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To think a judge should not be able to stop a mother from breast feeding?

373 replies

HolidayArmadillo · 09/11/2013 22:09

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If this is true I think this judge has been wholly out of order. What about this child's rights? And any father worth their salt would not demand this.

OP posts:
DoctorRobert · 10/11/2013 00:11

sorry, a 10 month old

basgetti · 10/11/2013 00:11

If someone posted that their DH was insisting on taking their ten month old breastfed baby away for 2 nights she would be advised to tell him where to go, and it isn't in the baby's interests. Why does it become acceptable to take a baby away from it's main carer and have breast feeding abruptly stopped just because the parents are separated?

Normalisavariantofcrazy · 10/11/2013 00:11

Also by 10months cows milk is in the diet on cereals and yoghurts.

By 12 months cows milk is 'allowed' by the guidelines to be their sole source of milk.

Normalisavariantofcrazy · 10/11/2013 00:12

I wouldn't tell them where to go.

That man is the babies father and has as much right to parent it as the mother does

DoctorRobert · 10/11/2013 00:13

a lot of ignorance on this thread. humans are biologically designed to feed for around 6 years. average weaning age world wide is 4. think about what age children lose milk teeth and why they're called milk teeth

and this baby is only ten months

Mylovelyboy · 10/11/2013 00:14

How can you say i am ignorant on the bf subject. I did bf. I found my ds easy to feed/latch on etc I just think some mothers just dont want to stop because its all about them. They make a big meal of it, it makes the mother feel needed. I know loads of mums that have bf. When they wanted to stop it was no big issue. Its how you deal with it.

Normalisavariantofcrazy · 10/11/2013 00:14

Global averages mean jack shit when you're mixing first and third world populations together.

Mylovelyboy · 10/11/2013 00:16

Normal what was that all about - global averages - third world Confused

DoctorRobert · 10/11/2013 00:16

if you think a baby needing night feeds at that age is abnormal, then you are ignorant on the subject I'm afraid.

basgetti · 10/11/2013 00:16

No one is saying the father doesn't have the right to parent his baby. But why does that need to include taking a baby away from it's main carer for 2 nights and enforcing a stop in breast feeding? The only person who should have rights is the baby, and if that means decisions that are more favourable to the mother at this stage in the child's life then so be it.

PinkPepper · 10/11/2013 00:17

Petty sure milk made for a human is going to be nutritionally better than milk from a cow, whichever country you're in.

Minifingers · 10/11/2013 00:17

Why the insistence that breastfeeding is somehow not normal healthy behaviour for toddlers? It is. It's only in bottle feeding cultures like the US and the UK where children this age (and much younger) are stopped from doing this - not for their benefit but for the convenience of adults.

Normalisavariantofcrazy · 10/11/2013 00:17

The needs of a child in the first world (ie Western developed nations) differ to those of a child in a third world country.

Our diet and hygiene levels are of a standard whereby extended breast feeding is no longer required to the same levels as in developing nations

Mylovelyboy · 10/11/2013 00:17

Oh ffs who feeds for 6 years and weans at 4. Load of old shit rubbish

Normalisavariantofcrazy · 10/11/2013 00:18

He's the child's parent though and also a primary carer.

Just because he has a penis and no breasts does not diminish his parenting role

Caitlin17 · 10/11/2013 00:18

Neund, are you one of these people who think everyone can breastfeed if they want to? As for emotional bonding I hated it so much it was affecting my bonding with my son.

basgetti · 10/11/2013 00:18

10 months isn't extended breastfeeding.

neunundneunzigluftballons · 10/11/2013 00:19

Normal can I ask you to forward your research on this matter to the WHO so they can update their advice

Mylovelyboy · 10/11/2013 00:19

Be realistic, would you want a toddler hanging off your breast.

neunundneunzigluftballons · 10/11/2013 00:21

Caitlin obviously I am not one of those people, who are those people, I wanted to bf my first 2 and couldn't does that have any bearing here though

Normalisavariantofcrazy · 10/11/2013 00:21

On a nutritional level it is and by 10months I would expect the child's main nutrition to be from solid food.

This is a bonding issue.

As such both parents have equal rights to bond with that child. No one parent over the other. THAT is in the child's best interests and That is why judges make those sorts of decisions based on impartiality.

If the child were under 6 months the decision may well have been very different

crunchybargalore · 10/11/2013 00:21

Wow that is just awful.

The o.oor kid not getting a night feed or a comfort feed.

I never expressed and I'd get really uncomfortable breast and my babies fed through theight for 2 years.

They never took bottles.

Tis was ok during the day but at night they would bf.

I do not think the judge has a clue!

PinkPepper · 10/11/2013 00:21

I do believe the father should be involved. I've no idea how it can be equal and be in the best interests of the baby. And it's obviously such a shame it's come to a horrible court case.

Mylovelyboy · 10/11/2013 00:22

Doctor why would a 20 month old need night feeding. Must be because its hungry. Or as I have said before uses the breast for comfort and nothing much else.

crunchybargalore · 10/11/2013 00:22

Mylovelyboy - suggest you get educated about bring before you throw around any other comments!