To think if it's ok to use "Wendy" to describe bullying women

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Then we should come up with names for other characteristics including physical in people too?

Eg. Fat Women - Lisa's
Fat Men - Stephens
Men who hit women - Toms
Women who hit men - Emma's
Nasty male bosses - Gordon's
Nasty Female bosses - Gemma's
Shirty impatient teachers - Mary's
People who shoplift - Leslie/Lesley's

Do you see what I am saying? Because quite frankly I am sick to the back teeth of seeing posters whining about being "Wendied". It's hurtful and insulting to people with that name. I love someone dearly with the name Wendy and whenever I see her name used like that on here it makes me so .

Why is it ok to take someone's name, the most fundamental thing about a person and use it as a Noun to describe really awful, spiteful, manipulative people. Truthfully would you be fine seeing it if it was YOUR name or your child's name?

The handing out grips thing makes me think ' how original' not.

OK my name is Trisha.
Use it instead of Wendy from now on, I won't be offended, in fact it would amuse me no end.
though I can't speak for other Trishas on here, sorry.

Because I hate stereotypes.

I see people handing out those hair slides when I read about handing grips

But it's not a stereotype. Nobody is saying every Wendy is a bitch! That would be a stereotype, obviously.

I've only ever seen it on MN. I assumed it must have originated from Peter Pan at first but I don't think that can be right. I thought it was somebody in a group of friends that tried to ostracise (sp?} one member of the group.

Ok then, it is not a stereotype but it is a ...

Why not just not do it?

EASY!!

I know at least a couple of Sharons. Just saying.

Dick Head...just think of all those poor Richards out there

But there are lots of names like this where you associate a name with a particular personality.
Peeping Tom
Nancy boy
Jo Bloggs (I actually knew someone with that exact name!)
Doubting Thomas
Romeo (and Juliet to a lesser extent)
Mary quite contrary
Mavis (well it makes me think of the fairy in Will'o the Wisp).... I'm sure people can name many others.

Just that "Wendy" is one that's used (to my knowledge) exclusively on MN rather than more generally, is that why you're objecting to it.

And I have known someone called Adolf. Named after his grandfather. Poor chap did find it slightly embarrassing as a German studying in England. Lovely person though.

usual

I agree about the get a grip comment

It's just rudeness in place of debate

I've never been offered a grip on here

Any spares going?

TBH I don't think I've ever meet a nice person called Emma

If its any help OP I joined MN today and I'd not heard of it till this thread.
( and I've lurked for awhile)

I've only ever heard it on mn, and I still don't think I fully understand what the specific characteristics of a wendy actually are

I suspect it probably wont catch on as an expression in the wider world. But even if it did, as others have said, names do pop up to describe certain types of people but those with the names soldier on without too much bother. I don't automatically assume that any Toms I might meet are of the peeping variety.

Never heard 'Wendy' used that way before.

By the way, growing up in London in the 80s and 90s, a 'Tom' was a prostitute, 'Sharon' was a working class cockney/Essex girl, a 'Becky' was a rich/spoilt princessy girl and we used to call girls we thought were thick 'Gemmas'.

Looking back now, I can see how highly offensive it was, obviously. Cruel kids! But its not a new phenomenon, is what I am trying to say....

I don't think I've seen your posts before OP? Are you a Jonny-come-lately?

YABVU.

Gordon Bennett Slate, what a thing to suggest

YABU. I know a Wendy at work and she is lovely. When i read Wendy posts I don't associate them with her. I know the real name of the person is not Wendy. Don''t see the deal.

I could say I've never met a woman called Deborah who isnt a bitch...

thats not to say all people called Deborah are bitches

just that I havent met one irl shrug

I just can't get worked up over it, its just something that struck a cord and stuck

As a Wendy, the first time I saw a thread saying 'AIBU to be annoyed about this Wendy?' I was concerned it was about me. Now I just find it funny, but I'd prefer it not to actually be used. Surely 'AIBU to be annoyed about this bully/bitch/bullying bitch/woman?' Would work just as well?

LBs My SIL is called Emma and she is lovely. In fact much as I love my brother if they split up I'd want to keep her and ditch him

I take it you don't like fat people then? You have listed it in two different posts.