To think if it's ok to use "Wendy" to describe bullying women

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Then we should come up with names for other characteristics including physical in people too?

Eg. Fat Women - Lisa's
Fat Men - Stephens
Men who hit women - Toms
Women who hit men - Emma's
Nasty male bosses - Gordon's
Nasty Female bosses - Gemma's
Shirty impatient teachers - Mary's
People who shoplift - Leslie/Lesley's

Do you see what I am saying? Because quite frankly I am sick to the back teeth of seeing posters whining about being "Wendied". It's hurtful and insulting to people with that name. I love someone dearly with the name Wendy and whenever I see her name used like that on here it makes me so .

Why is it ok to take someone's name, the most fundamental thing about a person and use it as a Noun to describe really awful, spiteful, manipulative people. Truthfully would you be fine seeing it if it was YOUR name or your child's name?

Thank you newt.

If you are relating a complicated story, it is easier to assign names to certain people so you don't have anyone saying but yu said x not y in that post. It just happened that the OP used Wendy. It could have been Rita, Karen or Persephone

IIRC Wendy was chosen because of the character Wendy in Judy Blume's book Blubber.

Where I am a Wendy would be a man dressed as a woman.

Seriously confused me on several threads tbh

I think in future we should choose inanimate objects;

"She was being a right candlestick"
"He's the beret of the group"

It might catch on

I don't like it either. Someone a while back started a thread to change it to "bitch wedge" as in "I'm being bitch wedged by a bitch wedge" and loads of people agreed and it stuck for about two threads before Wendy was back in use. I get that it's a MN thing but its old now and it isn't nice.

Hiberno

Aaah. I only vaguely remember the thread. It's like legend truning into myth

It is lazy shorthand, I agree.

We need to move on from it on Mumsnet.

I can quite understand why Wendys and friends/relatives of Wendys don't like it.

And Tom was a bad choice. That's definitely already taken

I like that newt.

FunLovinBunster Fri 15-Nov-13 18:30:21
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It's at 97% waxing gibbous, so 2 more days to full moon. (3.16pm on Sunday)

But Annie to other people your name IS the thing you are first defined by. No one says "oh you know that kind, brave, loyal adventurous woman" who lives at number 10 do they?

In the early 90's when "Soldier Soldier" was at its height, Tucker's wife, Donna cheated on him, left him, came back to him, cheated on him again, left him broken hearted, suicidal, got him jailed and took his child away from him.

For a long time after "Doing a Donna" became squaddie slang for shagging any nasty two faced slapper who you knew was married/seeing someone.

Guess what my name is...

Names are important!

Who gives their child the name Adolf or Judas?

Here - borrow my grip. I don't need it much these days. I'm rational and sane

In remember that LtEve I was in the army around that time too.

Ouch that must have been a heavy load to carry.

LteEve

I loved that programme

If I didn't prefer to stay anonymous I'd quite happily say you can use my name instead of Wendy, it wouldn't bother me.

LBE

Your name isn't "Twatface" is it?

No, but it does begin with a T so close. .

Newt, I did too, but mainly because we would watch it in the NAAFI hurling abuse at every mistake - and there were lots of them!

YABU.
If you can't separate real life from this place then I think you may need to take a step back.
Now where's that grip...

OP, I don't think for a moment that you thought about the implications of using fatness alongside violence and thieving, and decided to do so to make an interesting point. I think you were being thoughtless and unpleasant, regardless of how much you weigh yourself.

Honestly, I couldn't get excited about my name being used as a 'type' shorthand. It is one of the most frequently used Irish girls' names for the years surrounding my birth, so it's not as if I suffer from the illusion that my name is me, or that I am somehow unique. In fact, judging by the frequency with which it has been given to dull, bourgeois minor characters in Irish novels over the past decade or so, I'd say it does seem to represent a 'type'...