But we are all commenting on the post which has been written. And the details which the OP has given us.

I agree with the majority.

Your husband was being a twat. He was trying to intimidate other drivers so that he could get where he was going a few seconds earlier. That is twattery.

I'd almost bet that this isn't the first incident he has been involved in. He would be unlikely to have a proper mark on his employment record for just one transgression if he was an otherwise good driver with years of a clean driving record. That he now has a mark may well mean that he has been rumbled driving aggressively before, either reported by a member of the public, caught on cctv, caught on roadside cameras, stopped by police. etc.