to get annoyed at parents letting small children control trolleys in supermarkets

[Xfirefly]

the reason I ask is because I was whacked by one yesterday. I'm usually quite chilled out and got a lot of patience but why would people let very small children go wild with trolleys in busy supermarkets?

the mum witnessed the child hitting me and other people (one an elderly man) but continued on without apologising and letting him to it. I did say ouch loud enough to make a point.

am I just being a grumpy sod?

Do i care what you think?you are a rude,disrespectful person who thinks they have the right to insult people you dont know as youre hiding behind a screen.cowardly,youre pathetic.noones at risk frim a toddler pushing a trolley next to me,its as much risk as me pushing it.

DS is 4 and sometimes pushes the trolley WITH me, I would never let him push it alone though and won't until he is old enough to do it safely.

I am lucky that he is generally very well behaved in the supermarket though.

Do you feel better now?hard to think anyone will have any respect for what you say when you behave like a bully

No sirzy youre a bad parent apparently for pushing a trolley next to your child.phone social services now and redeem yourself.

And in fact if you read as well as you patronise you would realise i dont let a toddler run around on their own so your point is invalid.

If that is the worst parenting error I am making then Im quite pleased actually

Much safer for him to be stood holding the handles whilst I am also holding them than for him to be wandering freely while I push the trolley!

Oh well ey sirzy
I do understand that a child running freely with a large metal cart is dangerous but i think that it is quite alright if the parent is next to them guiding it.That was my point.

I agree limited, there is a massive difference between a child pushing it on their own and a child pushing it with a parent holding the trolley or very close by

I think the problem is that the majority of parents letting their children control the trolly think that they're in control when they're actually not, as this thread has proven.

Not saying any of you who allow their children to do so aren't, but unless you've got lightening reflexes accidents sometimes can't be prevented so I'd rather the risk wasn't put there in the first place.

Aye,well seems im not as much as an " inconsiderate twat" as i thought.

Easier to prevent an accident when you are holding the trolley with your child (and in full control of said trolley) than with a young child walking alongside you where they can't be seen by others.

Fair enough strumpetron,fair point.Honestly though we do ds head in saying " right stop" and " to the left a bit" i think it puts him off a bit tbh.

Easier to prevent an accident when you are holding the trolley with your child (and in full control of said trolley) than with a young child walking alongside you where they can't be seen by others

Well I think the damage that can done by a trolly versus your child on his/her own outweighs that to be honest. Unless your child is super strong

Honestly limited I completely understand how it might make shopping easier for you, and if you really feel that you are fully in control and there's no chance of anyone being hurt, then that's cool. It's just I never see it. I always see mother's tentatively holding on at the side, or at the back of them, but that gives very little guidance to the front of the trolly. I'm lucky I just do all my shopping online now ha

Does anyone remember those mini trollies? Who's idea where they! Kids could kneecap you

Oh I can't resist.
I let DS2 push the trolley, he is 4 and has never crashed into anyone though he has hit the odd display.
I also let him have control of the scammer scanner
I have been know to let him tantrum too, I once left him lying on the floor screeming at one end of the isle while I shopped the other when I got back to him he was sitting with a clutch of worried old ladies fussing and one sagely saying that it is fine his mother had clearly done exactly the right thing with a stroppy toddler. He got up and followed fairly meekly after that.
As far as I know he is not special needs

I was more concerned about the damage adults who can't see him would do to him with their trolleys tbh.

I understand what you mean strumpeyron,i sometimes think im being overly cautious with ds but if he slammed into any shelving or a human id be mortified.I have seen a perhaps seven year old whack a man in the leg in asda with a trolley and i can get wjy people think its a no no but there are people who monitor there kids thatll get the same raised eyebrow ha.

I was more concerned about the damage adults who can't see him would do to him with their trolleys tbh

But do you think about the damage he could do? Duty of care works both ways.

Yes of course I do that is why i keep control of the trolley

I think its fair to say that the parents who fess up to letting their kids push the trolley are not the ones who let their kids loose in the supermarket with a lethal weapon while they pop off for a coffee.
It is far easier to control a child with a trolley than to manage a tantrumming toddler and so that's what I choose to do. I will point out that he and the trolley are under control. No one has ever tutted in my direction so I am fascinated by the strength of feeling on this thread.

does anyone remember those mini trollies? Who's idea where they! Kids could kneecap you

Brilliant.... Ha ha ha ha ha

failed on the 'where' there oops I was in a rush ha

Yeah. You're a bit grumpy. But we all have grump days.

I fessed up as i am sure we arent going to hurt anyone.I was just showing another point of view and that there is a reason why.

Me too Limited, also because I felt upset at the poor treatment that user had received. She is clearly a responsible mother and she didn't deserve a pasting