to get annoyed at parents letting small children control trolleys in supermarkets

[Xfirefly]

the reason I ask is because I was whacked by one yesterday. I'm usually quite chilled out and got a lot of patience but why would people let very small children go wild with trolleys in busy supermarkets?

the mum witnessed the child hitting me and other people (one an elderly man) but continued on without apologising and letting him to it. I did say ouch loud enough to make a point.

am I just being a grumpy sod?

I wasn't referring to you, kiri, no need to be quite so defensive. I was referring to user, who said she had to jump in front of the trolley and yell STOP in order to prevent her DC running people over, which didn't sound particularly controlled or safe for anybody involved.

Im partially guilty!ds doesnt always push the trolley but if he wants to he will create a tantrum so much that itd be remove him from the supermarket time and i wouldnt get the shopping so pushing the trolley creates a smaller tantrum while i constantly grab it to steer it whilst he shouts at me that hes doing it!but yes i agree that if he hit anyone with it he wouldnt touch it again and id be mortified!i do feel omg i bet people are tutting in their head at me but i think id be more embarassed if he was screaming the place down so its a hard one.

I didnt read the whole thread but it appears people are having a go at user?well i let ds too sometimes so feel free to have a pop and advise me on how to discipline my child theres a phrase called choosing your battles and i choose in this battle to let him do it stood right next to me which he doesnt win in this case because he doesnt want me to help him but i do.

I let my 4.5 year old have a go if the shop isn't busy, but I watch carefully so she doesn't hit anyone or anything. She gets fed up with it after a short time.

Quite a few adults can't push a trolley very well. Mind you I have run over my own foot in sandals with one a couple of times. OUCH.

I am surprised by those who give in to avoid a tantrum. And no I am not talking about those with SN kids.

Be surprised away,its easier to steer a trolley with a two year attached than to have to repeat a trip to the supermarket and have no dinner

Plus may i add its not the worse parenting in the world to let a child push a trolley supervised closely by an adult.

But then, as so many people seem to be of the opinion that a child having a tantrum is a result of poor parenting, can understand people thinking "Which will people most judge me for, letting my child push a trolley or them lying down in the aisle kicking and screaming?"

True ducktowater,i think id rather let him push the trolley than stress myself out,let him,stress out and inflict this episode on other shoppers.

I don't think a tantrum is a sign of poor parenting. Tantrums happen.

Plus may i add its not the worse parenting in the world to let a child push a trolley supervised closely by an adult.

It's is when that results in an 8 month pregnant woman been bashed and nearly falling. I bet that mother thought she was closely supervising too. As it did to me. Ony saving grace was I caught myself.

But its bad to let a child push a trolley to stop one in a busy place?

Well yeah it is if it results in that?and if it doesnt...it isnt

Sorry your question doesn't make sense to me. Please old you clarify. After what happened to me. I do think that it should be stopped by the supermarkets.

And its still not the worst parenting,she made an error,people make errors

Yes its a bad thing IF it results in harm,im not disputing that.

What if that error had resulted in me falling and hurting my unborn baby. Like the example we had earlier about the woman that had a mc and lost her baby as a result? I would rather that risk wasn't taken. And who would be liable if I did hurt myself or my baby was hurt? You as the parent or the supermarket?

It may seem trival but I guess it is for tose that it hasn't happened to.

Dya know what?i dont know how this woman was supervising tbh do i?when we let ds we are stood at the handle with him right at the side directing him so we are supervising him and we dont leave him stood alone with it so to me thats adequate,we can stop him at any point

Obviously thats not something id want to happen?

I dont think i need to worry about liabilty tbh as hes adequately supervised,he isnt running around in control he has guidance

Thinking about it, if that did happen. I would hold the parents and supermarket liable. I would take civil action against both if crimal charges were not available.

It's amazing how many people say it would never happen to me. I am sure the mothers child that bashed me thought the same. She probably thought she was in full control and supervising. Only takes a second!

Ok well nice talking to you

Just don't let your bloody kids push the bloody trolley. Enough examples on here to show it can be dangerous, and that other shoppers shouldn't have to rely on you jumping in front of your DC in time "flailing your arms" or whatever. And surely saying "no" when your child insists on doing something dangerous is an essential element of parenting?

Ill decide when i think its necessary and unecessary and if the situations is dangerous.I think im apt enough to decide whether my " bloody" kid can do something or cant,i can judge if its busy or not and am perfectly capable of managing my ds behaviour if i see fit.